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She yelled at me a lot. I am not worried about her I am worried about performing my job to the best of my ability.

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I am so afraid of my new job. I haven't felt like this since I was a new grad. I was hired in LTC as the top nursing management person (in case anyone from there reads this). The problem is, is that the current top nursing management person (leaving) didn't want to train me. She just showed me forms and told me what they were but didn't showed me what it took to fill them out or when they were due. She accused me of doing things that I wasn't capable of doing because I was new and wouldn't know how to do them anyway. I want to do a good job and I have informed my company of the barriers that were being presented to me. I wanted them to be aware that I am not incompetent, I was facing the challenge of dealing with someone who wouldn't train me. I feel overwhelmed right now. I made notes of everything she DID tell me. I am not afraid of challenges I am good at working my way through issues. I am just hoping that management will give me a chance to learn, and an opportunity to prove myself. Has anyone else ever faced this kind of situation, where the person who was supposed to orient you failed to do so? I guess I would feel better knowing I am not unique in this type of situation. lol.

Hello Everyone, I am a new DON in a 50 bed facility. The former DON was supposed to orient me but she has gone MIA, and hasn't been there any days since I started. What am I supposed to be doing? I don't have any dates of anything so I have begun compiling a list can you guys let me know what I should know about these things on the list? Chart Audits-who? Is there a tool that is used. Are their guidelines when it needs to be done? Dietary consultations (Weekly & monthly weights) Fall/risk management program Medicare management program Infection Control Pharmacy consults - gradual dosage reductions Admission order reviews daily order change reviews change of condition/daily report reviews MDS systems employee hiring employee evaluations employee inservicing/compentencies Pressure ulcers Restraints - if you have any PPD's, Flu and Pneumo vaccines wheelchairs, IV and enteral pump and POLES cleanliness I have been reviewing 24hour reports and incident reports daily so I can be aware of what's going on. Thank-you all soooo much.

I add 1/4 cup ammonia to my scrubs to disinfect then in addition to my laundry detergent

To instruct STNA'S.

I live in Akron, Ohio. Does anyone know of a Train the Trainer course in our area for LPNS. THANKS IN ADVANCE.

I have fibro and arthritis also (rheumatoid, and osteo). I work PRN in a nursing home and I do homecare. Homecare has been easier on me because it's one patieny and not a group of patients. I recently just completed my RN because as an LPN I had less options with working in relation to my health issues. Nursing is a diverse field with many avenues. The good thing is if you notice one avenue is causing you many problems you can choose another avenue. Good luck, I think you will be fine in the profession.

I went to Sherri's workshop (Atlanta) and it wasn't a seat open in the workshop, because of the number of students. You really couldn't practice the areas that excelsior tests you on. Sherri was also taping her online videos when we were there so you couldn't interrupt to ask questions. Because of the amount of students there you couldn't really get one on one help too much. People rave on it, and she is a really nice person, but for the expense I didn't get as much as I really wanted to out of the experience. People give her a lot of credit, but I think if you apply yourself there are enough resources online to figure it out yourself. That is what I ended up doing.

missfreda, MostlySunnyRN, After posting my problem I have decided to leave. Believe it or not I feel like a weight is being lifted. I have faith that things will work out some kind of way. Usually when people turn in their resignation attempts are made to find out why they are leaving, and if anything can be done to alleviate their issue. No one has even acknowledged that I turned in my resignation. I cannot dwell on it, because this issue is too far gone to resolve. I will decide my next steps after my notice is worked out. I haven't mentioned to anyone that I am leaving. Thank-you guys for your advice it has meant a lot and helped me tremendously. All things happen for a reason and I have learned many lessons, the biggest one is that when you faced with adversity not to run, but to handle the situation on your own terms. Nurses face a lot in their jobs on a daily basis, but to demean each other and bully each other adds another dimension to an already stress filled career choice (and yes it is very rewarding). I hope through this thread it will make us all think twice about how we interact and treat our peers, and encourage positive interactions. Thank-you guys!!!!!!!.

fawnmarie RN, When my boss called me that name it totally changed my respect for her. It also hurt my feelings and it closed the door on any thought that I may have had in coming to her with any issue that I may have. I look at her differently now, and it makes me really sad, because there isn't a neutral party available to help me resolve any of the issues that I am encountering.

I have been accused of picking on people, lying on them etc;. Whenever I have had to discipline someone I have had to include witness statements to prove that I was in the right. The sad thing is when I have had to enforce policies and patient care requests people will go over my head and complain. I then have to go into a conference with my boss and explain the rationale behind my request. None of my peers have to go through this. it is almost useless to attempt to do my job because if I enforce my job the way I am supposed to I am being accused of picking on people, but if I don't do my job I get disciplined for not being a supervisor.

ICURN7, That is exactly the situation that I am encountering. I have had them team up and relay an innocent observation about a patient and turn it into a negative comment involving a peer and their interaction with a patient. This person became pissed and confronted me. The sad thing is that I have had many conversations with this person, laughed and joked with them, and I thought they were beginning to know me. The person that confronted me found out that I never did what they thought and the sad thing is, is that they never apologized or acknowledged that they were wrong and that the way they began treating me because of this situation may have been wrong. It hurt me, but it also let me know what I am facing and I had no choice but to be honest with myself.

mhusen5, I have been a nurse beyond 15 years (I can't give the exact number because it will identify me) and I have encountered many situations, but nothing to this magnitude. I treat others as I would want to be treated, and after going through this it makes you even more mindful of how you are treating others. I miss the camaraderie that you develop with your peers. It is very hurtful to me to know that the people that I thought I was developing a positive work relationship with were the same people that are undermining me behind my back. It is difficult when there is no one that you can trust.

Thank-you for your comments. My boss hangs out with some of my peers on the weekends. My peers have followed my boss from their previous job. Because they are friends what they say is the gospel whether it is true or not. There isn't any confidentiality because my peers know everyone's private business. I am currently looking for a new job. I have decided to handle this situation when I leave the company to eliminate any further issues that I could encounter while being employed for this company.

I have stood up for myself, and it just feeds into their theory that I am angry and mean. I smile all of the time and I offer my help constantly. it is often overshadowed by the rumors and false stories.

The problem is your supposed to go through the chain of command, if my DON stoops to their level there is no one to go to, and because they are all friends it's my word against theirs .

Guys thank you so much. It is nice if nothing else but to have started a dialogue about this. Esme12 I am going to take this as a learning experience, I think God exposes us to things for us to be of service with it later. All things happen for a reason. I am hurt to the core though, no lie, it's lonely going to work and not being able to talk to anyone because you don't know who you can trust. I shared this experience because it's a lesson on being culturally aware beyond our patients and being sensitive to each other, even beyond being nurses. I love the responses they give me hope, I thought my perception of this experience was off...Now I know I am not so wrong in my feelings or this situation. I have spent the last 2 years in school I am so distracted the last thing on my brain is retaining the info for boards... I WILL SURVIVE....although I can understand why people go postal now..lol

Thank you. When I go to work, I keep my family in mind. I posted this because I needed to share and also I wanted to say, that we all have a story and a journey. This is something that hurts me to my core, but I will never let my peers know this. Nurses are great people, but we all may have had our moments at one time or another that we may have said something negative about one of our peers. Many of our peers that hear these comments repeat them. You never know how these things after they are repeated will make someone feel. It would be nice if in addition to being great in our jobs, we would be kinder to each other. Take a moment to think if I were in so and so's shoes would I be hurt by the comments that I want to say. I personally will not allow myself to become angry or resentful about this situation because it takes up time and space in my life, this is another learning experience for me. I am also glad that I don't have the character of these individuals. I can forgive but forgetting is another ballgame.

I am not rude, I treat everyone with respect. I was raised to treat others as I would want to be treated. I don't want to run, but I know that I cannot stay. I worry that they will turn the heat up if I turn in a notice and try to work it out or should I just leave and explain why I am leaving. I am trying to teach my children not to run away from their problems, but this is beyond stupid and petty. I need to focus on other things (like school). I know we all experience some stress as nurses, but to have additional stress placed on you beyond the scope of your job is plain stupid.

I just finished EC RN program I need to pay for the CPNE and I have two children in college. Their father is deceased. I would love to laugh and talk to people but I have to isolate myself because I don't want to offend anyone. I think maybe God is taking me through this for a reason, I definitely will be more sympathetic to how I and others treat my peers in the future. I feel sad. My children told me to quit and tell unemployment what's going on, the sad thing is I don't want to hurt a particular nurse. I honestly don't think she knows she is being offensive and embarrassing me, as for some of my other coworkers I know they don't care.

I know, I have been making sure that I leave on time, trying to avoid management conversations about what's going on. My family doesn't want me to go back because I am so stressed. I am worried that they may get together and blame something on me and I will not be able to defend myself because they come together against me. I am afraid every day that I go in because I don't know what else is going to happen. If I had a dollar for every time I heard that I am not prejudiced because_______.(fill in the blank it's a variety for sure). I was frustrated one day after a bad day and trying to complete my paperwork my supervisor called me an a**hole, so I apologized to her, because I wasn't trying to be offensive.

I need advice from you guys. I am working as a charge nurse/supervisor in a LTC facility. The dilemma is that I am the only African American Nurse on staff. I have had several staff members volunteer to me that they are not prejudiced because a black family moved into their neighborhood when they were teenagers or that they went to school with a black person, and they turned out to be really nice people. When I make a comment about something that happens there is one particular staff member (my peer) that will say "You know that happened because your black" and laugh. They have made this comment around a room full of people at times, and it is embarrassing. The other issue is that they are taking things that I say and reporting to my other peers that I was angry when I wasn't, and include comments that I may have made but attach it to the fact that I was supposedly angry to change the message. I recently was confronted about being angry about something that was passed on to me, when in reality I was speaking to one of the only nurses that I could talk to and the conversation was about, how I could present help to someone with the knowledge that I have to help them understand a skill that they are unfamiliar with. I am a very friendly outgoing person, but I have been keeping to myself to avoid the drama, yet I still get put into the drama. I need this job to pay bills, and I am looking for another job. I need ideas and some options, I don't want to make my family suffer financially: yet this environment is making me nervous. I don't say anything negative about anyone, and I don't add to the gossip; especially since I know my comments will be distorted. I recently just finished school and I need money to pay for expenses related to that. Any advice guys?

Beyond anything anybody else could say THANKS...Someone told me yesterday that I have to begin to function in my new normal. I went to a job placement program that they have in my city based upon my diagnosis PTSD, Depression, anxiety, insominia. I more than qualify, so I hope it all works out.

This is for any nurse that has been fired or made an error. I lost my job recently and found out after I lost my job that I have PTSD/Depression/Anxiety/Insomnia. (My nephew stabbed my brother 9 times in my home 2 hours after burying my mom, I had four teeth knocked out when I intervened. My brother and I both survived this attack).I took time off to address my issues. It was a traumatic experience. I am now ready to go back to work, but I am having difficulty getting a job. If you have had any adverse issues as a nurse, how do you go about getting someone to give you a chance to prove yourself. After a bone breaks when it heals it becomes stronger, I was like the broken bone I healed and I feel stronger now. The problem is getting someone to give me a chance. I am also in school for my RN I am done in August.