Clara38

I agree. In that sense yes. I did the walk the talk and did not blame or get angry at anyone for not having time. My first time around in chem my bff was busy but started their "life" at that point i didnt know where or what was going on. Well my bff was not around for that class due to their own situation. Well i failed chem and trying to pass i failed my nsg lecture class also. 2 strikes my first real semester with nursing classes. I had to wait a year and got pushed back. i failed because i did not depend on me and take chemistry alone. I should of made a decision based on what I could handle. I wasn't responsible. So i learned a lot. so if her friend is acting less than thankful she should tell her friend her disability is her responsability as an adult. Getting help doesnt mean you give the driver seat for someone to drive for you. ADD is manageable and its the person's responsability to seek and get the necessary tools like a recorder. No one told me to do everything i did. I learned by doing. so yes i was the annoying classmate with the tape recorder clicking when it stopped and I ran to switch the tape. Ofcourse my recorder had to be exactly by the professor. I still poked and asked the teacher in class immediately when i was not clear. Although i was loved by my huge class ithey all wanted to kill me lol. Yet all that and more here I am. my advice to our new friend walk away let her learn no matter what the disability you can still do if the person fights for it. In my opinion the friend has to learn. you are all intelligent ladies and thank you for kindly explaining what I missed on the thread that makes alot of difference. lastly, don't speak to her until you get at least an apology then you put down the law and let her know the boundaries because shes wrong. take care !!!

The reason why i commented on your post is because I also like your friend suffered understanding. It was so hard but you know who pulled me even when I thought i couldnt. The people that cared enough. Im not 18 im older and started older. The friends that were there were all high achievers and just helped me. Finally i learned how to learn. What to do etc. for chem my friend no lie- 8hrs daily but i passed. He was a Bio major. Later in life when things happened in his life guess who was there me. My best friend in Nsg school. Not only was he the leader of study groups but straight A student. young, busy but everywhere he was I was too. He supported me. Later in life my bff mom lost her fight to Cancer. Before she passed i had to go over and bathe her after having a bm that yes was very messy. My friend in tears called and I ran to be there. When my friend disclosed something society is still divided on. I not only supported but was the only person that knew. Now my bff not only has gotten blessed but lives a good RN. All im saying, the same friend that needs you now can be your greatest support and be there for you on a really tough day when you cant do it alone. look read my post again. Tell your friend to register at disabilities office but go with her. She may feel stupi and dumb. Also she may feel like a failure and wortless. the other thing once she does that then sit her down and suggest she takes certain classes alone and even if her program is longer is better then failing. i took all a&p 1 at a time with electives like tennis, swimming. telling teachers is tough. Some look at you like a waste of space others do help you. You cannot just ask for help. Having a disability really sucks. Having 3 sucks worse. be a good friend. The faster you helpher get set up with a plan the faster the load and weight will decrease on you. I get your situation but if you don't help her who will. Friends dont leave friends behind. there is always a solution. Dont stress so much. But please take her to register its rasy and confidential. They also can help find what tools she needs to learn and also help her

Hi!! How are things. I'm sorry back in October I was so stressed and worried i didnt read and answer to your post. Im doing better and if you are in need of advice or just have a question let me know!!

Also tell your friend to buy a good recorder to tape the class. Then she should write word for word. She will understand and it will help her.

Yes its called time management. In Nursing specially at the hospital what will you do if a patient not someone you know needs your help as you walk past the room to go home. Pt was not yours. Morning shift is there. You have an appt or kids to get to school. Will you walk pass the blinking light and a pt calling you come? Fyi its never 5 min . You go expect a 45 min or less. what will you do? An RN that is not self consumed or selfish will enter the room to make sure its not an emergency then get someone else to help or the Nurse will just do it. Pt wants to go to bathroom, walks slow, etc life is full of situations that are unexpected and not planned. You stated i showed her how to study smartly?? have you considered that maybe what she needs is just to take an hr. ReAd the notes to her slowly as she reads with you. Ask her did you understand that and do that every 2 to 3 sentences. Honestly, yes you have to study but if your work ethics reflects your current actions please do some soul searching. Nursing specially on the floor is about being a team. Those that decide to be loners make the floor a nightmare and horrible for all. The word is Team. If you arent married, nor have kids please make time for someone you call your friend. Right now you turned your back on a person with a disability. You are in school. Learn to help all types of people. The world outside school is composed of some people who know absolutely nothing in terms of medicine. Some are so elderly they cant hear yet you the RN need to do your duty and teach the patient what they need before discharge. Also the deaf, non-English speaking, all ages. Please review and think hard of your actions. You are becoming an RN. Yes u need boundaries but that doesnt mean ignore. If you feel you are to busy to help your friend have you at least asked someone that may say yes, called disability office, asked anyone to see if u can at least find her options. doing nothing and ignoring someone that asks for your help is not what an RN was supposed be like. take care

Ok until now interviewing was my thing. please buy executive navy blue and black business suit. Buy skirt suit and heels. Look as if you are there to run a company or be an attorney. Dont polish or put fake nails on. Nails short no color maybe clear. Hair up. Small earrings with a neutral color. Make sure your makeup is as natural and non attention grabbing. Always sit straight and look at ok at the interviewers eyes and stay there. Make sure everything that you bring to give to them. Bring 3 copies in case they want extras. although you sell yourself as a compassionate person make sure you also say you have a strong personality that helps you through high stress situations by simply doing only what is expected to deliver excellent care. Also if you have an issue he ans is continue to maintain professionalism and would seek the help of charge or supervisor. Learn to deligate. Deligating is part of knowing how to manage time. Get to work on time and punch out in time. All charting has to be done. You will be part of a team so deligate and help when necessary. Take care

1. Finish the program. If you don't your integrity and responsability will be at question. 2. Unfortunately, sorry to tell you upfront. By taking the position in onc instead of waiting It out, sorry but now just stay, focus, and deliver. 3. Review the policy that deals with transfers. 4. Some places is 1 yr and others 6 months 5 also YES your manager will be contacted the minute they want to talk to u. My suggestion. Stop looking through the job openings and get through your time in onc. You are working on a tough floor so just step up to the plate and learn alot. Take care and you will be where you need to be but patience and focus

The first step stop thinking and analyzing so much. Take a deep breath and just stay in 1 area. These decisions should never be done abruptly and fast. No one is firing you, hospitals aren't disappearing and money will not always be the same. This decision is not something to be impatient about. Kids grow up and their needs change. Money is never unless you are about to be homeless the reason to do or not do something. Will you have more kids? if you work nights are your kids covered? I personally wish I could work nights. The daily mon to Fri sucks for me. I loved the night schedule but you know best the needs that must be met. just dont rush. Why make a decision today, or tomorrow. Give yourself no set time but do think of you 1st. The rest falls in place. Good Luck

I did speak to the interviewer I get the feeling i'm just not experienced for what they need. It was weird my interview took longer than an hr. So now I'm trying to think what area i would like to go back into. I guess i just need time and something will come. Thank you!!

She has written articles on this site and has experience. I copied this: Nurse Beth, MSN, RN 160,049 Views Hi! Nice to meet you! I wear many hats: MedSurg Clinical Educator, Blogger, Consultant, Writer, Subject Matter Expert, past Nursing Manager of multiple units. I mentor new grads, precept graduate students and facilitate new grad Debriefing. I train Preceptors, teach Basic Arrhythmia, and try every day to help nurses get a good and supportive start in nursing. I also love Nutella.

Dear Nurse Beth, i need your knowledge and experience on this. I am living a better life after my rough beginning into recovery. I'm different from the inside out and have changed my behavior because i wanted to be who i was always meant to be. An outstanding, hardworking and caring RN. My daily struggle is not the medication I not only abused but also used to treat my depression I have had since i was a child. I have an active RN license with no medication restriction. Do what i need to do daily to not only stay clean but to help my spirit and soul remain peaceful and happy. I'm looking for work and recently got turned down. I was highly disappointed but now after assessing everything. Besides a wonderful and well structured resume is there a piece missing that i'm not seeing. I always feel great during interviews and confident but I don't feel as confident. I feel like I'm hiding a big part of me and i hate that. I'm an honest person and try to be but I feel I'm hiding so much. I wish i could just tell my interviewers Hi I'm Clara38 recovering addict. But of course i can't if I want to be hired. As if Im the only nurse in recovery. In a world where gay marriage is finally legal I have to hide a part of me. It makes me feel awful because I'm proud and don't regret my life. My experience made me Clara38 proud to be me. Yes I used and abused prescription pain medication but I became proud, strong, and happy me. How can I still be proud when i feel like i have to lie until a position is offered. The reality no one gives nursing jobs to a nurse that says hi i'm clara38 recovering addict. How can i look for work and present myself as honest when I'm waiting to let the real me when a manager offers me a job. Even just putting that out there feels wrong like i took a vacation without permission. i need your thoughts from where you stand. I need to feel confident to get the job. I feel im in conflict with what i feel is honest and the part were im not.

That night I was dehydrated and hadn't eaten anything. I had a Sx that makes it imperative I do both. That night I finished my shift did all my stuff I was just looking tired. I gave report and was on my way out. That's when something was said. My entire shift went by I did my job got out on time. I just don't know. anyhow what happened can't be fixed or fought. I've accepted that this is what I must deal with I turned a new page so the details don't matter to my today. I'm nervous and afraid I won't find work. I have a family and this has been tough on everyone. I just really want to know if finding work while in RAMP will be possible or is the reality something different. Thank for your thoughts on this matter

According to the board of nursing taking Percocet before going to work is the same as being under the influence. I was told that I should of called out of work.

Thank you so much for taking the time to post your comment. It's funny you mentioned working corrections. I mentioned it to my husband but he is concerned about safety and what happens if a riot happens. I'm not concerned I think I would do my job and not get involved at a personal level. I'm going to apply for it. Hopefully there's an opening. í ½í¸Š

I forgot to share the type of nursing I did. I was in Med Surg /urology/tele