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I really don't mean to give you a hard time but I would think that this decision would be easy. You already stated that you barely know the people involved so why jeopardize your new job? If it were me, I would wait for the schedule to come out. If you are off that day, then by all means go to the wedding. If not, then go to work!! I think it would look really bad for you to start asking for time off already!

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I would tell your NM right away that you need that day off. Once the schedule is made, people don't like to change it. if you let them know before hand, i think that would be better.

As soon as possible, I would speak to the NM, in person, and say, "This career is my priority, first and foremost. That being said, a friend is getting married on such and such a date and I'd really like to be there. If it's possible to schedule me around that date, I would really be grateful; however if my request can't be accomodated, I understand completely and I will be here fully on that day." Or something to that effect.

Your NM will probably appreciate your being up front about it (some people might just call in "sick" rather than be truthful), and as was previously mentioned, it's a lot easier to schedule you off that day since you are supernumerary. Giving as much notice helps too, and the wedding is almost a month away. Most NMs are in fact, real people and they understand things like this. I think most NMs would be able to accomodate your request.

And if she doesn't, then you come in on that day and be as cheerful as ever- let her know you are a woman of your word. It will carry you a long way.

Hope it works out for you!

Talk to the NM. I just started orientation and they have been more than accommodating for us. They didn't have a set schedule for us until last week and they didn't expect us to have our lives completely on hold. If they can work around the wedding they will and if not they won't.

Thank you everyone for responding! :thankya:

I think I'm just going to wait for my first day of orientation to find out my schedule. My job requires me to work every 3rd weekend so I'm just going to cross my fingers and hope it's not the weekend of the wedding. If by chance it is, I'll try and feel my manager out and if I feel comfortable then I'll ask for the time off. I'll let you know how it goes!