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Thanks, so much, for all of the feedback. Especially to those of you who are currently working in PDN/have PDN experience and were able to enlighten me about how common this is. Since I posted this, I have just been taking the notes with a grain of salt, and just continued to be civil. I have not thrown them away (Lord knows I want to), but I have simply closed the communication book (instead of turning over the next page)at the beginning of my shift, so she has to go through more trouble to find her last love note to leave another, AND so I can ignore it easily throughout my shift. (Hehe) I've found that having my bag ready to go and on my shoulder helps create a sense of urgency to get through report faster, and making my reports specifically highlight the things I already did to make her day easier (like I would do with any day nurse) has made our interaction more bearable. Mostly because I don't give her any more time to say much or practically do her assessment while I'm talking. (Lol)...anyway, I am awaiting a callback from another agency (not PDN) and hope to land a position where I no longer report to anybody :) wish me luck!

I, in general, am not a confrontational person, which I know is something I need to overcome in the face of adversity. However, this particular person, I feel, is not one to take criticism lightly herself (can dish it but can't take it). I basically have just been doing my job to the best of my ability while keeping in mind I still have room for improvement. Wasn't till just this week I started getting more offended. Plus, if you see my other post above, she is friends with the main CM, and I'm not trying to stir the pot.

Why hasn't the agency noted the 2 month pattern??? well, I can't go into too much detail, but I have several theories as to why the pattern exists, both related to and unrelated to this specific pt. However, I'm starting to wonder if the fact that the main case manager being friends with the aforementioned LVN has anything to do with them not really caring about any other nurse leaving, except for her. They even prevented another day nurse from covering for this LVN while she was on vacation, because neither the LVN or the MOC liked her. Even if I did try to handle this with management, I definitely feel it would be her word over mine in any event. Too many additional cons with my current position to put much more energy into being happier here.

Meanmaryjean, first off, congrats on all of your accomplishments and good luck with your doctorate! :) I believe you hit the nail right on the head. Too attached, AlphaNurse syndrome. That may explain why all other nurses for the past 2 years have never stayed for more than 2 months with this client. Heck, I just finished an interview for another company myself, haha. As xoemmylouox stated, I have the choice to either deal with it or transfer...so I chose to transfer :) Thanks for the input and perspectives, you guys! Best wishes to you all :)

I used to not think so either, Libby1987 but I omitted many other examples of how she has belittled me in front of the mother of the client, as well. I am always accepting of constructive criticism, especially since I'm less than 5 yrs deep into nursing, but when the criticism becomes more frequent and derogatory overtime, that's when I feel bullied. Especially since she made it clear how she feels about RNs.

I used to not think so either, but I omitted many other examples of how she has belittled me in front of the mother of the client, as well. I am always accepting of constructive criticism, especially since I'm less than 5 yrs deep into nursing, but when the criticism becomes more frequent and derogatory overtime, that's when I feel bullied. Especially since she made it clear how she feels about RNs.

I love that idea, immortalessence! Haha! Wish I could, but I'm sure she would just write me a longer note next shift, telling me why I NEED her notes and how I didn't even crumble the note correctly prior to tossing it in the trash. I'm glad you can understand my annoyance on this one. Not to mention, she starts out every note with "MAKE SURE..." -_-

Eating junk food...and researching every single home remedy ever before considering a trip to the doctor.

Thank you for responding! :) I mostly just needed to vent, but I certainly appreciate your two cents. This nurse and I definitely don't mesh well personality-wise, as she is very meticulous and serious, as I am more relaxed and have kind of a "hey, I'm just glad we didn't have a crazy emergency" attitude. Maybe our backgrounds have made us so different, as well. I feel like having hospital/floor nursing experience makes you more focused on clinically critical aspects of patient care, as opposed to having all your undivided attention on one single patient for years and noticing when even one hair is out of place. But yes, I am also thankful we do not have to interact with each other, beyond report, because even that is painful at times. Sometimes I leave my shift just rolling my eyes and shaking my head.

So, I have been an RN for a few years, with both hospital and home health experience. Let's just say I am well aware of my strengths and weaknesses by now. Currently, I am a private duty nurse at night, and only have one other nurse to give report to during the day. Since I have started, this LVN (not that the title matters to me, as I see us both as equal in the nursing world) has made condescending remarks towards RNs (even after acknowledging that I'm one of them), such as "yeah, I thought she was an RN, so I ASSUMED she would have her s*** together, but apparently not!", and "As an RN, [insert numerous insults here]". Anywho, her background is a few years in private duty nursing and a short time in psych. We seemed to get along ok at first, even after she made the first RN comment, but then I soon felt as though she started bullying me. She has been with our patient (her only current patient) for about 2 years. I don't know if it's bc this is her only pt that she chooses to nit-pick every aspect of this patient's care in a very derogatory manner, or if she feels some hatred toward me as an RN, but she loves to leave me little "love notes" almost every shift, basically pointing out every. Single. Thing. That she thinks I did wrong. Not only will she point it out and write a novel about how it NEEDS to be from now on, but she always includes a whole paragraph attempting to teach me why it needs to be done that way.... I'm sorry, not only do I find this annoying, but I feel insulted that she feels the urge to teach me something I already know, as a nurse. Perhaps I left something not exactly perfect or to her liking by the end of my 10 hr shift, but I have never done anything to jeopardize the patient or to constitute a written lecture on how to be a nurse. I honestly don't know if she means well or if she is trying to bring an RN down to make herself feel superior as an LVN. I normally would never think that (as I have respect for ALL nurses alike), but the way she has exuded such a negative perspective of RNs, she makes me feel so bad for being a peasant RN, like I don't deserve the title, since I can't meet her ridiculous OCD standards. Am I overreacting or being hypersensitive?