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It's a common misconception to think that dehydration is increasing suffering, or, as you stated, cruel. Studies have shown, however, that people who are actively dying actually benefit from being a bit on the dry side. To attempt hydration via IV fluids would probably be much more unpleasant. Not only would they have to poke around for a vein in a dehydrated pt (unless he already has a PICC or port) but even if his body is able to properly assimilate the fluids you would just be extending the dying process. At this stage, the fluid could very well go into places not wanted (such as his lungs) and make things worse.

I'm very sorry for your situation, the above poster explains very well the common misconceptions of dehydration and the dying process. I've been there with my own father, fortunately we had a wonderful hospice nurse that explained exactly what is written by the previous poster....additional hydration would likely cause a worse, more painful situation especially if the fluid ended up in the tissue or lungs hence why in hospice, IV hydration is often not considered a comfort measure especially in late stage.

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Have you tried discussing your concerns with your nurse case manager, hospice case manager or your grandfather's physician?