Just a small rant lol. This weekend I had my first clinical at a LTC facility. While feeding in the dining room, I noticed a fellow student with a resident, the student had a horrified look on her face (she's very young). I went over and asked what was wrong. She said the resident wouldn't stop crying. I stepped in, took the woman's hand and asked what was wrong. Her exact words were "It hurts". I asked where it hurt, she couldn't tell me (dementia). The very rude nurses aide said "She has to eat". I encouraged her to eat and after every bite she told me it hurts, I'm going to throw up. She took several more bites and a few sips of OJ and cried the whole time. Then she said "I'm going to faint". I immediately called my instructor over and explained the problem. The instructor said "The aides say she has to east 75% of her food, and she cries all the time". I told my instructor "I have a gut feeling something is different this time". The woman then said straight out "I'm going to die". The instructor simply said "not today", and walked away. After a few more minutes the aide came to take her back to her room. I literally had to pry her hand out of mine. Less than 5 minutes later the aide came running to the nurse's station and said the woman was on the toilet throwing up and unresponsive.
I feel so bad. All of my instructors tell us all the time to use your intuition and advocate for your patient. I tried to do that and nobody would listen to me. I went to them after and asked what I could have done differently. They told me nothing because it was probably her time and there wasn't anything I could have done. It makes me so mad that I listened to my intuition and nobody listened to me. My classmates tell me to let it go but I'm having trouble doing that.
Am I wrong in thinking that my instructor showed incredible insensitivity? Just because someone has dementia doesn't mean you should ignore what they say. After all, they keep telling us pain is subjective and you have to go by what the patient says their pain is even if you don't think they're in pain. Why do they tell us one thing then do another?
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Just a small rant lol. This weekend I had my first clinical at a LTC facility. While feeding in the dining room, I noticed a fellow student with a resident, the student had a horrified look on her face (she's very young). I went over and asked what was wrong. She said the resident wouldn't stop crying. I stepped in, took the woman's hand and asked what was wrong. Her exact words were "It hurts". I asked where it hurt, she couldn't tell me (dementia). The very rude nurses aide said "She has to eat". I encouraged her to eat and after every bite she told me it hurts, I'm going to throw up. She took several more bites and a few sips of OJ and cried the whole time. Then she said "I'm going to faint". I immediately called my instructor over and explained the problem. The instructor said "The aides say she has to east 75% of her food, and she cries all the time". I told my instructor "I have a gut feeling something is different this time". The woman then said straight out "I'm going to die". The instructor simply said "not today", and walked away. After a few more minutes the aide came to take her back to her room. I literally had to pry her hand out of mine. Less than 5 minutes later the aide came running to the nurse's station and said the woman was on the toilet throwing up and unresponsive.
I feel so bad. All of my instructors tell us all the time to use your intuition and advocate for your patient. I tried to do that and nobody would listen to me. I went to them after and asked what I could have done differently. They told me nothing because it was probably her time and there wasn't anything I could have done. It makes me so mad that I listened to my intuition and nobody listened to me. My classmates tell me to let it go but I'm having trouble doing that.
Am I wrong in thinking that my instructor showed incredible insensitivity? Just because someone has dementia doesn't mean you should ignore what they say. After all, they keep telling us pain is subjective and you have to go by what the patient says their pain is even if you don't think they're in pain. Why do they tell us one thing then do another?