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To wait or not to wait...to try for our second child

I am a mother to a 22 month old baby boy and am in the midst of finishing my prereqs for nursing school. I am starting an accelerated BSN in the fall. My husband and I have talked many times and he wants to wait until after I'm done with school (Dec. 2012) and after I am at my job for six months. He is a planner and doesn't like the idea of me being in school and pregnant again like I was for our 22 month old. I agreed at first but the more I think about it the more I don't think I want to wait. My sister and I are two years apart and it was the perfect age difference. The age difference between my son and his potential sibling would be more 4 or 5. That just seems like quite a big difference in age especially as our son would be getting to the age when he can do more and more activities. I don't think it will be any easier to be pregnant after nursing school working 12 hour shifts than it would be being pregnant in nursing school? Any advice? I was in school for my masters for my first as well as working full-time. This time around I would only be concentrating on school and would have full-time childcare for my son.

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    I agree with your hubby on this one. Nursing school is very stressful in itself and to add a new baby, a 22mo old and family chores is a HUGE task. Ask yourself this, Would I be able to give this new baby all the time and attention he/she needs while I'm in nursing school? Remember answer unselfishly! Best wishes to ya:)

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    I think you should wait till you are done with nursing school to have your second child. My kids are two years apart and I wish i had kept a longer gap, just that i missed out things on my first baby. Nursing school is very stressful, it will be hard to take care of two kids with it. So, get it done and then plan your second baby. Brenda.

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    where are you doing your nursing?

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    A very wise woman once told me when I was younger...."You can have ANYTHING you want, be anything you want to be, BUT ..you can not have EVERYTHING , so you must make your choices carefully. " It has served me well over the years. And since it was from Mary Kay Ash, I took it to heart. ( founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics) I commend everyone that is willing to give it everything they have to make their dreams a reality. However, as an older wiser woman, I will caution you as to "setting yourself up for failure" , by taking on too much. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. I think your husband is coorect in saying you should wait.

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    I would wait if it was me!

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    A very wise woman once told me when I was younger...."You can have ANYTHING you want, be anything you want to be, BUT ..you can not have EVERYTHING , so you must make your choices carefully. " It has served me well over the years. And since it was from Mary Kay Ash, I took it to heart. ( founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics) I commend everyone that is willing to give it everything they have to make their dreams a reality. However, as an older wiser woman, I will caution you as to "setting yourself up for failure" , by taking on too much. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. I think your husband is coorect in saying you should wait.

    This is a fantastic quote! Thanks for sharing. Yeah it probably is the best decision to wait. It's just hard sometimes for me to be patient. I want to do everything at once.

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    Your welcome..I keep that quote handy. Just breathe, slow down a little and try to enjoy your life! ( I know I am the same exact way:)

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    My four children are 16, 14, and twins 12. They are each 22 mos. apart in age. When people ask me about my kids the conversation always comes back to the fact that they are so close in age. My comments are always..."I'm so glad they are so close in age"..."they all love the same things at the same time"..."we all love spending time together because they are all so close to the same age". I'm 44 now and I'm just now attempting nursing school. I'm so glad I waited. I had my time with them while they were all young. I wouldn't change a thing. Have your babies close so they can be close to each other and you can all enjoy things together at the same time. Then do nursing school later when all the babies are done being so young and cute together.

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