rn.CB

Grn Tea you seem to post more than any other person here, and u are annoyed about the posts, so you make snide little jabs...why don't you try going one day not opening this website ... especially when you browse through and intentionally open headlines that "bug" you so you can let them know this? Seems like you have hit rock bottom with your allnurses "addiction"

I will recommend you move your posts elsewhere. Not every thread is meant to be a rapid-fire attack on other people's comments. This thread was about reflecting on the loss of such a loved person... For the record, for someone with bipolar I disorder, taking meds is not a friendly suggestion, it is an absolute necessity. Most do not appreciate your stigmas that mental illness is a made up thing...

I know this discussion so far has been about food, and I'm sure there are other examples of the OPs concern... In our facility most things require an order, but some of the things that nurses have the discretion to order include things like ordering a kin air bed for a patient with pressure sores, ordering a wound care consult, and when patients come back from procedures NPO the diet order states: NPO, advance diet at the RN's judgement, to full regular diet. A lot of it is MD orders, but those were a few i could think of that are in the hands of nursing judgement...

Agree, denying a person meal or taking authority of this most primitive human function is documented somewhere in psychology literature. Come to think of it, I recall instances in my very early new grad days; a nurse makes a little antagonistic remark when I tried to run to the bathroom before doing some task. I ended up waiting on the bathroom. This nurse was a bully by no means, but I am just now recalling the little control attempts with eating and elimination during preceptorship. Maybe on some deeper level, the denial of someones most instinctive human behaviors is a control mechanism... Maybe its just us nurses that do this...however, taking on the job of deciding if and when someone can pee....just a tad beyond the preceptor's umbrella of authority...lol

I agree with some of the above posts, that isolated and unrelated, its less clear what the context is. If the list of events are by one nurse with actual (higher up) or perceived authority (seniority among staff nurses) towards another nurse, as with a preceptor/orientee, then it becomes a clearer picture of consistent hostility that is directed at someone in a lower level of power. When the person's hosile behavior is only directed at the one below them, while other staff are treated more respectfully, then this is targeted aggression to me.

I had the same experience with this type of person: my very first nursing job lasted a whole two weeks at an outpatient chemo infusion center. The woman who trained me was so horrible to me: she completely drove me out. All the same micromanaging, in the 2 weeks i was there, i did not even hang a single bag of NS or press the start button on an iv pump. I would ask her if i could do more and she always would say not yet. I was the person who wrote on the phlebotomy tubes with a sharpy, would follow her around, trying to participate, and she would belittle me in front of the patients. One day during lunch I was flipping through an oncology nursing journal that was on the table in the break room, and she walks in and says I should not even be looking at that yet, as it would be way over my head. Huh? I offered a consoling gesture to a young newly diagnosed cancer patient who was very sad and anxious, and she took me aside and told me not to, as I was not ready to handle emotional paitents. One day she started yelling down the hallway that I might as well just leave because I clearly dont want to do any work...this was because I was in the break room for 5 minutes having a cup of water. My confidence was zero at that point...I was literally emotionally stunned by this witch. Even though she completely blocked me from learning anything I continued to ask if I could start the iv, pull the meds (nonchemo) or possibly give an iv push of zofran. She would always put it off by saying things like: "ill tell you what you can do, you can get that sharpy out and start labeling the tubes". This went on for 2 weeks, I left crying most days, and finally the manager pulled me in and said I just was not getting it, and the patients were not comfortable with me, and so they were letting me go. I totally lost it, and I finally had the power back, and the courage to say the things I should have addressed after week 1. I told her how horrible this woman was to me, and that its no suprise the patients were not comfortable, when she continually critiques me in front of them, what else could they feel? I then suggested that she look into the research on how new grads learn, because there is much literature, and that this was not a healthy work environment. When I finally spoke up the manager admitted that it was her fault and that she was biting off more than she could chew with hiring a new grad. Anywho, 2 months later got hired into an RN residency at a reputable hospital, its been over a year, and my 2 weeks in chemo nursing are just a faint memory. OP It seems like you handled it much better than I did in terms of conflict management...although in the end we had the same fate, for me-- getting fired was freeing me to do what I was meant to do and it was the best gift they could have given me.

About to stir some feathers, but this thread has so many avenues of attack: the word-smiths who are trying to dissect expressions into a literal meaning: ie "not in it for the money" is defined as work you would do for free. Huh? Unless the person said they would do it for free then it is highly unlikely that is what they meant. (People who say that are full of sh*£) To me not in it for the money means that you chose the career bc you want to earn a living doing something you find meaningful, or gratifying, etc. Then we have the avenue of attack on the people who are lucky enough to have the quality of being naturally compassionate - sorry guys but compassionate people are not actors - those who think this are the ones who have to pretend - or fake it as you will. Being a highly sensitive person has many draw backs, but the one thing i would never trade is the ability to feel and be genuine - the draw back is the over emotional side. I am not saying that every single pt care encounter is like that - but the ability to be emotionally present and connect with (some of) these people is why i do this... I am not trying to be an elitist, its just how my brain works. If you are this type, then you probably cannot watch old yeller from an intellectual perspective thinking about the Patho of rabies - you will be there bawling your eyes out at the thought of the the kid shooting his dog, and overcome by sadness for the innocent dog...sorry for the ramble...now for the flood gates counter arguements headed my way...