"My dad is end stage COPD with spine compression fractures. He is DNR. He wishes to die at home if possible and, even when "healthy" suffers from mucus plugs that cause rapid desaturation and deterioration to such a point that it has resulted in his last several hospitalization/intubations." Just a little bit of information that has not yet been mentioned... Your dad would not be eligible for hospice services if he is still seeking treatment at the hospital. Your dad would qualify for hospice services based on the severity of his COPD, but continuing treatment is contrary to hospice guidelines. Make sure your dad is ready for this next step before he signs up. I had a similar problem recently with a patient whose daughter took her to the emergency room for a dizzy spell. The patient was immediately discharged from services and it is still not clear whether we will be able to accept her back or not. Also as far as choosing a hospice company, I would make sure they are JACHO certified and that the nurses have CHPN (certified hospice & Palliative Nurse) designation. If your dad were my patient, I would be sure to educate your mother on exactly what needs to be done should your dad go into respiratory distress suddenly. (Sit patient up, administer morphine and lorazepam, increase oxygen or point a fan in patient's direction, etc.) Also educate on what to expect in the dying process as far as common signs/symptoms. I have found that family members are more comfortable when they fully understand the process. If it seems that your mother is simply not going to be able to deal with the situation, select a hospice with an inpatient unit. This way, he can be admitted during the final stage for continuous nursing care. Just knowing that this is an option might give your mother some peace of mind. I wish you and your family well. This is a difficult time for you. There are many services that hospice offers that can be helpful such as chaplain, social worker, therapist, bereavement services for 12 months after death, and more depending on your state. Do take advantage of all that is available to you.