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PLEASE SEND ADVICE by [COLOR=#003366]makeadifrence 6:25 pm A member since Apr '12. Posts: 7 Likes: 8 :(I've recently transferred into a new position within the same physician office that I've been employed with for 2 years. My frustration with this new position is that I'm being trained by an RN who has only been with the company 2 months, is overly self-confident and assertive, has only been a nurse for 2 years, and will not accept when she is wrong or hear other perspectives on issues. She is very young about mid twenties and I'm mid forties. When she is training me on the computer, my charting is being torn apart and my ideas are being disputed as if I'm a new grad. I've been a nurse for about 4 years, and prior to that I have worked in a hospital 11 years as a therapist in mental health. I've also been a technician provided various testing to patients. I have quite a few years of exerience interacting with patients and a lot of life experience. Interacting with this young nurse is very very difficult. It is not a colaboration of thoughts and ideas. Even when I have stated that I know how to chart, and that we have different opinions, it doesn't sink in. She always has to be right. I feel stuck and I don't want to be labeled as a problem, or thought of as someone who can't get along with others. This department is a new clinic with just the two of us working there. This nurse was brought in before me, so she has already taken control of running the office. Management is very removed and we're on our own a lot. This RN has also informed me that she is the lead RN. The manager denies this is true. I feel very frustrated and stuck in this position. I know the position is something that I will like, but I'm miserable in this situation with this other nurse. To top it all off, I'm extremely shy and have struggled with self-confidence my entire life. Please help.

:(Please, I need some advice. I've recently transferred into a new position within the same physician office that I've been employed with for 2 years. My frustration with this new position is that I'm being trained by an RN who has only been with the company 2 months, is overly self-confident and assertive, has only been a nurse for 2 years, and will not accept when she is wrong or hear other perspectives on issues. She is very young about mid twenties and I'm mid forties. When she is training me on the computer, my charting is being torn apart and my ideas are being disputed as if I'm a new grad. I've been a nurse for about 4 years, and prior to that I have worked in a hospital 11 years as a therapist in mental health. I've also been a technician provided various testing to patients. I have quite a few years of exerience interacting with patients and a lot of life experience. Interacting with this young nurse is very very difficult. It is not a colaboration of thoughts and ideas. Even when I have stated that I know how to chart, and that we have different opinions, it doesn't sink in. She always has to be right. I feel stuck and I don't want to be labeled as a problem, or thought of as someone who can't get along with others. This department is a new clinic with just the two of us working there. This nurse was brought in before me, so she has already taken control of running the office. Management is very removed and we're on our own a lot. This RN has also informed me that she is the lead RN. The manager denies this is true. I feel very frustrated and stuck in this position. I know the position is something that I will like, but I'm miserable in this situation with this other nurse. To top it all off, I'm extremely shy and have struggled with self-confidence my entire life. Please help.

Since you're keeping your problem to yourself, when you use your intermittent FMLA what do you say is the problem when you call off? I'm curious b/c I have major depression, and I am going to obtain an intermittent FMLA.

I have really learned my lesson about sharing too much personal information. Lately I have really noticed that I have wanted to share information about my private life with coworkers that I am comfortable with, and holding back. I'm glad that I am able to stop myself. I'm going to continue to do this, and try to continue to hang in there with my current job. I'm so nervous at times that I have made small clerical errors on paperwork such as forgetting to mark if the patient was male or female, or posting the report in the computer under the wrong office. I'm trying so hard to calm myself so that I can focus and concentrate better. Everyone's comments are really helping me. Thank you. C

I really appreciate your feedback and I sympathize with you. I wish the best for you, and hope that you can get through your situation.

Thank you for your kind words. I am currently in therapy and plan to continue for some time.

Don't give up. It doesn't matter what other people think. It matters what you think and what you want. Nursing school is very hard, and many people don't succeed the first time. They've gone back and become great nurses.

Not your fault at all. You did your job. It was the nurse's responsibility to double check the temperature.It was extremely unprofessional to blame you, especially in front of the patient's parents. That nurse should be reprimanded. If that nurse has a problem with the way you took the temperature, it is also her responsibility to show you how to properly take a temperature.

I've been a RN for over three years and am still very fearful about working as a nurse. Before I go into work I can't stop thinking about making possible mistakes and who will think that I am incompetent. It seems I lack self confidence more than any of the nurses that have been in nursing as long as I have. I've tried three different areas of nursing (telemetry, ICU, and cardiac testing.) I've been working in my current job for the past year doing testing. There were some major issues in my personal life before I decided to become a nurse like my house burned down and we rebuilt. When I started an accelerated nursing program at 41, my sister died. Then I got my 1st job in telemetry and after a year, my father-in-law died. I took a job in ICU at that time, and it just was too hectic for me so I resigned. Finally I found a job in cardiac testing. About a month after I started there, my teenage daughter had a depressive breakdown. I was beside myself in a new job and torn between needing to be there for her. I sought out professional help for her and for me to help me cope with the new job and to help me take care of my daughter. Over the course of eight months my daughter responded very well to treatment, but I had a depressive breakdown and had to take a leave from my job. When I came back to work I felt close to my coworkers who were concerned for me. I told them why I had been off work. This was a big mistake. I am now being scrutinized in everything that I do. I have no self esteem. I feel that no one trusts me. I have overheard coworkers talking about me. My boss is tired of me having depressive episodes. Many of my peers are constantly reporting back to her of my performance. I now keep to myself, do my job one patient at a time, don't tell my boss when I'm struggling, and pretend nothing is bothering me. The whole time I'm worrying that something will go wrong or I'm going to make a mistake and look like a fool. I have constant self doubt. There's also a great fear of talking to the doctors because a lot of them are demoralizing. Please, any feedback would greatly be appreciated.