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Maybe the student nurses that treat you as their "personal assistants" are the same ones who end up treating future student nurses "like crap".

The thing is I'm not sure that most people have "a thing" for each other after they've been married for a few years. As I stated in my case I wasn't even attracted to my wife when we dated (she was someone who would listen to my dribble and was sexually liberated). Of about twenty girlfriends in fact she would have been my last pick for a wife (she was a casual sex outlet). However, here we are eleven years later and I'm LUCKY to have her. In fact, I'm much MORE attracted to her now even though she is heavier (and I'm no longer a Greek "self absorbed" Adonis). Perhaps, it's because we've endured so much together, struggled together, laughed and cried toghether. Perhaps, also it's because every time I look at my beautiful sons face I am reminded that, but for her UNIQUE properties that he would not even EXIST. My wife is the greatest blessing of my life, and frankly I was ashamed to even introduce her to my friends when we dated (I've since lost the friends, but kept her).

Lacie you sound like a nice person, but you must understand one thing. As Chris Rock says "if your marriage ain't boring THEN you've got a problem". It humor, but like all great humor there is more than a grain of truth in the observation. Another, good Chris Rock line from Saturday's HBO special "guys the reason your wife always seems pissed at you is because you WEREN't her FIRST choice" (I guess you have to see it). It sounds like he really has done some things that have really bothered you (I can hear my wife's voice in your type). I've never cheated on my wife, but have done some really bone headed, inconsiderate things that have hurt our marriage over the years (at least we ARE having regular sex we went for a whole year where she wouldn't following a year where I wouldn't). I see now that we both used sex as a "passive aggressive" weapon at different points in the relationship. Here's a couple of thoughts that MIGHT help: 1. Seek counseling. Clearly this isn't working (he's probably not in bliss either) and to have the best chance of working this out your going to have to TALK about what's going on. Maybe it can be fixed and maybe not, but if you don't do anything it's probably not going to fix itself. I hope you guys make it. God Bless.

I can't get excited about the Caribbean, it's pretty but not really that exotic.

Sorry, I got carried away in my reply to Husband. I would really like to know more about why Lacie feels her marriage is over. Are there BIG issues like adultery, abuse ect or just a general feeling that there must be "something more or someone better suited" out there for her? If it's the latter I think that I've seen this reaction in the wives of almost every married man I've ever known at some point in their relationship (maybe men feel the same, but I think their thought processes are more orientated towards sex with other women in most cases). Sometimes the couples work through this and sometimes it ends in divorce even after many years. It's almost like an "instinctual" thing makes me wonder if it might not go back to our "roots" long ago.

Shouldn't nurses stick together no matter what specialty they choose? If most nurses supported one another then the health care establishment would have to listen.

teams? If so what countries (or territories since we would be interested in Guam, American Samoa ect) might have these sort of opportunities?

It seems like most of the travel talk about Hawaii involves NICU's and PICU's. Does this mean that opportunities for MICU, SICU work (travel or otherwise) is not available on Oahu (where we want to live). Also how many travel companies will consider husband and wife teams with a kid?

Okay, Husband maybe you are an atheist then. I find that many who think of themselves as atheists are really agnostic. After all how can any of us really KNOW that there is or isn't a God. Even if an angelic being of light appeared to us and posed for a picture how could we know that it was an angel and not some other phenomina such as PSI, aliens, or even home grown advanced technology? My main point was that in the final analysis believing in a God that always was, and always will be is beyond the grasp of sanity. So also is the belief that the Universe "exploded" into existence from a singularity (after all where did the singularity come from and if you say a previous universe that collasped upon itself I will ask where did THAT universe come from; and if you subscribe to the discreditied steady state theory I will ask how can something NOT have had a beginning?) In the end the only thing that we can be sure of is that we think therefore we exist, at least in some form. Since all of reality reduces the human mind to madness upon close examination, I say pick the madness which gives you the most comfort. After all someone IS correct. Even if we live in some sort of weird Hindu, Buddist multiverse where EVERYONE is correct (in other words our beliefs create reality) then that too is an objective reality. If the truth is not represented by ANY current beliefs then that is an objective reality in it's own right. I choose to believe in God, but I wouldn't presume to convince you to do the same. However, neither would I wish you to convince me that he doesn't exist since ultimately both viewpoints (a universe with an eternal God, and one that exists on its own without creation) are utter madness. You see now why my parents were asked not to let me return to Sunday school at my Lutherin church as a child.

No need for an apology BabyRN2Be. I was simply pointing out that even if the scenario had been "imagined or borrowed from a book" that it wouldn't diminish the validity of the topic. It's like all of those "learning scenarios" that we have to do in class. I'm sure that many if not most of them are not actual scenarios (although some probably are, and all happen someplace on almost a daily basis), they are still useful for learning. I just wish they gave us a few points for the reports we have to do in order to answer them!

How expensive is Cairns or Townsville and are there nursing jobs in that area? Living near the Barrier Reef would be awesome! Imagine being able to scuba every weekend in that kind of splendor. Of course sea wasps and sea snakes, not to mention Great Whites would be a bummer.

These associations started as "common sense" type things here to prevent property values from being depressed by people putting cars on blocks in their front yard, or painting their house polka dot. Gradually, they add ever more "common sense" rules to the point that almost no area of your life is untouched. Rules range to limiting the type of plants you may cultivate to putting a weight limt on the size of your dog, how long you may leave your garage door open or even the age of your spouse, or how often your grandchildren can visit (in those communities that are retirement orientated). What's more these rules are codified in CCR's which go with the land bascially as deed restrictions. With time there are fewer and fewer places to live that DON'T have these types of rules (not every home owners association is equally ridiculous, but most housing editions built in the last twenty years have them). It is doubtful that in a hundred years that you will be able to buy a home or condo NOT covered by these organizations. What's the point in having rights and freedoms if we have to give them up in order to find a place to live? It's true you could buy stand alone homes on their own lots, but these are getting very expensive in part due to land use rules that require a minimun of five or even ten or more acres to build. Even then you are subject to zoning regs. Where I live you can't burn trash, grill out with charcoal grills, have a fence over four feet (which my dog can leap in a single bound), have an above ground swimming pool, or any lawn decorations and I own my own lot not covered by an association, just zoning laws. I can however still fly a flag and would be honored to fly the colors of Austrialia, Canada the UK and our other allies. France would be pushing it, but any country that serves wine in their Mcdonalds can't be all bad.

Husband, are you really an atheist or just an agonostic? Depending upon the day that you ask me I'm either a Christian or an agnostic. However, I wouldn't presume to declaire that God (or Nirvana for that matter) doesn't exist anymore than I can completely convince myself that HE does (at least as traditionally believed). Here's how I look at the issue. Both the concept of the universe coming from absolutely nothing (as is believed by those who advocate the Big Bang theory) and the belief that it came from a God (who always was) are both completely INSANE. Since, I am faced with two impossible, insane scenarios I choose the one which I prefer. Perhaps, it's no more than a version of Pascal's wager.

Sounds like my relationship with my wife. In all honesty, I met her through a classified ad in a sleazy tabloid after being dumped by the love of my life. I was never even attracted to her looking only for cheap thrills to dull my pain (but how often does that stop men from having easy sex). In fact, it was only because I had the spine of a jellyfish that I didn't break up with her (I hate hurting peoples feelings especially to their face). Eleven years have passed (only three married) and we have a three year old son. I have come to realize that she is the most wonderful person on Earth ( of course "the rules" of being a man prevent me from even hinting this)! We have almost nothing in common except our love for our son and Stephen King books. My idea of a vacation is hiking, camping or star gazing hers is a nice hotel on the beach! I don't think I could face life without her, and I AM CERTAIN (enough said on that) that she has often felt the way that you describe here. Maybe love is a fairy tale for some people, but for us it's just love, and that's good enough, at least for me. I remember praying after that first girl left me (my dream girl) that if God would just send me someone who would love me no matter what that I would never leave them. Perhaps it was a coincidence, but my future wife called just minutes later. It's the best thing (besides my son, and of course HIS son) that God has ever done for me. I realize that this is not "how its supposed to be" it's not even how I would have chosen for things to be if I had planned my life out. Maybe that's why things don't always go as planned. If I was your husband and you were my wife this is what I might say: "When we first met, I could have cared less if you stayed or left, but you were 'taken' with me. It's almost ironic that now after all of these years that you should be so actively considering leaving me (in part because you realize how young and stupid you were in being obsessed with me), and I so distressed at the prospect. I will try to do better, but won't promise what we both know from experience that I probably can't deliver over the long term. Just know that I love you more than anything on Earth, but as you have said sometimes love isn't always enough. I've made my own bed and it's up to you to decide if I will have to lie in it."

I once attended a lecture by a woman who claimed to have traveled with a group of Aborigenies (I know that's not how it's spelled, but have no idea of the correct spelling) around most of the country. She described how they would let the flys enter their ears, nostrils, and every other body orifice in order to "clean" them out. Actually, maybe they didn't have any choice. I also read a book one time about a guy who walked accross the country from North to South (he had actually walked across most of the world and was just finishing up in Austrialia). He described spending time with gold prospectors around campfires, and in bars. It sounded like a good time although he too almost died. Has anyone ever walked around the outside perimeter of Austrialia? If not perhaps I could, keep a journal and then write a book about my experiences. Maybe I could even use my nursing skills to earn the occasional meal and shelter for the night. The only area that would really bother me is that place up North near Darwin where all the salties hang out. Come to think of it seems like there's a place down South near the Great Australian Bight where Tiger snakes can be found on the beach (if I am remembering correctly I saw Steve Irwin sprinting to grab one before it could get away on the beach down there). I don't like snakes since I was bitten by a cottonmouth that slithered into my sleeping bag while camping in Virginia. My hope is that they will stay away from me if I stay away from them. Isn't there a train which runs from Melbourn to Perth? Maybe, I could walk along the tracks?