Jessybe11e

Also, she won't be happier because she has a child, she'll be happier that she has more control over you and a validation to stay home. If she's not happily in her current situation, nothing will change that-it's a matter of her disposition. I've lived in poverty and with wealth, and i will tell you, things may change in life, but if your not grateful and happy with what you have at the moment, you won't be when you get whatever it is you think you want to make you happy. "The grass is always greener on the other side". I know there are always 2 sides to every story and people tend to make themselves out to be the bigger person and the other person out to be the devil incarnate, but if she really is the way you say she is, then ilk give you this advice: I've known several woman like this. They are only happy with their reign of control. Things get worse for their husbands because they can make even more outrageous demands in the name of "motherhood" and make you do more "for the family" in a "her way or the highway" type manner. These situations are horrible for the children too who have to live under such a controlling and manipulative mother (and the children end up exhibiting the same behaviors later-you really want your offspring acting like this? Because it sounds like she has a mental health disorder of some kind). Even more horrible is that these mothers are self-centered and don't love or care for the children as they should (use how she treats you as a litmus, because they will be YOUR offspring). They sometimes even abuse or neglect the children because they resent that they are so much work (because she won't be able to Facebook for 12 hours). Which, obviously, causes even more of a horrible, stressful life for the dad. Even in case where the dad is ideal and the mom is not, when they did eventually get a divorce, the mom got custody (and child, not to mention spousal support) and the dad got even more stress worrying about their children in a home with an abusive mother and Good only knows who else she has in her home. THANK GOD RIGHT NOW THAT YOU DON'T HAVE A CHILD TO COMPLICATE THIS SITUATION. because let me tell you, once you do, leaving will be your worst nightmare. Also, im very family oriented. I ALWAYS want to help my parents and siblings, but I always ask my husband first. I am always cognizant of putting my husband and children first and would never sacrifice our finances or happiness to give them money or support we didn't have for ourselves even.... Because you both don't have the pay to support additional people. The fact that your using up your life savings instead of your wife working makes me truly nauseas. If I were your wife, i would feel horribly guilty and would work on those grounds alone, let alone you going through a rigorous school program and don't need to worry about finances on to of that.

Yes. I agree... Nursing school is demanding too. There's literally NO point in switching careers now unless it's 100% because he likes the nursing path, because, as you know, Nurse and MD are two different beasts. To start over in nursing when you're in the home stretch of medical school is nonsense.... Might as well just be a chiropractor then because you're not going to make that much more and you're going to be doing a job you're not passionate about, which in Nursing is so incredibly important. That passion pushes you to do your absolute best even though everything around you is falling apart and keeps you from burning out. Same for being a doctor-and I can tell you're passionate about being a doctor. I'm not saying you can't be happy in Nursing, but I know people who have up being a doctor and they regret it because, as I said, it's a completely different focus. Although, I do make it off for every single field trip, class event, recital, extra curricular activity (not holidays though because, yeah, nurses have mandated holiday schedules and we just celebrate holidays on other days that we are off). I work full-time every other night to make sure I can make it to these things for my kids during the day along with maintaining a nice household and routines for my family-because it's an absolute priority for me. Personal sacrifice (lack of sleep), also a part of being an adult.

She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Proverbs 31:27 This verse is why I deleted my Facebook account. Even a small amount of time on it seemed wasteful. I don't have Twitter or any other social media account and I only registered here to answer this forum because I really feel for your situation. I was only on here to figure out how to study and obtain my RNC. I grew up in poverty and in an abusive household, with only 4.5 years of education of the K-12 grades. I was homeless and a teen mother. I am now married to the father of my 3 children. The minute I became a mom and a wife, my focus was on them-and yes that includes obtaining a good career to support my family, just as you are doing to support your family. After MANY long, sleepless and very stressful nights, I have overcome my obstacles, my the grace of God (oh and managed to get pregnant 3 times with no issues...I may going gray from stress, but I have my kiddos, so I'm blessed). I am now going to a Doctorate of Nursing Practice program in August, working fulltime (at night, every other night so I can be awake all day before and after work with my children and to BE THERE AND PRESENT FOR MY FAMILY). A wife and mother should think of her family and husband. First and foremost, I have my husband's best interests at heart. There's a lot of comments on here about compromise. She needs to compromise so you can accomplish your goals as you've made comprises for her as it is very clear. However, first and foremost, you are the head of the household and she should be supportive of yours goals that will support your family in the long run. I am not perfect and I have much to improve on, but I just wanted to share my story to show you that you should complete what you set out to do and what you've been blessed with...so many people would give their right arm to be able to be in medical school (and be good at it). Also, to show you your wife is not acting appropriately and supportively towards you. I hope God will direct you towards the right path, my brother. Proverbs 21:19 ESV It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman. Proverbs 12:4 ESV An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 21:9 ESV It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. Proverbs 14:1 ESV The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.

Please don't give up on your dreams. You're almost there and youre good at it. DONT have a child. It's stressful. The stress will lead to more fights, more strain on your marriage if you have a strong foundation already. NEVER use a child to try to fix adult issues. That's never works and will leave you feeling resentful towards your wife.

I know several people from the Philippines. 2 work full-time while the men stay at home. They give money to their families back home because they earn it. Another one works 2 jobs. The only one I know who didn't work for a little bit was because she had small children. She worked before and works now AND her husband is a millionaire. People need to be productive, active members of society to be happy.

Also, the religion you speak of....look to that too. Because I know my religion, which I think is the same as yours, talks about woman being wise, doing things well for the family and being strong for the tasks....not sitting on Facebook all day.