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This was basic NUR 101 material for my program. I hope you can learn something here https://www.Google.com/search?q=how+to+show+compassion+when+someone+is+sick&oq=how+to+show+compassion+when+someone+is+sick

Maybe if you don't have anything helpful to say and just want to make someone feel worse, maybe just go on ahead and refrain from replying. That's what I want you to do. And anyone else who has a *** sarcastic reply as well.

Thanks for the judgment, dude. I'm sure that's what you would want in this situation. I hope trying to make someone feel like crap on the internet made your day better.

I'm going through a really rough time and I'm not sure this is the best place to put this post but I guess I need someone to hear me. I moved to Brazil in 2019 and, short story, I had an urgent hysterectomy (open abdominal) 2 days ago. The nursing staff at the hospital here were extremely indifferent toward me. I was very frightened before the surgery and was crying, nobody held my hand or told me it would be okay. They only talked to me to tell me to move this way, put my arm here, etc. 1 day postop I tried to ambulate to the bathroom (no one would help me) and fainted, hitting my face on the bathroom floor (currently have a black eye and bruised cheekbone). I woke up and yelled "help, help!" about 10-15 times before anyone came, finally it was my boyfriend who woke up and came to help me. The nurses stood there sucking their teeth and saying they can't believe I did this as he helped me back to bed. No one examined me afterwards, looked at my face, or even asked if I had symptoms. The doctor came shortly after that and said I could go home, and you could believe I got out of there as fast as I could. The doctor only sent me home with ketoprofen. For an open abdominal surgery. I am currently using old prescriptions of zofran and hydrocodone I brought with me from the states. My feelings are so hurt at being treated like this. I would never in my life let a patient fall. I would never let a patient sit in bed and cry. I have always made sure to tell my patients to call me if they feel anxious, upset, or need to talk. I hold my patients' hands and say I am here for you. I feel like these nurses hated me. My boyfriend, who is Brazilian, says this is normal here. He says it is his fault for letting me fall because the family is supposed to do all the patient care, the nurses are just there to give medication. I am beyond offended at this idea, that nurses are just pill pushers. I am having a lot of second thoughts about living in a place where anyone would act like this, to me it's just common decency. I was discharged to home yesterday and honestly terrified of having complications and having to go back to the hospital. I also feel like I need to find out what the governing body is for hospitals here and file a complaint against these people.

Thanks for the responses guys. Honestly I wasn't expecting so much sensitivity and support, I really appreciate it. I think sometimes things like this can really hurt us when they bring up old traumas in which personal boundaries were violated...even though it seems like "ugh, it's just a crappy job" it pushes a lot of buttons for deeper things that might not be 100% resolved. I think I do need some help dealing with this, at least to receive the validation that I'm not crazy for having this response. You guys have helped a lot by taking my situation seriously. I had a patient in nursing school who told me "sometimes when people are suffering, the best thing you can do is say I see what's happening to you" and that has stuck with me.

I think I am dealing with a possible stress reaction to my last job, in home hospice. I don't want to use the term PTSD because that's very strong. But I've noticed that I have some concerning behaviors. For the last year-ish, I've been teaching ESL and avoiding working as an RN. My last job, which was over a year ago, was full of manipulative staff. Examples: -support staff calling 4-5 times "to talk about a patient", wanting to have 20 minute conversations to report that the patient is normal/to complain about patient's idiosyncracies. I would advise REPEATEDLY that we do not need phone report (lasting 15-20 minutes) for this, written report as normal is appropriate. Staff called management to report that I "refused to help with patients". -other nurses and CNAs flooding my phone with calls at 8:30-9am daily to say good morning. When I do not respond, staff request that we have a mandatory conference "good morning" call each morning. I state that this is not productive as we need this time to make patient calls. People are offended. We do this time-wasting good morning conference call for about 3 weeks and then people lose interest. -staff calling me during hours I was not scheduled on call to ask about patients. I would report that I was not on call and provide telephone number for on call nurse. Again staff complained to management that I refused to help with patients. -staff calling to report (for example) we are using a different type of briefs this week as our supplier did not have our usual type. I did not call back for this as it did not require a response. I was reported to management as "not answering phone calls". (I was busy calling patients/families). -management calling intermittently during the day to ask what I am doing right now in a suspicious tone, as if they do not believe I am working. Clearly I am working. When I report that I am working, they wish to have a conversation about how I am doing "emotionally". I report "doing fine and able to perform my job" and they do not like this. -management calling me into the office for meetings weekly to complain about my interactions with staff. I was written up for "poor communication with staff" because I stated repeatedly that I do not like to talk about my personal life at work and refused to have conversations about my personal life. I was told by my supervisor that I need to talk to other staff "about normal things, like your family, how things are going at home. You don't visit with anyone." I refused to sign the write-up because "poor communication" implies communication about WORK RELATED matters. I was told that if I didn't spend some time sitting around the office visiting each day after my workload was completed that I would probably be written up again. -management calling patients' families to solicit complaints when the service was satisfactory. One patient's wife told me "they keep calling and trying to get me to complain about something, but I'm happy with you". One supervisor went so far as to call and tell a family that maybe the patient should be taken to the ER because I missed something on my assessment (the patient was asymptomatic, and I had not missed anything. The family was extremely alarmed by this.) -even after I quit this job (when I finally went to the office to give notice, I almost cried during the meeting because I was so frustrated and sick of this job) people from the company continued to call me, hanging up instead of leaving a message. I had to block people's phone numbers (obviously I could see who was calling, are these people idiots?) So for the last year-ish, I've been having this thing where I avoid interactions with people. I avoid my phone like the plague, and when my phone rings I become really agitated and sometimes yell "who the f is calling me!" When people ask me how I am doing emotionally I become very defensive because I feel they are trying to find something to hold against me. I resent receiving calls and texts, because I'm afraid it's going to be someone trying to pick a fight. It's worse in the morning, when I typically had more problems at work. Has anyone experienced this?

Thanks guys, I love these answers!

I'm wondering if it might be worthwhile to start a nursing blog. -how do you narrow down what you'd like to focus on in a blog? -what do other nurses need/find helpful to read about? -would you read a nursing blog that includes posts about things like self-care, hobbies, athletics, home life, etc or would you rather see just professionalism? What about politics (women's rights/feminism, GLBTQ issues, so on)? -thanks for any feedback and opinions!

I've started an MSN Nurse Educator program, and at first I planned to go for a post-master's FNP, but now I've changed my mind (I'm loving the educator courses). What are some jobs that you've loved as a nurse educator? Hospital? Teaching online courses? Classroom? Other? Background: I'm an ONS chemo and CHPN RN and I haven't been working in hospice for about six months because I am BURNED OUT. I'm looking for a job environment that is cheerful and upbeat where I can do meaningful and helpful work. I would love something that allows me to have some creativity.

You will end up with a larger case load than they tell you (I have worked for 3 hospice companies), they don't tell you about on call (which is a nightmare), and they will expand your service area to the point where you are so far away from home that you can't possibly get to patients within 30m. This is how most hospice companies are operated. They will bs you during the hiring process and then they will avalanche you with work.

I worked in film production. But that's no longer an option.

I've been an RN for the past 3 years- first job was on an oncology unit, then I moved to hospice case management. I am just burned out. Major sources of burnout: -micromanagement on the part of administration (having management constantly breathing down my neck gives me so much stress that I hate going to work) -emotional repercussions of working with extremely ill/dying people -problems dealing with coworkers (including being blamed for other nurses' mistakes in the MAR, other nurses falsifying information given by patients/families, general childishness/blaming behaviors which seem to be prevalent in nursing profession) I enjoy patient care, but I'm just done. I'm looking for a career where I can work on my own and provide a service to people. Any suggestions? I'm open to considering fields where an RN license might not be primary but would be helpful, ie bodywork or things like that, as well as nursing specialties.