RutgersFlower2016

Not sure about this comment, but yes I live in the world and I am very familiar with what's going on out there. You sound very uneducated and have no compassion for other people's feelings. This is partly why people are the way they are today. Someone shares an experience that happened to them or someone in their life and people just jump on it with silly opinions that are obviously not well thought out. A few accusations were made from people about whether or not the "account" was true. Some want to be experts on judisim. There are many sectors of Jews, and people practice as they see fit. There are Jews for Jesus these days. Jews who have become Christian. Even a hateful comment about, she is wearing her hair tied but isn't married yet or on the "hopes of some day being married." Boy did that person sound bitter. What happened, no offer of marriage to you? My friend will be married this August to her guy. It just shows that people should not share experiences. Because some of the things I read here made me believe that it should not have been shared. Some real pathetic comments. Trump is a COMPLETELY different subject!!!

No details missing. Whole story here. No NCIS episode going on here.

Don't think she messed up. Asking religious affiliation during an interview is illegal!!!!

Today, my friend told me the saddest story I ever heard. She had applied for a job and had been pining to get this gig for months. Finally a few months ago they contacted her for an interview. Culturally, she likes to wear a head wrap and has been doing so for as long as I have known her. Plus her boyfriend is Jewish and plans on marrying him and wants to get use to the idea of wearing it everyday. Well she decided that she would be herself and interview for the job as herself, tichel/head covering and all. The first interview went off without a hitch but she said she was asked if she was Muslim during the interview. I guess to explain her wearing the head covering. She replied no and left it at that. She was contacted for a second interview. Went well. Several months later she was hired. She attended orientation which lasted for several weeks. Than out of the blue, one of her supervisors called her to the side one day and asked her if she was Muslim, again she answered no, she even asked her if something was wrong with her hair, she replied no. The supervisor told her that she needed to come to work the next day with her hair out. She ignored that request and went to work as herself. The second day, she was requested to meet with one for her higher ranking superiors regarding her hair. Long story short, she was pretty much told that it was policy and she could not wear her hair covered to work. She explained that for weeks, she walked around with head covering and nobody said anything to her about it. She was told that if she pretty much did not show up without head covering she would lose her job, plus she was knew so they had no problem doing it. It made her very uncomfortable to the point of tears when she told me. She plans on quitting and looking for a new job. This is the world we live in. My heart is broken for her and she is still crying.

Reading before commenting goes a long way. As I stated, speaking in a language in the presence of others who do not understand is disrespectful. It doesn't matter if you are talking about who is coming to tea on Thursday. It is RUDE and shows poor manners. I speak 3 languages and NEVER do it because my parents taught me better. And when people want to talk about others in their presence, 99.9% of the time they're doing it in another language because they think the other person can't understand.

I am not returning as mentioned. I have another job so I am able to leave.

Lady, get a hold of yourself!!!!! Nobody here is dictating to people what language they are supposed to speak, so READ carefully before you comment next time. I'm highlighting the proper time and place for this behavior and giving report in a language that half the present staff does not understand like a woman mentioned earlier, is NOT cool!!! Perhaps you also do this sort of thing and think it's okay. Please do not use the word prejudice here. I speak THREE languages and never do this at work---work the professional setting!!! THANK YOU!!!

Thank you for sharing with me your experience. I felt like maybe I was going crazy or just making this up in my head. It brought tears to my eyes as I read that because it means nothing has changed in 12 years and maybe I went into the wrong profession.

I'm a new graduate of about 6 months and it has been a challenge. Finding a new position and just getting interviews has been an up hill battle. I decided to take a per diem position a few months ago at a nursing home in the city, I live in NY now. Well the hiring process went smooth and I went through orientation and it all seemed like a wonderful opportunity to gain some experience, but the grass isn't always as green as it looks. I work in a facility in Manhattan, and that is as much as I will say. I'm sure some will read this and probably guess the facility. Anyway, I took whatever shifts I can day and evening in attempt to be flexible. I became a nurse because I LOVE THIS work. It's sad to say that after a few months working in this facility I am starting to hate nursing. I know this isn't what it's all about. It's better. It appears to me that the facility is run by the CNA's. Some of the CNA's have been working in the facility for a very long time (10-20 years) and they have the run of the place. They talk back to the charge nurses when they are given directives, they are rude, disrespectful and choose what they will do and what they won't. The first time I saw this, I was so shocked because I never witnessed anything like this in the hospitals where I trained. Nothing is done about it, it's like a norm. The place is divided between the Filipinos and everyone else. I am often called at all hours of the day and night and asked to come to work. During these past holidays, I took pity on them and I worked on Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Years Day. I put in a lot of hours because they were short staff, and with nurses quitting, it left them desperately in need. No matter how nice I am, polite, and respectful, it makes no difference. I am met with disrespect, spoken to very rudely and treated very badly. My favorite is the "Can you stay till 7pm because a nurse doesn't show up on time", but it's really a trap to make you work a double shift because the late nurse NEVER comes in. I am a very CLEAN nurse and I work neat and clean. I give meds some days and I like to work from a clean med cart and I have my routine: clean when I start my shift, throw out the garbage, and stock up my meds and supplies and neat things up. I just can't work on other people's dirt, as I say to myself. The favor is never returned. If I kindly insist that others do the same as it is the policy to do it, I am met with a lot of attitude, bad lip service and bad eye contact. When I charge the floor, I often have had situations with CNA's hiding in the resident's room, not answering call bells in a timely manner or at all, telling me to answer them myself because they are too busy. Lately, my absolute favorite, is being left on the floor alone with 3 or 4 CNA's and 40 residents. If you have questions and need support and call for help, you are met with bad attitudes, or your calls are ignored. You are treated as if they are doing you a favor. When you work per diem, you are a guest in someone else's home and should be respected and feel welcomed. I often feel like trash and like less of a human. Like I said, I LOVE NURSING. In order to continue loving nursing, I am leaving this facility and will never return. I enjoy the residents, as they are amazing some of them and I had a few challenging ones. I kept going back because I was able to hone in on my skills with med administration and learn charging and I love the work. If I could rank this facility on professionalism, I would give it a 4. This divide between nationality/races is very bad for morale. CNA's should not be given choice of floors because the work is easier on one floor than another. Nurses should treat each other with respect and dignity, not just do it because you are my race, or from my country. It should be done because it is the right and professional thing to do and its expected in this business. Another thing----SPEAKING IN YOUR NATIVE TONGUE IN FRONT OF OTHERS WHO DO NOT UNDERSTAND IS WRONG AND DISRESPECTFUL. THE PERSON WILL THINK YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT THEM AND/OR HIDING INFORMATION FROM THEM. YOU CANNOT JUSTIFY THIS. IT IS WRONG ON ALL LEVELS!!!! I will pray for this facility!

Hi- You are not alone and don't think for one minute that you should have to put up with that behavior from anyone-patient or family member. I have a naturally funny and bubbly personality and try not to let people's negative comments affect me. For example, I sometimes wear a head wrap and people assume that I am Muslim. So being mistaken for Muslim and being the race that I am, I get the scared looks and creepy eyebrow raises on a daily basis. I feel sorry for that person and I wonder how closed off their mind must be, because they will never know how much of an amazing person I am. I often get mistaken for a sales girl when shopping or a nanny when I am in the more prominent parts of my city so, I just look and respond with grace if I have to. I have always said "I am responsible for my own ignorance, I can't be responsible for other people's!" I hope you work in place where that is not tolerated in anyway. Another thing, never laugh it off, because it's like a silent passport for the individual to do it again to you or someone else. There is a moment to teach something and bigotry should be STOMPED out. This past election has taught me that. Keep shining and keep being lovable you. Never let anyone take that away, less you become like them!!! Rock on fellow nurse!!!!!!!!

Hi, It sounds to me like you didn't do one thing wrong. You provided excellent care and felt great about the job you did and God saw it all. It is sad but in this field you are going to see a lot of this unfortunately. That woman was being racist against you, and no religion, no religion and I study them all calls for this kind of behavior. That patient has a lot of personal problems that have absolutely nothing to do with you. You are beautiful whether you are Black, White, Asian, middle eastern, Catholic, Jewish, or Muslim. Keep smiling, keep your head up, keep being the wonderful care taker you are and leave the rest in gods hands okay. Do not let any patient get you down with their racists practices. You deserve better and she should have been thankful towards you not hateful. 😉 💐

Thank you for posting this information. I know it's a little dated, but still an important current issue. I read a while back where someone posted some information that new grads should request when talking about taking a home health care job. Like orientation, shadowing a nurse, training, etc. Well I ended up signing up with an HHCA and they contacted me briefly after signing up with a job. It ended up being canceled on me. Than there was another call and that case also got canceled for some reason. I took the advice I read here and asked about training, orientation, shadowing and it resulted in nobody contacting me or wanting to speak with me it seems. I felt like by asking for feedback from the previous nurse on the case and all the other extras, I became a not so popular candidate for placement. My feelings were very hurt, and I was very disappointed considering I cleared my schedule for three weekends in a row, spent money I didn't have on uniforms to work in (uniforms have gotten expensive over the years, especially if you want them to fit right.) Well I reached out to this agency 2-3 times and nobody called me back or responded to my e-mails after my I like to call intelligent inquiries. Anything that keeps my license in my hands, is safe for the patient and important, than I want to know about it. I felt like I did or said something wrong, but I think I was doing the right thing!!!

He may be embarrassed that he did not pass his NCLEX exam, which can be a hard thing to take after so much school and not achieving the long awaited prize, the license. Be supportive and loving toward your cousin. Sounds like understanding is needed not being outed about not passing. Some people need or may take several attempts. Let's not judge, show love!!!!!!