I am looking for Danskos clogs, your size. I saw your problem on the internet. I have the same problem, too tight across the top of the shoe. My instep is very high, any pull on shoe, forget it, if its my size, the shoe will not pull on b/c of my arch. (Sound like you, very high instep?) Stretching will not help, and if you insist, your body will respond with a boney bump, top of your arch, the pain will keep on, but worsening. Right now I am a size 38 (should be 37) and I cut 2 slits, to the R & L of the upper part of the shoe, that runs over the arch. To make sure the leather doesn't tear where I cut, I puncture 2 holes, well back from the slit, each side of the slit, where the stitching is, and I tie this area with shoe strings, that I adjust. Now you can wear clogs like these, AND adjust the amount of room over your arch. Dansko does make clogs without this arch piece, lower cut and with a strap. Good luck. I did my cuts and tie myself (the shoes are $100!), but a shoe store will do it too. Forget the stretching, I think this a big waste of $, the shoe is not design for people with really high insteps.