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No. You did everything necessary. His infringement didn't have any real negative consequences; so I would just drop it. If you ever run into him again, you might have the opportunity to teach him something. A statement such as, "I was offended by your behavior," might prompt a beneficial conversation. He might realize it was a terrible way to treat good help. If he doesn't apologize, don't let it bother you. People like that are usually nursing their own personal problems and need a life overhaul. Pray for him.

It sounds like you are gaining some satisfaction and you have resources and support. Every job will have some things you don't like. Don't be hasty; but don't avoid deciding. Decide so you can put your heart and mind at ease. When I have to make a difficult decision, I use the "Ben Franklin Cross. I draw a vertical line down the middle of a page; draw a horizontal line across the top so that there are 2 headings. Make one heading "Likes" and the other "Dislikes." List all the things you like and all the things you dislike--every little detail. Now take an honest look and decide what is your best decision. The weight decides for you--not necessarily by the number of items, but rather by the importance of them God bless, you'll make the right decision.

I am sorry you are going through this experience. I have been there; so I know what you're talking about. Many times if the managers would simply communicate honestly with staff, and allow staff to come to them with suggestions, then make some of the changes suggested, the environment would be immensely more tolerable. I suggest that while you are conducting a job search for your next position, you allow yourself to vent as needed. This forum seems to be a great place to honestly share your heart. Get all the emotional disappointment and anger handled before any of your upcoming interviews. The most you want to say is that your previous job didn't meet your needs, or something very general. ALSO, do your due diligence before accepting a new job, research them on the internet, look at their survey results, talk to people who work there. During your interviews ask specific questions about the areas that you mentioned above, ie. "how do you handle," or "what do you do in the case of, etc." I love nursing and really hate it when one of us is so disillusioned and hurt. I pray you find a place that deserves and appreciates a caring nurse like you. Please get out of this terrible situation before you lose that ability to cry for and with your patients. People need tender-hearted people like you when they are sick and vulnerable.

I agree with all the above. No point in suffering there. But I do have a few questions. Have you expressed your discomfort to the manager? How was it during your orientation? Do you have a buddy? I wouldn't leave without finding out whether anyone can help make it better. What made you decide to work in ED? If you are a person who craves the personal touch and getting to talk with people, the ED is probably not a good choice for you. I learned that about myself early on. I can't stand not getting to know the person at least a little bit. The fast-paced environments made me anxious. I ended up spending most of my career in LTC in some type of supervisory position-DON, ADON, Educator, charge nurse, etc. That was an interesting outcome because during the nursing home rotation in school, I swore I never wanted to even visit a nursing home again. I ended up liking that better than acute care settings. There are some specific factors that are common to all EDs, if you like those things, look for one without the negatives in the environment where you are now.

Sounds like you found your niche! God bless you in it. I am so gratified when a nurse knows her passion and gets to do work she loves. It really is the greatest profession on earth and I am saddened when I hear about burnout and dissatisfaction on the job. After all, some degree of altruism inspired us to choose this field. Nursing as a whole loses when one of us becomes disillusioned and either changes profession or begins to function with little to no passion. You will continue to be an inspiration to those around you and a helper to the clients. They both need nurses with your heart!

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I have worked in sizes from 21 beds to over 400. I Liked the 125 bed ones ok. My absolute favorite as a DON was the 42 bed one. I was able to build a personal relationship with every employee in all departments, every resident, and family members who visited often. The NHA let me run the nursing department the way that was best for all staff and residents. All the variables worked together positively for a dream job! So sad when I moved away..

Totally agree. I always say everything about qualities starts and ends with the DON's leadership! So many of them become DON's with little notice and no preparation . That's what happened to me. The Don hired me as the infection control nurse and on my third day told me she had resigned. After 2 weeks she was gone and I became the interim DON. Interim turned into permanent because the NHA liked my leadership and didn't want to hire anyone else. The reason I survived is because I had taken leadership (one class) in BSN school. I had just graduated from a Christian leadership program to lead churches. That saved me!

I agree that the people are the most important part of the job. When back-biting and gossiping is prevalent; and the boss doesn't stand behind you it makes for a difficult experience. I worked as a pool nurse once and one of the other pool nurses got so jealous because she actually lost overtime hours. She started spreading rumors and even yelled out in a group, "you can't just come here and start getting all those hours! Those are my hours!" Behind my back she tried to sabotage my work. It was awful. One of the things I tell any new nurse is don't talk to anyone too much. Words get twisted. Do a good job and be nice and helpful to everyone.

I have worked in Nursing homes for most of my career. I have had some really good workplaces and some that were less than desirable. When I think about the ones I liked I come up with a short list of characteristics--lots of teamwork, adequate staffing most of the time, nurses spent time together even after work sometimes, rewards to staff when we did well on state survey, a boss who showed no favoritism, supplies adequate, and a few other things. The list of what I hated about the bad ones is too long to enumerate. I have a friend who is job-hunting and I'm thinking of these things. What did you like about your favorite jobs?

Addictions nursing is a specialty with its unique rewards and challenges. Do you have a propensity for helping substance abusers? Do you empathize with and understand people with the problems that lead to addiction, or the problems that occur in their lives as a result of addiction? Unlike the nurse who is simply working there and following what she is expected to perform, you are the boss. Staff and clients will be relying on you to compassionately enforce and update the policies as well as oversee quality, safety, and administration of deliverables as promised. If this sounds enjoyable to you, GO for it!

I would ask the instructor whether he/she has heard of quizlet. He/she should be aware that this resource is available, and may know about it already. You are agonizing over something that may have little importance. The most important issue right now is for you to get some peace about this and move on. I would at least ask the question and let her/him take it from there. if you give too much information, you may be asked to report something that you'll regret later. Unless, it has been specifically warned against , I would not consider myself reporting on my classmates if I don't give names and other details.

I understand the commute problem. It saves so much time and energy when the campus is close. Can you change any of the things you dislike? For instance, can you transfer to the community college and use those credits toward your degree? (I say it that way because some nursing schools don't accept community college credits in prereqs). If not, then I suggest finding a good study group or partner and make studying enjoyable. One thing that helped me a lot is reading ahead of the lectures, so I could ask questions to clarify certain points. Another thing I did was record all my lectures. It was amazing the things I didn't catch while listening and furiously taking notes. I would listen to the recording and fill in my notes. Wow! An "A" in writing is a HUGE deal!! I hope you celebrated!!!

CLVRN,BSN,RN did you have a degree is some other field before you started this nursing journey? That's incredible that you have a BSN in 2.5 years. OR did you take heavy, heavy course loads each semester?

Hello. I think you can have a career that is very fulfilling if you have the aptitude for caring for sick people. With that said, can you tell me what is making you dislike your decision? Is it the course content? What courses are you taking? Are you uninterested in it? Or is it difficult to understand? If you dislike science courses, you won't like nursing curricula. If it is math, you can get help to make it through the few classes; if it is writing you don't like, again, nursing requires lots of reading and writing. Tell me more about what you are experiencing; maybe I can help. I have a few nursing degrees.