how did you handle it?

It sounds like you (you and your family) regret your decision, or aren't able to cope with your commitment.

I don't regret my decision, I am just struggling right now. I will work through this and just wanted some imput from fellow nursing students to find out what they did in the situation. I am a good student and feel I will be a wonderful nurse one day. Although I appreciate you taking the time to reply, I don't appreciate the negatism. I didn't post this to whine about my life. I thought that this website was for us to ask each other questions and try and help each other out. Next time remember the old saying, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!"

I definately feel your pain.... I am a stay-at-home mom of 3 and full-time nursing student. My kids are of school age - so I tend to "study on the run"... I bring my notes everywhere and study every spare chance... You spend a lot of time waiting around when you are a mom... lol... like: waiting for dismissal time and waiting for extracurricular activities to end. Sometimes, I would drop them off somewhere (like gymnastics) and go and study for the hour between the time they went in and when they got out. Today my son had a birthday party at an amusement park... I wrote all the meds I am studying (on my HAND) - so, I could go over them while he was on the rides - lol.

Seriously though... it is important that you speak with your husband and get it all out in the open. Noone ever said it was going to be easy - and I know that my professors tell the class: "you are ours" - meaning - forget everything for the next 14 weeks. Maybe your husband just needs to verbalize his feelings in order to move forward.

This is just temporary - and when it is over, things will be much easier for you and your family. Living on one income is very difficult these days and I feel the pinch every single day. But I have to keep my mind set on the goal. Now that I am in my second year - that goal is within reach... and it makes things a little easier.

You said you are feeling like a bad mother... more than likely you just aren't spending as much time with your child as you would like to. So, perhaps you can set aside a certain time of the day that is exclusive for the two of you. It can be reading a book at bedtime, or the nightly bath... Something for the two of you to enjoy every day. Taking a half hour a day off from studing may even benefit you. You'll feel better about spending time with your child, and your mind will be clear to concentrate when you open the books.

Good luck to you. I wish you and your family well.

This is so very common. It takes a long time (and might not ever happen the whole time your a student) to get into a new routine. Your hubby is just a bit shocked at his added responsibility not only money wise, but also with helping out around the house and with the babe. Mine responds the same way when I suggest I get a job to help out. He does nothing around the house and thankfully the kids can grab a snack and toilet themselves. I agree that you need to take one day a week and devote it just to family. I get up earlier and make sure I can throw something together for dinner. Its easier to grab fast food, but I have to be careful with just one income.

It will take time, but keep your eyes on the prize and let your man know that it will pass. When your on break, you can clean, cook, and do everything else. Until then, everyone has to pitch in. I was shocked to realize how long I can go without scrubbing my kitchen floors and nobody seemed to really notice. Seeing as I know, I bought a steamer and I have clean floors in less than 10 minutes. Good luck and please know that this is common. Good luck