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Its over and she is gone. I thought I would feel good about it but I don't. I just wished it never happened. I learned a really hard lesson though. Even if you are right, mgmt. is gonna look out for mgmt. and thats just how it is I guess. Ultimately, I had to really dig my heels in but I had to just stand up for what was right because I knew if it been me that had done this I would have been shown the door right away. Thanks for all your support and advice. It really helped. I plan to go back to school in August to widen my opportunities.

I understood especially as a male student in L&D that it wasn't personal when someone said i could't watch. Actually, there were a couple of husbands that didn't want me in there. I just wish that we as nurses could get similar respect like med students would get but I definitely didn't want to make any patients uncomfortable.

Thanks Leslie. I am awaiting the outcome and should hear by Monday but I will tell you that if I had to do it all over again, I think I would have just went to work somewhere else because now not only do I have a target on my back but the people who stepped up and told the truth do as well. I feel really bad about that.

I think I might just have to move on. I love being a nurse and I wont give up on that. I think the fact that I am from a big city and I am now in a small town might have played into this. I might have to move somewhere where more opportunities exsist. Thanks to everyone for listening. Although I have not posted much here, I have gotten a tremendous amount of information from reading other posts, espescially while in Nursing School.

And I can respect your opinion. I will admit that to think that a boss would do this is crazy but i will tell you that the meeting at 10 am this morning started by the administrator saying I investigated your complaint and found it to be true, but I think they will do nothing about it. When you report this kind of thing they try and make ity like its your fault. Luckily I just recieved a great evaluation from my floor supervisor and have a copy of it so they cant say I wasnt doing a good job.

Well, the big meeting is today and I just keep telling myself that I will stick to the truth and it will be ok. The administrator told me in a meeting on Tuesday that I am starting to aggravate him and that he knows how to do his job. He also said I should have brought a complaint against the 2 nurses that witnessed it for egging it on. He said they will be written up. he knows they are my friends co-workers so he is trying to lean on me to drop this. Wish me luck

Update. They called in one of the witnessess against her and pretty much intimidated her infront of the ADON. The one who came forward with the Media was told that it would be confidential and now the ADON knows that she told on her as well. They want all of us to have a meeting with her on Thursday. I cant believe that they would want a woman with such character flaws running their facility. All I want is a job where I can be free of retaliation but if this woman remains our boss, we all are done. Should I attend this meeting? I just dont understand what the purpose of this is. If they did the right thing I would forget about this. Thanks to everyone for the advice. I am off to work and I must say its going to be real uncomfortable. By the way, she admitted the allegations but said she was joking and that 2 other nurses had put her up to it. Nice excuse coming from the ADON, huh?

I need some advice. I am a male nurse that graduated in December. the first month or 2 I loved my job. Then the ADON began making comments of a sexual nature to 2 female nurses in front of me. At first I would just leave and try to find something else to do and catch up on my charting later. These comments escalated into her asking me questions about the size of my member and actually asked me to go into the bathroom and measure it and let her know how big it is. This behavior by her made me very uncomfortable and I let her know. She blocked the exit to the clean utility room once and just started saying very nasty stuff to me and also would try to embarass me in front of the 2 other female nurses. I would say that she got angry that after many episodes of this nature, I would not engage her with that type of discussion. This woman also sends Mediaography via her cell phone to several employees including some very young CNAs. Now this woman has pulled me off the hall I was working and given me the worst scheduling/assignments. I finally went to the DON and Adminisrator and lodged a complaint. The admin. and DON called in witnessess who told them it was true and then some. I called the Admin. today and he said that he hadn't spoke to the ADON but that I just needed to show up for work and I cut him off and said that I could no longer work under this woman as my boss. He sounded upset and asked "What do you want me to do, fire her?" I responded that it wasn't my place to answer that but that I think this is their chance to send a clear message that this kind of behavior wont be tolerated. I dont know what to do. If they want to keep her as my boss, should I go over his head? I live in a small town and feel I might have a hard time getting a job after this. I cant believe that they would want someone like this to run the facility. I am no prude but when it is your boss doing this you relly feel helpless. I know if it was me that treated one of my female CNAs this way I woul have been fired the same day. I worked hard in school and now I am wondering if my Nursing career might be ended prematurely. My question is, do I stand up for what is right or do I just give in? I know this woman will retaliate if she remains my boss. Thanks