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  1. lampard

    Feel excluded from classmates

    Hi I just wanted to say that I feel excluded by my classmates - particularly the people who are in my group. There is this one girl, who's stopped even making eye contact with me, and she won't talk to me at all. She doesn't even look at me. It's just she's treating me like a ghost :) IF she sees a funny picture on her facebook page, she'll show it to everyone else but exclude me from looking at it. I feel really annoyed, and obviously this girl doesn't like me for some reason. The other people in my group are friendly. But she's kind of like the queen bee of the group, so the others are kind of following suit. I think the biggest reason is that... the group is very ethnic-oriented. I don't know how to speak their language. I thought that they seemed to be pretty motivated with class work, that's why I made friends with them in the first place. I know that I didn't come to nursing school to make friends. And this feels really immature. But I don't know why this girl is ignoring me altogether. I missed one or two classes, and then after that she stopped even looking at me. Also, she got fairly good marks but I didn't on the next test, and she would totally ignore me after that. One thing that could be the reason is that:- I think I was a little selfish. Most of the people in my group like to exchange study notes and help each other out. Once she missed one class, and asked me what she had missed. I told her that she didn't miss anything important, and told her to look at stuff on blackboard. And then, the other student in the group told her that she missed something BIG, and then gave her notes to her. Anyway, obviously she doesn't like me, and the group seems to be favouring her side. So, I guess it's best to leave the group and sit somewhere else now? I really don't want to put up with this drama, because it's immature. I don't know what's up with her, but ignoring someone and disrespecting them is not nice is it?
  2. lampard

    Feel excluded from classmates

    Thanks for the comments. I think I should just focus on my studies. Thinking about this is too much of my energy and time. There will always be people that don't like you anyway.
  3. lampard

    Feel excluded from classmates

    I know a few acquaintances in classes. They seem to be way friendlier than the people that I sit with. I feel like they're excluding me from all conversations. (especially the girl that tries to play the 'queen bee')
  4. lampard

    Feel excluded from classmates

    Yes I think that's true. I just don't want rumours going around because if I suddenly sit somewhere else people will get suspicious.
  5. I was just wondering because my aunt is a nurse, and she got her degree in the 80s. She says that the first year is the hardest because the whole anatomy and physiology thing and nursing language is new when you start... My mum says that subsequent years get easier and the information just gets built on from what you know.. because you get used to the jargon etc... Is that true? Some people say that the work gets harder as you move up. I thought that 2nd year would be the hardest, because we have to do medical-surgical and squeeze in clinicals.
  6. When I'm on my period, I don't feel like I want to do anything.. I have to take 2 tylenol pills as soon I start my period otherwise I end up curling up in bed screaming in pain or either fainting.. The cramping goes away though if take the pills but I still usually don't want to be doing anything productive like studying or going to class.. I usually do force myself to go to class though, but I'm kinda get lazy when I have my period and tired too I know that this is going to be a problem during clinicals etc.. I know that I need to toughen up. Any suggestions guys? I didn't have that much of a problem in my previous job, because all I had to do was sit in front of a computer and do some administrative work but nursing involves shifts and lots of physical work. Do you guys take a day off when you are on your period? Or do you toughen up and do the work?
  7. lampard

    Is being in a clique bad?

    I guess I belong in a group and there are about 6 of us who sit near the back. But people seem to be always staring at us. Is it because we stand out? We are a very ethnic group... Do you think we might seem snobby to others? There are about 110 people in my class btw. We eat lunch together, chat about things related to school and not related to school :) We can get pretty chatty before class and right after class, but I don't see what problem there is but people keep staring at us during class.. and after class. Is it possibly because they want to be in our group etc? So far, our test averages are pretty high but we don't study together... all of us go home after class.
  8. lampard

    Is being in a clique bad?

    Well, thank you for that. But don't make assumptions based on what you know from other people's posts. No, it's not just me. Everyone in my class is very cliquey. I've got life experience, I've worked as a teacher in a poverty-stricken country before coming onto this programme. I honestly don't care about groups, but it just seems that everyone in the class is into this, so I'm just trying to fit into the system, because I don't want to be an outsider if you know what I mean. I don't know how it works in the US, but in my country, it seems that people like to keep to themselves. I'm not jealous of anybody in the class, I don't care what grade they get. But it seems that other students care too much about others, and always thinking of trying to beat them, how many people will drop out of the course etc.. I couldn't care less. I'm only there to do the best that I can.
  9. lampard

    Is being in a clique bad?

    I don't know, but during our breaks, people stare at us. This is the first semester by the way, so students are probably trying to work out which 'group' they should fit into... We don't talk but talk a lot during breaktime..
  10. lampard

    Is being in a clique bad?

    Yes, it is true. This is why I had no choice to but get into a clique before it was too late. I didn't want to be sitting by myself.. and also didn't want to miss out on vital tips for tests etc because half of the people in my group are A students, and they definately what what they're talking about.. But my class is highly multi-cultural btw.. we have indians, africans, caucasian, chinese, young mums, over 40s, filipinos ... and most of them sit together in their particular groups.
  11. There are students who are aged in their mid-40s in my class. They seem to be very academic.
  12. lampard

    Doing group work is annoying?

    We have to assess each other's performance too It's work 25% of the grade. I just hope that I contribute well enough to the group.
  13. OK, I've been assigned to a group of 4 people, and we have to write an essay together.. we need to do our own individual research on the topic, and then write about it.. I don't mind working in groups, but writing an essay TOGETHER is really hard... We all have different writing styles.. I don't know why the lecturer is making us to do this. This is my first semester btw. So maybe the lecturer is making us learn off others because some don't know how to write essays. I would work so much better if I had to write it on my own.. it would be less time-consuming and I would get the job done with no drama I don't mind doing group projects, but writing an essay together is hard.. don't you think? or am I being a little selfish here?
  14. lampard

    Is being in a clique bad?

    I thought that getting into cliques would be a good thing, especially when you are having trouble in clinicals.. and you want to talk about it with your friends etc... Also, I need to get into a clique with A-students because it motivates me to do the same.. And especially for A&P, when I don't understand something, I can always ask my friends, and then I can help them out too.. And we might miss out on things in class, and we can ask each other for help.. I don't think cliques are a bad thing, it makes you study smarter not harder I guess.
  15. lampard

    Is being in a clique bad?

    OK, but our whole class is generally "cliquey" and sit in the same spot and hang out with the same people everyday.. This is not the US btw... maybe the people in US are more friendly and talk to everyone outside of their clique. I didn't want to belong in a clique either, but everyone seems to be in a 'group' because it's such a huge class.. there are some people in twos though. and somebody was saying that cliques are the best way to "survive" nursing school... I'm sure this happens in medical school as well. My guess is that.. the people who stare at us probably want to join our clique. They probably think we look motivated and studious haha.. And also, I don't like talking to people outside of my clique, because I'll have to introduce myself again, and the same conversation starts with"what school did you go to?" "How old are you" etc.. and I don't like giving too much info about myself.. and don't feel that I have to know everybody in the class.. hope it didn't sound snobby though. Maybe I'm still immature.
  16. I was just wondering what 18-year olds would think of the older students who are in their mid 20s above. Do they think that they were lazy when they were at high school etc? Or do they respect them for their age etc? I know that the older students are generally on top of their game, and focus well on studies.. but 18 year olds do that too so I was wondering how they would perceive older students? I already have a degree at another university and worked for 2 years before coming into nursing, so I do have a bit more life experience and made some regretful decisions, but I wouldn't consider myself 'mature' either....
  17. OK, sorry guys:) Maybe the question was a bit off, most of my classmates are around the 19-21 year old mark... and was surprised to see how mature thy were, I mean the girl who was sitting next to me was born in 1995!! There are a few students aged in their late 30s to 40s though.
  18. Our lecturer started a facebook group for our class. I honestly don't like facebook because I'm a private person, and I don't like putting pics of myself on the internet and don't like people looking up my profile etc. I also find that it's going to be very distracting. I don't see any good in this, but my lecturer is pressuring us to join the group and ask questions & answer other students' questions... At the moment, I'm doing well in the course and I DON'T NEED help from facebookers, I know that they're probably going to ask stupid questions that you find on blackboard or the book. We have about 110 people in our class, and already 60 people have joined. Are they going to think that I'm weird if I don't have facebook? I'm sure the numbers will keep increasing as tests creep closer Also, I'm scared because my classmates could become my colleagues in the future, and I don't want to give too much info about myself. Once I join the facebook group, I'm sure people will start adding me. and they're probably think I'm weird if I refuse to add them... er.. any tips guys?
  19. lampard

    Do I have to join facebook?

    We do use blackboard but I don't know why the lecturer wants to use "facebook" for discussion. She did remind us to be 'professional' on facebook because employers check it.. lol and according to her, 2 students got kicked out of the course because they posted inappropriate pictures of themselves. It's scary and I don't want to mess up doing this stuff. I had facebook when I was 19, but I'm 26 now and I feel that it's a waste of time. I keep in touch with my high school friends via skype anyway.
  20. Ok, maybe the question should be reworded like this: Is this girl using me to teach her? I met this older student, she's 32 years old and she has like 2 kids to look after. I was originally friends with another girl, but this 32 year old woman decided to join our group. I only wanted to make 1 friend, instead of sticking to groups, because I have my own study schedule, work schedule, and life etc.. and I didn't want to get into this group pressure thing.. Anyway, this 32 year old woman asked me if I was heading to the library after class, and I said "yes" and she followed me. She then sat next me to in a group table, and then started asking me all these questions on A&P, and BASICALLY RELYING on me to teach her.. I ended up explaining to her all the concepts, and she did not contribute at all, basically she is LAZY to do the READINGS on her her, so she's pretty much reliant on me to teach it to her? lol.. I also felt that it was a waste of time, I could have been working on my assignment or reading my textbook. I thought that she would study on her own, once we got to the library but NO.. The thing is it feels like she is using me, to teach her. She doesn't even sit next to me in class, and then asks me if I'm going to the library. I don't know if I have an obligation to TEACH HER and make her pass the course even though she's my classmate. Today, she asked me again, if I was going to the library... I'm now thinking that, I can't get INDIVIDUAL STUDY done, because she's basically relying on me to "teach" her the materials, so that she can study them at home. Am I being selfish or reasonable here? What do I say to her the next time she asks me if I want to go to the library? Do I just say " I want to work on my assignment, or I want to study on my own..." I don't want to tell her at her face that I don't want to study with her..
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