Help the man to the commode! All that seems like to me is that the nurse doesn't want to bother with her patients needs or DIGNITY. For goodness sake, wouldnt it save him/her time to help him to the commode to go rather than answer call lights all day/night long?!? I work on a stroke floor and these people are already dealing with loss of function, if he can get to the commode with assist, at LEAST give him that!