Toxic,bully manager

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We have a new very toxic bullying manager and I am at a total loss what to do. She changes routines that work and feels it is appropriate to make people "move out of their comfort zone", which I have always felt should be a personal choice. She openly lies to the staff, and has the full support of her upper manager who is 2 circuits short of being a zombie.Anyone ever experience this? How do I deal with the unmitigated hatred I feel for her. I am a Christian and am distressed at my reaction.I love my job, and fortunately do not have to interact with her often, but her decisions directly impact my job.

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1 hour ago, jmtndl said:

She changes routines that work and feels it is appropriate to make people "move out of their comfort zone", which I have always felt should be a personal choice.

We all do need to move out of our comfort zones, because the world just doesn't stay the same for days and years upon end.

Regardless how you feel about it, make no mistake that this sort of thing was an intended part of her hire.

1 hour ago, jmtndl said:

She openly lies to the staff

[Unnecessary ranting and psychologizing erased].

I strongly recommend you do not devote any energy to asking why. Also that you make your exit plan and begin executing it immediately.

Don't go down the road of hating people. Get proactive and stay positive and in the face of negativity, do something positive. Like save yourself and be happy that you were smart enough to do so. ???

Best of luck~

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Specializes in ER.

Definitely start checking job boards and talking to contacts regarding obtaining employment elsewhere.

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If this was, for example, a personal relationship, asking why gets you nowhere in a toxic situation. The real question is, is this acceptable to you?

You do have the power to get away. What is keeping you stuck in a poorly managed place? Why stick around if you feel unmitigated hatred? If you feel that strongly, it is probably taking a toll on your physical and mental health. Plan your escape ASAP.

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