Fmla Need Advice

Sabby_NC · Apr 21, 2008

did anybody filed for FMLA and end up getting fired? :bluecry1:i work in psch floor and although it is a violent and dangerous job need it to pay bills.:smokin:ANYBODY OUT THERE TAKING CARE OF ELDERLY FAMILY ( SOLE CARE GIVER ) AND ON LEAVE FROM FULL TIME JOB? how to cope and stay strong and tips on taking care of self?:banghead: it is hard to look around for full time job while in critical situation with dad....
i am currently on family leave bec my 78 Y.O.dad who has COLO RECTAL CA STAGE 2/ COPD / ILEUS/CHEMO /RADIATION LAST 4 MOS is so sick ...all skin and bones/ no teeth dentures unable to fit bec of painful stomatitis/ productive cough/ massive weight loss/needs help with feeding/walking/going to commode/ getting out of bed... etc...
he is total care of me and bed ridden and i am the only care giver with no other family support/resources...other family members out of state and dont care...he gets help with hospitalization etc but no public aid benefits ie LTC OR ASSISTED LIVING bec he is not a US CITIZEN and been in the country for only x3 years . he is a legal alien with green card.he just got discharged from hosp for severe neutropenia which was resolved after x10 bags of FFP. all his tests ie stool/ua/ chest xray/ct OF ABDOMEN/ RECTAL SCOPE came out okey and was told by doctor that " all this is because of the chemo and at this point there is nothing else we can do". he was treated aggressively with a bunch of antibiotics/ IV (dehydration) /TPN...
I FEEL SCARED OF LOSING JOB:cry:..i need to be strong for my dad but i dont trust my delusional nurse manager who makes her own rules everyday bec she has a thing with male nurses and comes up with different " stories" everyday...
ANY ADVICE AND THOUGHTS GREATLY APPRECIATED....its two thirty am and cant sleep:typing:typing:typing....thanks for all your kind help and listening ...needed to get this off my chest....:heartbeat:heartbeat:heartbeat

I pray that your father's health improves so you can relax a little there and with your job.

Many prayers going up for you all.

Hang in there.

justme1972 · Apr 21, 2008

Legally, they only have to protect your job for 120 days.

After that, they can terminate you for not returning to work.

120 days obviously doesn't cover every situation, but unforunately, that is how it works.

PS: I would dig a little deeper into finding resources to care for your father. I have read several places were people that are here legally, but not US Citizens, have alot of the access to healthcare, such as a nursing home, as US Citizens do.

TazziRN, RN · Apr 21, 2008

Make an appt with the hospital social services dept and see if there are any resources that can be utilized for your dad. My prayers go out to you and your family. FMLA only lasts for 12 weeks and that is the only length of time that your job is safe. Beyond that, most facilities will give you a little extra time, like a month or two, of unpaid leave and still hold your job, but they are not required to do so. Some places will give you even longer but will tell you your old position may not be available, that they can place you in another position. Best suggestion: if you're that worried about your job, contact your HR department and ask them.

SaderNurse05, BSN, RN · Apr 22, 2008

Does your employer have an EAP (Employee Assistance Program)? They can at the least provide couneling and stress management. Ours helped an employee find care long distance for her father as well. Our prayers are with you.

HM2VikingRN, RN · Apr 22, 2008

I would also contact your County Social Services office.......Some states have what are in effect waiver programs for those who are not covered by federal programs...