Anjann

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I'd like to know from the more experienced folks out there: What can be done to minimize the damage that occurs as a result of a mobbing termination? How do you protect your ability to get another job if the mob won't give you a good (or any) reference? I have one friend who is a nurse that I could use, but she isn't even at the same hospital. And what do you do if the new jobs wants to call the previous employer that mobbed you? Does that mobber end up burning you so you can't get the job, or do they typically say as little as necessary? Thanks! Anjann

I think you hit that nail right on the head. It's definitely a respect issue many times...

Get OUT Now! mobbing and bullying is just the darker side of human nature. This happened to me last week, only now I know it is a TRUE phenomenon and not the figment of my imagination I've been tormenting myself with. Anyone that has been following my story knows that I found out in July that my husband and I were expecting. I had a devastating ectopic pregnancy and salpingectomy at the end of August, and surgery with and by the people I work with, an emotional mess in front of all of my co-workers, I was gone 6 weeks, came back to work. I very naively chose to believe that as a supervised preceptee; quietly trying to do the right job with honor and courtesy would always be enough, but if people decide you're weak or unacceptable somehow, you're out. please leave so you don't have to explain why you were terminated. It's their problem not yours. The behavior will always be there, just take the higher road and find a place that you fit in!

Let me clarify.... In order to be an OFFICER in the navy a nurse must be a BSN.

No BA's in other fields do not count. It must be a BSN.

This one!

LOL! Nice you tube clip...:rotfl: Emmanuel, you crack me up! Thanks for the laugh, I needed it!

I work as a new grad in a small community non-trauma ER, and we don't even have an 8:1 ratio. Not even for the uncomplicated Fast Track patients. We try to keep it at 4:1, and I still working up to that! If it were me, I would not be comfortable with that ratio just on the basis that as a new grad it's hard enough learning time management and prioritizing with a smaller number of patients. You could face the possibility of being totally overwhelmed and that is never good for a new grad. Could you ask to speak to other new grads working there now and ask them what their experience is? Just a thought...

Geezy Peezy! How embarrassing! :trout: Strike one for attention to detail!

Honestly, from what I am reading it sounds to me like you are paralyed by your lack of confidence in yourself. This will get you everytime, even if you do graduate. You have to teach yourself how to get through these situations. First, I would go to the lab and repeat your weekly skill until you know it so well that the instructor CAN'T flunk you. practice it alone if that makes you feel better, or practice it with someone you run across in the lab. While you are doing your skill, you have to push everything else out of your mind and try to ignore the instructor's presence if it intimidates you to the point of doing your skill incorrectly. At clinicals, the more you work yourself up, the more nervous and paralyzed you will become. You HAVE to tell yourself you can do it, and don't let the instructor intimidate you. They are looking for weaknesses and so you must show no fear, even if you are terrified. Nursing school can make or break the best of us. Stop being so hard on yourself. It is an honor to be invited into a nursing program, and they would not have chose you if they could have given the spot to someone else they thought would do better. give yourself the credit you deserve for even getting in. I used to always tell myself it was an honor to be in NS, and if THEY believed in me, then I should too. It sounds like you are worrying so much about how to study, that you are NOT studying at all. I found it was better to know very well the material that I had time to get through, than to try to cover every single page and not absorb anything at all. For most of us, there is simply not enough time to cover EVERYTHING, so you must try to guess what the teacher will think is most important to know. They tend to give you clues in lecture. If they have SAID it, you better KNOW it. I went out and bought a cooking timer with a bell and set if for 15 minutes. I would dedicate 15 minutes to each subject and then take a timed 15 minute break. This helped me feel like I was covering more area's. Highlight what you are reading, that tends to help info "sink in". If you are allowed, I would suggest recording the lectures and taking notes again at home. You could use the language difficulty as a good argument for being allowed to record. Use the textbooks as a supplement to what is actually said and notes in class, and get into a study group. Talking about the info and venting with each other will help alot. Would using an English language course at home help you with your accent in a quiet space where you won't feel intimidated? Finally: breathe! take one step at a time...stop worrying so much and break it into small, manageable pieces.

Please Private Message me with any questions! I will say this much... It's good that you are excited, and you should be prepared to work extremely hard. Let me know how your orientations goes!

I am alumni! :monkeydance:

I agree with Diana and Captain Tripps... you might want to R/O pregnancy just in case, for that is what ended up being my story....:monkeydance:

see my post from a few weeks ago! Don't sweat it! The SAME thing happened to me a month ago and I was horrified! You have to let it go and move on with your training. It does not mean you aren't or can't be good at what you do.... That is what I have spent the last few weeks figuring out as a new RN in the ER after my embarrassing fallout! Just don't beat yourself up or let other people make you feel like you don't belong there. Only YOU know that. :)