Reading all of these posts has brought on some reflection on my part. The man I was living with during Nursing School wasn't very supportive at all. I admire those who made the decision to get out of their relationships, instead of sticking it out, even when it was obvious that it was time to leave, like I did. That was many years ago and looking back, I know he was threatened by what I was doing. I did find it interesting, though, that on the night of graduation, at the party we had, I found out that he was bragging how he had it made because of the money I would be making and all of the things he could buy for the house. The man I ended up marrying was supportive of my career, he never complained about my hours. And because I had worked at the same place for so long, I was able to take off a lot of time when he was dying of cancer. The man I am with now seemed to like my night shift hours better than he does my day shift hours, even though he expressed how glad he was when I found out I was going to days. He's more of a night person, although he doesn't admit to it. I truly believe it isn't the external forces that make or break a relationship (married or not), it's how we deal with life, our beliefs and value systems and how similar they are. And, more than that. I miss my husband, he was truly a wonderful man, and he was more interested in us than him.