Backbone needed

[sharann, BSN, RN]

I need a push here. No need to jump on me though please :)

There is a new doctor(new to us)whe is an anesthesiologist who is a real SOB.He has a true "I'm the DOCTOR your are the NURSE"attitude. He is short with me(and everyone else) and if you god forbid say "what was that" or can you repeat that he rolls his eyes or says"I said that already".I know I am not alone in this but I feel that if he is going to stay at our hospital(he may or may not get a contract)I want to nip this quick. I do not want him to think he can just be a jerk and get away with it. I work with nurses who sometimes will stand up for themselves and other times do not. One nurse is just the type who says give him what he wants. I am not his personal slave or secretary. Nothing one does is right and every time I question him he takes it as an attack(he is very defensive). Is he competent? Yes, and this is his only good quality.I wanted some feeback on how to deal with a personality like this. I feel harassed and stressed every time I deal with him(I do try to stay away from him when not recieving a pt from him. My nerves are shot. Help...I am a really GREAT nurse and I am trying hard not to question my abilities but he has this way about him that makes me feel stupid basically. He also says "This place is stupid in ....everything pretty much. The pharmacy is stupid, the doctors are dumb, the policies stink etc..." I would love him to GO AWAY!!!!

[hrtprncss]

my suggestion nip it in the bud as soon as u can, go to ur nurse manager or the head of anesthesiology...if u know ur competent and ur not making mistakes then u shouldn't have to take that. snap back, i know that's not the best thing to do but sometimes it's the only thing you can do for them to back off...you have a right to question any order if you want, it's ur responsibility...do not let anyone bully u whatsoever, stand up for yourself, and so what if he's an anesthesiologist, i dont know i just come from an environment where the nurses stand up for themselves and not let any physician boss them around. our residents and fellows get their own supplies from the supply room if and when they need to do a procedure, and they clean it up also. you can always talk to the head of your department, if not then go to the DON. do not let an md stress u out like that, it's not worth ur time.

[Cute_CNA, CNA]

I think people like that have self-esteem problems. It wouldn't surprise me if he became a doctor just so he could feel self-important. It's a position of power.

Just my OPINION.

[babynurselsa, RN]

Ask him where it is he would rather be.

Then you could offer to help him pack. Maybe you could make his airline reservaions.

On a more serious note, I would have no problem asking him if he had a specific complaint or personal problem with me that made him speak to me in such a condecending tone. If he was not able to give a valid reason then I would simply tell him that his tone or manner is unacceptable and if he needed anything from me I expect him to address me appropriately.

Of course, I have never got in trouble for my mouth before.

[sharann, BSN, RN]

Good advice guys. I just wish I could remember these comebacks AS the incidents occur. I will not be abused though. He is not even my boss, he is just an agency employee. If he stays, he will be a hopital employee, just like me.

[UnewmeB4]

Unfortunately, we all run into a Dr with SMS(short man syndrome) who has to compensate by making himself appear much bigger by attempting to make others appear little(by belittling THEM!). I agree, ask him where he REALLY wants to be, because there is nothing worse than being at a place you do not enjoy.

[RosesrReder, BSN, MSN, RN]

Ask him where it is he would rather be.

Then you could offer to help him pack. Maybe you could make his airline reservaions.

On a more serious note, I would have no problem asking him if he had a specific complaint or personal problem with me that made him speak to me in such a condecending tone. If he was not able to give a valid reason then I would simply tell him that his tone or manner is unacceptable and if he needed anything from me I expect him to address me appropriately.

Of course, I have never got in trouble for my mouth before.

I love it! I think you could show sarcasm and a straight face. Hopefully, after you say something he will compose himself and act like he should....A TEAM!