willowRN

Bloody hell this is a hard decision.. Early this year I got what I thought was my dream job. It was in a step down ICU at a huge great hospital. Well I really really liked the system but I've not grown to love the unit, it was boring and my co-workers are all like motherly like following me around because they got nothing to do. I hated it because I'm independent and though I look young I really really know my stuff. I'm beginning to hate looking young too because it gets in the way motherly looking people gets respect right away while looking young you continualy have to prove yourself and it sucks and it's exhausting. I just want to start all over figure out how to decrease my frustration. I have another FT job where I'm valued in the meantime. Oh well, anyway i'm planning on putting my 2 weeks in, was it really terrifying to resign? How did you guys do it? Because I'm terrifed :OOOO I dont know why I really like the nursing supervisor who hired me though I didnt want to quit so soon but I am miserable on that job. I still have to work just 3 days before I'm fully out and I wish I didnt have to I hated it that much. I really loved the hospital though I hope I can go back on another unit and this time I'll deal with it better. I just need to breathe I was disappointed but I took a risk and I'm proud of myself for that. Huh what am I gonna say when I turn my resignation in :??? bloody hell this is killing me i gotta make peace with myself thanks guys just sharing or rambling.

and at the same time I feel great to have saved the patient Lots of time there are emergency situations at night and they have new interns covering who basically because they're new have a lot to learn still. So when my patients are going bad I call them and tell them what to order basically labs, tests, meds, and everything. And they didn't have a clue at first until I told them. And then come their superior with them at bedside and they were like" I ordered this and this and that" and the superior was like good job. And I was like right there, kinda feeling rotten because they just took credit for my input. I have to deal with this the healthy way because it happens so often, i guess is the up side is the patients are saved. And that's the most important thing. I guess I just have to let go of my pride and do good for the sake of doing good I do that butI'm human I'm bound to act less divinely sometimes, You know I gues where this is stemming from is as nurses we get so little appreciation at times.

Some nurses liketo browse the entire chart of the patient during end fo shift which does not really work out if you only got 30 mins. to give report for 7 patients. Is it okay and how do you politely say that I've given all the pertinent information and can she please browse on her own time? I'm having a lot of stress giving report . I mean some llook uninterested, I guess I'll just have to ignore them and go on with it. But it's nice to feel like you're understood. I don't if that's because I sound serious or what but if I sound light my voice sounds like a kidand i dont want that hmm. ---really young hard working nurse who just wants to be understood and taken seriously

i work in a telemetry/ progressive care unit and we get like 7 patients max of 8 Now some patients and their family members are so demanding you're gonna spend all your day in their room with all their requests. Like wanting to transfer patient every hour when she's like total assist.. stuff like that. what can we do ?!

I am starting my second job which is part time on April 1st. The thing is the first 2 weeks is central orientation ands it's 5 weekdays. I work 3 12s on my first job I would need to get a day off to make it through the transportaion. How do I put this nicely to my manager? Thank you

what's this BS of one person being important than the other? Seriously, that's way off the mark

This is irrelevant, supposing that my problem with this particular person represents the entire transporter population, very wrong

Alright you guys never mind, I feel that making this post is a mistake. I feel like one of those victims who made the mistake of speaking up and just being ridiculed. When I say a transporter is acting angry towards me that is what I meant, some posts make up sad stories to explain this behavior which is useless. Assuming that I am an idiot person with emotional intelligence of an ant not to try discerning a situation before asking help about it. Those comments are really shallow. Thank you to those who assumed my assessment of the situation is competent that led me towards actionable solutions and did not make me feel guilty by being threatened and asking for help.

well first off he always looked like an angry person, very angry but esp. weird I think it started when he came to pick my patient and he had to wait some because I am dealing with a critical one. Ever since then when he sees me he looks like he wants to punch me. And he doesn't even make me sign back the patient which we do routinely. He's like acting out or something but quietly. I know an off behavior when I see one this is one. geez how do i deal with this guy. I've been ignoring but i want to confront him next time and say like "You look like you want to punch me" Idk this has to stop it makes me uncomfortable

I was in a job interview for a second job that I think went really well. And I really like the position. She told me there were two positions available a full time and a 20 hr/week. My problem is I have not informed her nor denied this would be my SECOND JOB. Frankly I want the full time one. I think I could work 3 12s on my other job and another 3 12s here. I need the money to help support my parents who are both unemployed and my sister going to college... I know prospective employers routinely check with current employers. I wonder if they ask if they are aware such and such is leaving? And of course my current employer would tell them I am just looking for a part time job because that's what I told her. And the prospective employer would be flabbergasted to discover that. As with my experience I had another interview that went perfectly well, I was absolutely sure I was gonna get it. They even assured me they just need to check my references. I told them I was gonna quit my job if I got hired. Which is not true. It's my mistake. Two days later after my manager told me they had called and she told them I am not leaving. I received a rejection email Now I don't want this to happen again with my other prospective job. Should I be perfectly honest to my prospective employer I am keeping a second job? Given that they'll not consider me for a full time, no? Should I call her and let her know I should be considered for the 20 hr shift then? it was at my fingertips I feel regretful. Although I did what I thought best before. I sincerely need your opinion so I will not make the same mistake if it was.. thank you very much..

I'm 10 months now in my facility and recently i have sent out applications and got 3 interviews from my dream hospital I am absolutely ecstatic about it considering the prior pain I went through as a new grad RN I really would love to at least finish one year into my current one and then work as contingent there if ever I should get an offer full time from my dream one the thing is, what if I don't? Will managers be upset to have other hospitals calling references about the RNs they invested on? From the average view, do managers become indifferent when they learn that a particular employee is planning to leave them? Does it look like Im planning to leave them when someone ask for a reference? Should I let my manager know in advance about my plans then? Does that kind of talk usually happen? How to deal my more experienced soul sisters.. I wanna make this work out. And one more thing about interviewing part time, do I tell them that I'm gonna keep my full time job? Or should I say I'll resign. If I wouldn't has anyone of had experience of orientating for part time position for 2 weeks and still able to work your full time day job? haha How can that be arranged? Thank you so much for everything!! ^________^

i worked 12hr day shift and then stayed over for 4 more hours. so I get off at 11 pm. I made sure I got everything by that time. Nurses who come relieving you should be there on time are they not? No they come in late around 1115. You give them time to fuss around and let their lazy asses settled so insensitive to others waiting on them to act like a nurse who means business. on top of that i noticed this charge nurse is really whiny instead of fixing the gadamm assignment. What I did, I rewrote my report sheet made sure everything is in there. And then at 1140 I couldn't take it anymore I handed it to them and told them very clearly it is 1140 it's time for me to go I couldnt keep my ride waiting any longer than 40 mins. And the nerve she told me in a very bossy way that she's done now and I could find the whoever the nurse was and start giving oral report. In my opinion I followed policy I waited 30 mins. And what gets to me is how others can be so insensitive but oh well .I am a very quiet person, when she told me that I went ballistic iinside i narrowed my eyes at her. And I guess they noticed it cause the other nurses came consoling. The charge nurse even tried to talk to me again, I just couldnt speak to her I was disgusted. So I left the report sheet to consoling nurses. I was disgusted. What I felt I think is justified. But I guess I'm still second guessing it because I'm a really kind of non-fussy tryna keep everything calm person dont wanna ruffle feathers. But i realized a lot of people are really gonna step all over you. even if you are tinsy bit nice. hhaha now i got it out of my chest thanks

so there was a very mean employee im calling on the phone for my patient. After I hung up, I said ***** and an employee overheard me. This happened a few months ago and She reported it to the manager. And the manager wants to talk to me now. I feel sorry aboutit , I know I shouldnt have. It was at the end of the day and I was very stressed with high acuity patient loadand I needed to make sure the painet will be okay but she's hanging up on me. I have always been soft spoken and I would never do this again. I'm so sorry I said this.

i swear i feel so mad right now I can cry. i need to vent okay so I work 12 hour shifts from 7 am to 730 pm and boy it's hard since it's usually 6-7 high acuity patients but this ****** oncoming nurse is just a really bad way to end the day. she comes in, just in time to give report then she makes you wait while she browse through which takes about 30 mins more and you're so tired you can die right there but she doesn't care. finally when she's ready it takes 15 minutes one patient at a time because she just DOESN'T LISTEN!!!!!!!!!!! she interrupts me, she doesn't let me speak myself, she butts in and butts in, she doesn't effing wait to hear what you have to say, i have to repeat myself like 5 times, and she wants to review the whole effing which if she just would listen i will give her all the pertinent information. She corrects me when there's nothing to correct because she DOESN"T LISTEN and i end up correcting her assumptions again. Bottom line she acts like a know-it-all who is really stupid and very inconsiderate. I think I should I write her up, I need to get done on time. What do you guys think? i'm a new hire and fairly young. so i work extra hard for i feel like i need to prove myself. and i'm so effing tired of nurses like this who act all superior when they dont do half the **** i do. some nurses who got comfortable doing their jobs they just dont care and they've been in the facility so long they're laissez faire. i hope someone could relate to this. i feel so unholy right now with all the anger i'm feeling. i guess i keep it all bottled up. i always smile try to get along with everybody, always extra kind. i wasnt even faking it it's just the way i am but now i feel like i'm turning into monster. because i realize nobody freaking care everybody is for themselves. if you're kind they take advantage of you. and i'm tired of it, but if i do speak up idk i just dont want to be ganged upon since im just here for half a year. and they're like decades or half a decade, see all new nurses leave. I feel sick and unappreciated and soiled

Oh you guys are amazing. I just want to let you know how I appreciate all your replies. It feels good to have somebody to bare my insecurities to as I dont know if it's like this for you too. But everytime I go to work I know I have to be brave and strong for my patients I'm like their mama bear hahahha. So it's really really nice to have someone to talk to and even have you understand what I'm going through and offer encouragement and advise. It feel so light and happy and ready to conquer again, believe in myself again. And cast away my doubts in my ability to contribute. All I can say is that I'm really grateful from the deepest recesses of my heart hahahah God bless each and every one of you. You're like my sisters

Thank you guys

So we had our new kind of multidisciplinary rounds where all members of the healthcare team are there today. Let me tell you that before this I was really doing good but today I felt really overwhelmed with my patient load and their acuity I didnt have a chance to browse through the notes too much. So when I get to the room I was expecting to be called last since I had the last rooms but they wanted my report right away. What can I say, I stammered. I'm so sad about this. I looked like an incompetent fool which I am not. But now I just feel horrible.. Thank you

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Since I've no one else to talk to. I essentially bear my own cross, of course I still believe with God's help. I've been thinking about the nursing profession I've gotten myself into. Looking back, I know that it was a conscious decision on my part still if you ask before and ask me now, will I want to be a nurse if I were or my family were financially stable? My honest answer would be, No. I love the idea of helping people but I believe there are other ways I can more effectively do that. Plans that would only come to life if I were in a better financial situation. And I am not, which is the main reason I stuck with nursing, because I am the breadwinner of my mom & dad & siblings. We wouldn't survive the bills and mortgage without my share. It wasn't always like this, we weren't affluent but we get by fine but my dad went bankrupt on a wrong business deal suddenly on my senior college year and suddenly the world rests on my shoulders. I have the biggest potential to earn good in the family. I grew up in two countries US and the other, I finished college in the latter. I didn't realize how hard it is to get a job going back here. And then there's the thing i am very young and i look young so when employers interview me, adding to my lack of experience is that I feel they are, even if they were not supposed to get biased because of my age. I do even if i don't want to understand them. It is hard to trust someone so young, sometimes if i can be vulnerable here, I feel terribly afraid of the real world, nurses has an incredible amount of responsibility, and most of them are a lot older than i am. I feel like I would crumble from the expectation to a young, inexperienced nurse. and what i have been dreading to happen, happened when my first boss i actually felt has already made up her mind and terminated me without due reasons. i may be afraid but i made sure i learned everything, still i could not fight their decision no matter how unfair they blew my minor mistakes into a major proportion. That if it were a more mature looking or a nurse with an experience, they would just let it go. I know this, because I see it. I guess what i'm saying is that i'm having a very hard time picking up the courage to work as a young, inxperienced nurse, knowing i will smothered in the work environment, and some bosses will treat me unfairly. I need a livelihood it's been a couple of weeks, no return calls whatsoever from the places I applied. I am scared and overwhelmed by the change I need to do with myself and with the education gap I have to fill. I would like to get certifications but I need money. I was a CNA, can I still do it even though I'm an RN i do not want to but no one would hire me and the bills won't wait. Please Lord, I thank you I am young but I feel so old with the responsibilities you've given me. I feel like losing my mind, and drifting farther from you for I do not know the right course of action. I have lost my belief in myself, I grew up in an occasionally emotionally abusive environment. And when I lost my job, it came back I am STUPID again but I can't give up on them, I know they are good people they are just broken like me by the problems. Still, it doesn't help that i get demeaning words 24/7 when I am very broken already, I could not muster my recovery as a result. I've thought of moving out temporarily but I dont have a job and if i do they'll only be broken more. what do you see of my situation? i am sorry i am not very clear. I guess i just want a release. and i want answers to questions i dont even know how to phrase. Thank you and God bless you all I do not wish you to be burden the way that I am, I hope when you read this, you wouldn't be bothered too much

You'll be okay, God bless you, your family and your dream :)

thank you so much guys for sharing me your insights, it gives me great comfort to have somebody to talk to since i feel so ashamed that i got terminated from my first job. and try as i may i could not see what i could have done more to keep it. having you guys make my burden less heavy.. thank you for all your prayers I'm trying to keep my faith during this very trying time... never have i imagined in all my daydreaming while in nursing school this would happen to me, first rn job and i got fired. i hope to make you understand that i promised myself i'll have a good work history and when they ambushed, it's like i've broken a vow and the life drained out of me.. i'm sorry i can't pick myself up too quickly.. thank you for your kind thoughts

Please help me. I worked as a CNA in this facility (my first job ever) for 8 months and then i acquired my RN license since they have no openings they referred me to their sister facility. The sister facility gave me only 13 days of orientation then suddenly i was caught dumbfounded they're letting me go, forcing me to sign a poor evaluation sheet. I shouldn't have signed it was so unfair. Now they told me they're not gonna prevent other facilities from hiring me and i could give them as a good reference. but i am unsure about this since i only have the word of the hr personnel. now i'm looking for a job it was my first rn job, the nurses orientating me told me i was doing a good job and the things i miss i will learn with time but i guess this facility just decided suddenly they're not willing to invest on me. they didn't offer me a chance to resign, they terminated me. i am afraid if i put it on the resume they're gonna say they terminated me and that i have a poor work history and they only gave me 13 days of orientation. so my problem is should i still put it in my work history. what i've been doing is i'm putting my CNA work history but i'm afraid also that if they call them they're gonna say i transferred to the sister facility and i didn't say anything like that in my resume meaning i lied. can they detect it in social security scans? oh my God i never thought this would happen to me i'm a new nurse not an incompetent one. This is so heavy it's like my whole life and dream just crumbled. It's been a week now my family needs my share for the bills, i need to find a job but the prospective seem so dire now with what happened. Please help me what should i do?

i love you guys!! so much! :hug:

I'm gonna start my first job experience, and I am very nervous. I'm afraid I'll look stupid. Well I know I know some things but having no experience before on my own leaves me wee bit too restless and palpitating. Thank you so much for everything.