breakups during nursing school

Dragonfly1919 · Feb 8, 2011

I'm really sorry to hear that. I know it's horrible going thru a breakup. My ex and I broke up a month and a half before I started the program and it was tough for me too so I can understand what you're going through. I know it's alot easier said than done but you have to try to push your thoughts and emotions aside and concentrate fully on school. Believe me, I know it's hard but you have to do it! At the end of the day, all you have is you and you deserve to give yourself the full opprotunity for success. You'll look back and feel so disappointed to know that you didn't succeed bc of an ex and that person is out there living their life happily and you're living with regret. The program I'm in is accelerated too, it's only 1 year and it's hard!!!!!!!! I have no job, no relationship, no kids, no distractions and this program is still very difficult for me. Do this for you, and when you complete it, you'll be so proud of yourself!

Good luck!!!!!

Qbert · Feb 8, 2011

I am sorry this happened.

I was working full time and going to school. My spare time included homework and more homework.

My wife got sick of "putting up with me" and left about 60% of the way through my course.

I was completely heartbroken and had my world turned upside down.

I still cry at night when I am alone.. I can relate to how you're feeling.

The only advice I can really give you is simply.. You need to focus on what you need for you.. this is your future, your foundation, your education. Not your ex's. Don't let him/her have a worse impact on your life by keeping you from finishing school.

Hope that helps.

caliotter3 · Feb 8, 2011

If you don't focus and succeed now, when will you? Remember, your ex will not be there to cheer you on thirteen years from now when you are still trying to finish nursing school. Put this into perspective. You will have plenty of time to grieve when school is finished.

Kateoh82 · Feb 8, 2011

Focus on being the best you can be. Immerse yourself in your studies, so that he's not constantly on your mind. Success is the best revenge. My heart goes out to you, as I know too well how sad it can be.. Keep your head up and stay strong!

jesslpnstudent · Feb 9, 2011

Thank you for the replies. These are things I needed to hear. It is really hard when a big part of your support system is just one day gone. He was the one I turned to when I had a stressful day at class or clinical. Qbert I def can relate everything always hits me the hardest at night.

kara_malia · Feb 13, 2011

Don't give him another minute. Don't let him break your heart AND ruin your future goals.

Check out "It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken." FANTASTIC, quick, easy, hilarious, read that will make you feel empowered and help you move on.

missfreda · Feb 13, 2011

Don't let the situation discourage you from moving forward. I had a similar one when I was in LVN school. I prayed over it and kept going. I started school 5 years later for RN and finished on time and passed the boards on my first attempt. I saw a lot of broken relationships in my class. We pulled together, supported each other and got through the tough times. The best and most important outcome was passing the board. Don't hang on to those feelings and lose your focus. You can get through this and still come out on top ! Best wishes! :up:

javertech · Feb 17, 2011

I completely understand how you feel. I was in school taking prerequisites for the RN program at a local community college at the time my spouse of 26 years left me for another women. We had two children together the youngest who was still at home at the time. I ended up getting accepted into the LPN program at a tech school before getting accepted to RN school. I have ended up divorced, trying to sell our house we lived in for a long time, and moved into an apartment. I work prn at a hospital and spend all my free time studying and in class or clinicals. I have to drive about 1 hour and half each day driving to and from school or clinicals. I have to try to find time to spend with my kids because their father walked out of their lives as well and remarried a few months after our divorce. I have a new relationship and am afraid that he won't understand how stressful nursing school is either and I won't be able to handle the stress of someone not understanding how important finishing school is to me. Just don't give up the ship. I take it hour by hour not day by day. I have learned to be flexible in order to finish school cause sometimes life throws you curve balls and you have to throw them right back. Our clinicals were cancelled this week due to state surveyors being at the facility. So our instructors had to come up with a game plan for our clinical hours this week. We ended up doing clinical skills practice and case studies in time management, prioritizing patient care, and documentation. So that being said just keep on top of the game and never slack up because before you know it you will be finished and have that degree you have worked so hard for. I am going on to get my BSN once I finish LPN program and I am over 40 years old. Going back to school over 40 can be challenging in itself not to mention adjusting to being single after 26 years of marriage. So keep your head up and remember what your goals are. :)