I am currently in an RN program and have worked as an LPN for 7 years. I believe you are correct with your decision. You should fight against this write up. It is the RN responsibility to assess the situation and not the LPN. Did your NM know that it was your patients family member and not the patient? When the event occured did you tell your NM/ supervisor about it? It is not your responsibility to care for other family members. It is actually a liability for the company you work for if you were to care for someone in this case a family member when you are being paid to care for the patient. If I were in your situation I would write up the incident on the computer and print it out. Then I would give it to my nurse manager, if that didnt help I would give a second copy to my DON. Also request that a copy of the letter be placed in you file at work. I hope this helps you. It is really an ethical and legal issue. Always trust your own judgement.