jmay2013

It sounds like you are trying come up with any possible excuse for this person's inexcusable behavior. Keep hanging with him, and you will be in the same boat he is. Just sayin'.

I am a nursing student as well, just coming up on three years in recovery from alcohol. When I hit my bottom I lost my job, my car, was in and out of four treatment facilities, almost lost my house and my SON. Since then, I lost another job, been in a car accident, gone through a bad breakup, etc. etc. but I have also started and almost finished nursing school, had a beautiful baby girl, live in a nice home, have a decent car to drive, have good SOBER friends. I have truly been blessed. All in all, I am very fortunate. There are a few things my sponsor told me that I have thought of any time I've had a passing thought that I might drink. 1. There is nothing going on in your life that is so bad that taking a drink (or using) couldn't make worse. 2. Before you take a drink, take your career, kids, car, home and everything you have worked for and set it out in front of you, because if you take that drink, you might as well say goodbye to all of them right now. 3. If you hang out in a barbershop long enough, you will end up getting a haircut. (hence, I don't go to bars or hang with people while they are drinking. period.) Hope some of this helps as I believe it applies to any substance, not just alcohol.

next time your boss tells you that several people have said the same thing about you, ask for specific examples of what you are doing wrong and ideas on how to correct it. Be objective and stay oriented toward fixing the problem, not beating yourself up.I had this happen to me before, and I knew the so-called complaints against me were unfounded. Unfortunately, you have to learn to stand up for yourself in these situations. If you don't, who will?

My aunt has been a nurse for 30 years. One day, she shifted her weight just slightly wrong in her Dansko's and heard a sickening crack. Broke her foot and that was the end of her hospital career. She now has an office job. Something to think about.

I like the suggestion of getting a doctor's note because it sounds as though your health is being compromised. Other than that, ask yourself what your manager has to gain/lose by reassigning you? That is probably what it comes down to, her agenda. Would this be more work for her and she just doesn't want to deal with it? That would be my guess. I have been in this exact situation before and I ended up quitting rather than go insane. If it were me I would put your effort into getting the doctor note or move on!!!