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Why put up with it then? Other than saying, I have to and its my job. Why is it acceptable to tear down others before raising them up?

Hi all, I've got two scenarios for you guys. Honestly, I don't know where to begin with this. I don't know what to do about it or if I should do anything about it. I am asking about this because I care! I want to help and I'd like opinions on what you do or if you have an experience to share that is similar to these. Under normal circumstances, meaning when I am not in school, I do not tolerate any disrespect or do not care what others think or say about me. I have no problem voicing how I feel. However, since I am in school I am not so open to be as outspoken as I would be normally. The school rules go: "No disrespect" and that goes for students and professors alike. So, why is it that I am the only one that observes this rule? My professors don't observe it. If anyone is so inclined to question something of what the professor has said or not said in class, not only does that person get humiliated in front of the whole class but also gets yelled at SOOO loudly that the student in question wants to run and hide and cry. No wonder why we don't want to ask any questions if this is how we are going to be treated. Our class is a quiet class because of this. Simply put, we don't want to be yelled at or made an example. People do ask questions but not as freely as they probably could in my class. Why must we tolerate the wrath from an instructor but not be able to retaliate back? What fairness or respect is in that? If you want us to open up and speak our minds, you can't be insulted of what may or may not come out of our mouths. I pity my classmate who had to put up with that. Students don't observe "respect" either. There is a girl in my class (no, it's not me)who is different from others in the class. Actually, there are a few like her but as an example I will use her. The girl is quiet and soft-spoken, but very nice to everyone. She doesn't participate in conversations with other students during lecture breaks, or before class starts or ends, and she disappears at lunch break. Students don't go out of their way to make her feel welcomed or include her in conversation or activities. Yet, she is singled out by students and professors alike when something is "wrong". It doesn't matter if she said or did NOTHING, they point in her direction. For example, one student in class will answer a question asked in class by the professor. If the student answers the question wrong, the professor will focus in on this poor girl as if SHE answered the question wrong, and then continue to act as if she knows nothing! It is condescending, belittling and degrading. Instead of correcting the student who made the mistake, the other girl receives the blame. Do you see where I am going with this? How is this fair? If this girl does not have an inferiority complex, this type of treatment would do it! Whatever conversation she does bring to the table other students don't acknowledge it, they disregard it, or act as if she has said nothing at all. The students joke abouther quiet and soft-spoken demeanor, they don't understand her. I see students rolling their eyes or smiling at each other when this girl is in their presence and they are annoyed by her. Instead of trying to get to know her, they do their best to ignore her. No one verbally says anything mean to this girl that I could tell, but non-verbal body language is very different. It is hard to explain. The girl's insecurity shows whether she wants it to or not, people can see it and its painful to watch. Because of this, she falls prey to whatever is "wrong". I feel bad for her. No, I do not agree with this type of treatment. You may ask, "Well, why doesn't she say or do something about it?" I don't know. I couldn't tell you. All I can observe is from what I may or may not know about this person. I don't like seeing or hearing people being treated this way. I know I wouldn't tolerate it. Do I stick up for her or do I encourage her to do it for herself? Or, is it best to not say anything because you never know what the faculty or professors may have up their sleeves. Should a person say or do anything at all regarding this? If so, can or should it be done anonymously? Nursing students are under enough pressure as it is. Do we really need to add more fuel to the fire? Is this a case of shut up and put up? Why? I doubt this girl or anyone else in her shoes wants to put up with this for the next two years. I will have the upmost respect for her (I do now)if she graduates and doesn't quit school. I feel like she is being singled out to quit or fail What would you do?