HELP! last year ADN

[paylenno]

OK so I have never got below a B. Never gotten a single UNSAT. 3 weeks ago my son was graduating kindergarten and we hoped to be able to go on a day trip the following day. I asked my Clinical Instructor if this was okay. he was fine with it, even set up my make up days. (its Summer) Telling him was what the paper told me to do! WELL now, the head of the RN program (who is also the dean! the judge and the jury) emailed me, blessing me out for not telling her. school is not in and I never see her, the paper says to tell the instructor. I told her that and she is saying she is going to throw me out of the program then sent me the syllabus we got a year ago which basically says to tell the instructor and the very last sentence of the paragraph says "and call the dean of science" like it was just added. As I continued reading it states that the head of the program and the dean will discuss if I will be kicked out (ITS THE SAME PERSON) even the other instructors talk about how she has to be in power. can she do this? and what should I do?

[JKL33]

Since this could go bad depending on how much of a power-trip she goes on, I would at least consider asking if you can meet with her again and just stay very calm and polite and state that you did not mean to keep her out of the loop, you just genuinely thought you followed the necessary steps. I hate to say it but you could even apologize and then emphasize how much you have enjoyed being a student and working hard in the program and ask if there is anything you can do to "make this right" and not be dismissed from the program.

I do not love this ^ approach...but this is a matter of doing what you need to do in order to get what you need. Your other options aren't great. People tend to throw around suggestions like "sue them" or "get a lawyer" in these types of situations, but that would be an uphill battle and a LOT of angst and likely expense.

Just go back to her, don't make excuses or try to defend yourself other than stating it was an honest oversight with no intent to slight her or go behind her back. Turn on the charm (carefully, not over the top).

GOOD LUCK!

[kbrn2002, ADN, RN]

It will not be fun but...be contrite, even if you're not. Be apologetic, even if you're not sorry. Admit to a mistake you didn't make, and apologize to the Dean for your unintentional oversight. Just suck up to the person in power, in this case the Dean who seems to single-handedly have the power to kick you out of the program.  Yes, it will suck to do this but it sounds like it needs to be done to make your future path much smoother. If the Dean accepts your empty apology you continue on without further complications. At least the Dean is not a person you deal with on the day-to-day so hopefully after this is a done deal you'll fall off the radar and can complete the program like nothing happened.

[Majie RN]

There's no special treatment for people who do well or not in the curriculum. Frankly, your teacher was alright about it, but it doesn't mean the Dean is fine with it. I'm in the last quarter of my RN program and cannot miss anything except when I'm ill or on the court. 

As others said, apologize. It sucks.