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To feel less alone when I feel alone and isolated in this profession, or when have had Nurse coworkers do *** things , or when I need some career ideas . Happy this website exists . Also helps me realize that these staffing issues are not in our heads , it’s not a time management issue , it’s the penny counters at the hospital understaffing on purpose to make more profits , and then go gaslight you and say oh you’re just not managing your time well. It’s like saying oh well you’re not managing that slice of bread well, it should last you the whole day when you know you need more than one slice of bread a day to survive and get enough calories .

Hello, A staffing agency I applied to is asking for my last menstrual period on the pre-employment physical form for home health. They are fishing for who is pregnant . Another staffing agency I applied to does not ask such a question anywhere about your pregnancy status . It is a per diem position too, so there isn’t any issue of guilt of going on maternity leave and them having to find a substitute . I feel like this question is like asking for my religion or political leanings . It’s none of their business . How would you answer the question? I will have to go to the walk in clinic to get the physical done . Leave it blank? Ask the person filling out the physical to leave it blank? Or tell the doctor I don’t remember ? I swear if men would get pregnant just like women, this question would t be on there . Thanks

Hi everyone, I don't know what to do in my situation and feel overwhelmed and think it would be helpful to have some kind of advice. I've been married for two years. The marriage started out fine. But ever since about the last year things have been getting worse. He explodes easily and goes on complaint tirade and basically has anger out of proportion with the situation. He also has tried to throw me out of the car at night just weeks after having had a baby and threatened to take the baby away from me. He still threatens that he wants custody of the baby (baby is just 2 months). He feeds the baby horizontally on a pillow and the baby ends up coughing (because she has a slight cold) uncontrollably and throws up, and he blames it on me saying I left baby at day care and that she wasn't well. The baby was fine in the morning, ate fine, had no throw up or coughing issues. It was the day before I felt that she was having probabably postnasal drip coughing, so I stayed home with baby but then the baby was doing much better in the evening and yesterday morning so I thought I brought her to day care so I could do my job searching. Yesterday he goes crazy again on me, when the baby was fine in the evening, but then once the baby starts crying because she needed to be burped after her feeding, he gets crazy saying I am not taking care of her, starts yelling, which upsets the baby even more, then claims the baby is crying hysterically because of something I did, when really it's just him yelling for 10 minutes straight that is emotionally disturbing and scaring the child. He also puts me down, says I don't do anything, that it was a mistake he married me, and claims I am running around with boyfriends. Basically he puts me down in every way possible. What do I do? I can't live like this. He has major anger management problems and poor impulse control and poor self control. I have to find a day shift job because my maternity leave is done, but I have to find a job that works around day care hours (630a-7pm) because day cares here have non-nurse-friendly hours. I can't find any baby sitter that would want to work 13 hour shifts on an unpredictable weekly shift. I'm guessing there will be divorce happening..I can't be with someone who treats me like dirt, and his yelling behavior will really mess up the child and being with him will probably make the yelling more likely to happen. I'm trying to quickly find a nursing home job or some other job that has 8 hour shifts, because I don't like the feeling of not having a job while living with an abusive man like him. I saw a lawyer to see what my rights were because he has threatened in the past too to take away my baby...he thinks he can just steal the kid from his mom and according to what he thinks. He also has been asking to have a passport made for the baby. What baby at 2 months needs to travel? He says it's for "emergency" but I doubt it. He is not from the U.S., he was born in another country and has family living there so i'm afraid when he gets his crazy episodes he will abduct her. He also has a prior psych facility history, which I knew about before we got married, but he claimed it's because his ex was still in love with a previous bf and he didn't really want to kill himself but for whatever reason they called the cops to come take him because they thought he was a threat to himself. So maybe he has a tendency to try to do drastic things whenever he is upset? I don't know what to think and I don't know what to do. I know I do need to make a plan. It's hard to job search when you have an abusive spouse yelling and yelling. He yells in front of the baby and I tell him to stop yelling, because it's very emotionally damaging to a child, yet he keeps yelling and doesn't care that the baby's ear is 2 feet away. Do I call child protective services? He has never physically hit me, but emotionally and trying to throw me out of the car I think that's domestic violence. What do I do? I guess i'm loooking for some kind of emotional support and guidance. Thank you for your help

Hi everyone, Thank you for reading. I just had a baby but figured out I wont be able to work 12 hour nights shifts anymore. 12 hour day shifts wont work either for me because day care around here open at 630 am and closes the latest at 7pm, and shifts usually are 7a-7p or 6a-6p (and these shifts always run late because of giving report and needing to finish up documentation..nobody ever leaves on time). Baby's father wont be able to pick up the baby at all because he can't leave work early to pick baby up in time. I can't find a baby sitter willing to do 12-13 hour shifts with the erratic weekly schedule of a nurse (sometimes I work Mondays, other times it's Tuesday or Thursdays...my place doesn't guarantee a steady weekly schedule and it rarely works out that way). So I basically have to give up my stepdown job because I have to make things work around day care. I'm a bit sad about it because I worked hard to get the skills and experience I have, but I just have to find something that will work for the new family life. I find that the only places with 8 or 10 hour shifts are nursing homes, skilled nursing facilities, doc offices and surgery centers. I don't qualify for surgery centers because all the ones I checked want prior periop experience. I'm not really interested in school nursing because I worry there can be politics with the parents and for whatever reason it might feel unpredictable to me. So i've been applying to doc offices and endoscopy places but no luck. There seem to be openings for skilled nursing facilities. I''ve heard about CareOne and such. Should I keep applying for doc offices or try looking into skilled nursing places (SNF)? Are there other 8-10 hour day shift nursing jobs that could be a good idea but not too stressful? I have heard that SNF can be super stressful, but there are a lot of open positions I see, and i'm used to having had 8-9 patients as a prior medsurg nurse, and although it was a unsafe and toxic workload, I was able to wing it. I don't want to totally burn myself out so am trying to find something that maybe isn't so stressful. But I can't spend months looking for something perfect. The baby's father has psych issues and we likely will get divorced soon and that's why I need to find a job asap because I want to at least have a good financial situation and a workplace that works with the baby's day care schedule so that I don't have to deal with extra headaches from her insane yelling father and figure out scheduling. Thank you for your help

Hi everyone, Thanks for reading. I had previous experience as a Medsurg and Stepdown Nurse. However, I had a baby and all the day cares are not open late and I can't find a baby sitter that's willing to do 13 hour shifts (by the time I get home at least 13 hours will have elapsed) and her father is not able to pick her up from day care because of his work hours. Day care here is very expensive in general and I couldn't afford to hire someone to pick her up from day care and bring her home...plus it would be hard to find someone who is willing to work the erratic schedule. Basically every week she might have to come in on M, Tu, Fri and the week after that it would totally change...because it's hard to get a steady schedule as a nurse. So I am looking into places with 8 or 10 hour day shifts so I can drop off and pick up the baby. So far I haven't had any luck with the couple of doctors offices and day surgery centers I applied to (so many day surgeries want prior OR exerperience, I have none). I found a few nursing homes/skilled nursing facilities that have 8 hour day shifts. However, my impression of long term care is that it would be like working on my previously poorly staffed med surg unit where frequently the nurses would cry from the stress and poor treatment by management. And i'm sad to be leaving the hospital environment, it's the only environment I've known. However, i've also been told that hospitals can be overrated and grass can be greener in other settings. Right now I don't think I have many choices so am looking into skilled nursing. Does anyone have any opinions on CareOne? Anyone have any friends who have worked there? Does the quality of the place depend on the particular location? Anyone have any suggestions on any NY/NJ area ones that can be a better work environment for nurses? I have been used to working like a dog with 8 patients sometimes even 9 patients on a prior medsurg floor. It was able but I could wing it. So I guess handling having much more patients (though lower acuity) in skilled nursing would be similar or even worse? Anyone else have any suggestions? Maybe I should look into home care nursing instead (it can have 8 hour shifts as well) or keep on trying doc offices? Thanks for your help everyone