Can I pull it off? Live on own/work/school

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So about a year ago I moved back home so I can save money and continue to go to school. My home environment is completely dysfunctional. (long long story but in a nutshell my parents are recovering/active drug addicts)

I was previously living with my boyfriend in an apartment we couldn't afford anymore so we both moved back in with our parents.

I'm currently taking my last classes at a community college and have been accepted to a BSN program for the Fall.

I work part-time as an ER tech

I really feel like in my gut it is time to get the hell out of here for my own sake but I'm scared!

ofcourse money is an issue but I am sure I can pull it off because getting extra hours at work is not a problem. I'm just nervous because I'm going to have to take out loans in order to go to this BSN program... I completely support myself as it is.

My boyfriend is going to stay with his dad because he is starting school in the fall as well, and for him it just works better, and i dont blame him!

I guess I'm just looking for advice from people who have gone to nursing school and supported themselves. I know it can be done I'm just so nervous

I work nights at my job, I'm 24 years old, and I have a dog to take care of as well (people have asked if I really need to keep the dog... yes I do. She's like my child and has been threw alot)

I know getting out of this situation will be the best thing I could do for myself emotional and apparently physically because I have been haveing some serious bouts of stress induced hives that I had to go to the ER for once already

help :-(

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You have an aunt? Cousin? Sibling? SOmeone you could bunk n with for cheap?

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Nope... my parents are the only family I have around here the rest of my family lives out of state...

I know I will be able to pull it off but adding nursing school into the mix throws me off. I know my job can be very accomadating. They will let me work every weekend so I can do my school stuff during the week....

I think I'm letting my nerves get the best of me. I don't want to have to come running back to my parents again and have them throw it my face....AGAIN

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Nope... my parents are the only family I have around here the rest of my family lives out of state...

I know I will be able to pull it off but adding nursing school into the mix throws me off. I know my job can be very accomadating. They will let me work every weekend so I can do my school stuff during the week....

I think I'm letting my nerves get the best of me. I don't want to have to come running back to my parents again and have them throw it my face....AGAIN

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can you look on sites like craigslist and find a roomate? I will be starting nursing school as well in the fall and will be living with my boyfriend. Not only does it help financially, but it helps to have someone there for you emotionally. I think if you find a roomate it will take a big load off of your shoulders. best of luck to you!

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Specializes in MPH Student Fall/14, Emergency, Research.

I've done it for 7 years of university, have very good grades, and significant but not unmanageable student loans. Chances are, you'll find a likely roommate in nursing school, and a classmate is often the best choice because he or she will know exactly what you're going through. Best of luck :)

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I'm not clear about if you will be living with your parents or not.

If you are, you won't be seeing them much between your schooling and work and studying. I know I didn't see my folks that much, but living at home made it possible for me to use the money from my job to pay for all the tuition, books, car insurance, health insurance and other living expenses.

My sister went to school, worked full time on weekends as a tech in the State psych hospital at night and had her own apartment. She wore scrubs seven days a week and had no free time, but she graduated and has a fine job now.

Best of luck whatever you choose.

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I'm not clear about if you will be living with your parents or not.

If you are, you won't be seeing them much between your schooling and work and studying. I know I didn't see my folks that much, but living at home made it possible for me to use the money from my job to pay for all the tuition, books, car insurance, health insurance and other living expenses.

My sister went to school, worked full time on weekends as a tech in the State psych hospital at night and had her own apartment. She wore scrubs seven days a week and had no free time, but she graduated and has a fine job now.

Best of luck whatever you choose.

I live with my parents now which is the problem. Not a good environment. I'm expecting not to have any free time, any I rather that that have to deal with what i am currently dealing with at home.

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You can do it! And you don't even have a kid to take care of along with all that. Just make sure you have a good friend who will kick your butt if you don't study!!

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You can do it! Our histories are nearly exact - I'm a bit older than you and have been on my own for a while now but when I made the decision to go to nursing school I considered moving back in w/ my parents who are also recov/active depending on the direction of the wind. -- I realized that this was never going to be an option because above all else my mental sanity and my personal safety are paramount - and I can imagine your wanting to get out of there is due to the same reasons. --

Anyone who has been through things that children of addicts have been through and still managed to not take that path is strong enough to do whatever they set their minds to. --- You can work, take care of your pet (this may require a walker or something, though. or a wee-wee pad? cause your time out of the house will be significant. I have a cat and I feel bad about how often I am away from him... and cats don't even like company haha) -- and attend classes. A few things you will need to consider are that your social time will be dramatically reduced. --- Boyfriend time, too. You will need to focus the bulk of your attention on your studies and coming in at a close 2nd will be making the bills. ---

I do it now. Is it easy? No definitely not - but certainly worth it for the independence that it will bring upon completion. And my schooling is 100% loan funded. It is a hefty debt you'll be picking up but it will pay for itself over and over as you become an independent woman who doesn't have to turn back to an unhealthy environment against her wishes. -- Sending you hugs through the interwebs as I know more than anyone exactly what you're feeling about the environment you're in. --

Get the hell out of there; it'll be the best thing you ever did for yourself, I promise you.

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