Failed appeals on your record.

I must agree with you, the fact that she missed the exam and failed is her fault, no one elses. Sadly, there are people who are in my program who are the same as her and miss an exam or fail by a few points, and the school has no leniency and the students fail/retake the class. I would say if she's still into the field, take the semester over and pass. to be blunt, it was a poor choice to miss the exam, and maybe that should show she should retake the semester to learn a lesson.

As far as the note goes, thats a horrible idea. The motto "don't s*** where you eat" is the best way to sum it up. If she writes the note and gets back in, the professors will be out to get her for it, and if the note doesnt get her back in, she will probably not be allowed to return to the school. Not to mention, transfering probably would be an issue since most nursing schools are in contact with each other, and that would blacklist her from the nursing programs that talk. Maybe the note would work, and i hope it works for her. But if she has an out for the DON, she has to be prepared if things don't go her way because they can become severe for her.

And an army of people with her means nothing,, since i would guess 95% of them wouldnt speak out or say anything.

She can't take the class over right now. This is the second class she has failed so if the letter doesnt work, she has to wait a year to go back per school policy. I was afraid this was something that could follow her.

I must agree with you, the fact that she missed the exam and failed is her fault, no one elses. Sadly, there are people who are in my program who are the same as her and miss an exam or fail by a few points, and the school has no leniency and the students fail/retake the class. I would say if she's still into the field, take the semester over and pass. to be blunt, it was a poor choice to miss the exam, and maybe that should show she should retake the semester to learn a lesson.

As far as the note goes, thats a horrible idea. The motto "don't s*** where you eat" is the best way to sum it up. If she writes the note and gets back in, the professors will be out to get her for it, and if the note doesnt get her back in, she will probably not be allowed to return to the school. Not to mention, transfering probably would be an issue since most nursing schools are in contact with each other, and that would blacklist her from the nursing programs that talk. Maybe the note would work, and i hope it works for her. But if she has an out for the DON, she has to be prepared if things don't go her way because they can become severe for her.

And an army of people with her means nothing,, since i would guess 95% of them wouldnt speak out or say anything.

She skipped an exam, is now failing her second class, blames the instructors for not serving as her tutor, and plans to throw someone "under the bus" in retaliation for her own errors? A wise person would learn from past mistakes and take responsibility to change. Nursing is a small world, and this type of behavior will get around. Her instructors today likely work in local facilities and have contacts there. Beyond the immediate issue of staying in the program, who on earth wants someone with no sense of personal accountability as their nurse or their future colleague? I know I don't, and would never give this student a reference. I've written plenty of references for students who failed and took accountability then returned to succeed. I would never write a reference to condone the type of behavior you've described. This is not just a matter of forcing someone to let her back in, but of self-respect. I hope once her grief over her own mistakes is less fresh that she will realize this. If she wants back in, her best shot is calm acceptance of mistakes and determination to change, not bullying others. Many schools don't accept transfer students who fail multiple courses, and ours requires a note of reference from any prior program.

The fact that you mention she has been crying all week shows the extent of her upset. Perhaps try to just encourage her to grieve the loss & vent, without making any rash decisions that she is likely to regret?

She should probably find a different career. If you fail 2 classes and dont bother showing up then nursing isnt for her. She needs to be an adult and grow up. Start taking responsibility for her own actions. They tell you at the start of nursing school attendance is very important. Im sorry I have no sympathy for her. I believe like the others do that writing that letter will only not do anything for her AND she will not be allowed back in possibly if she tried to go that route.

You know what, if you insert yourself in this situation in any way-- including talking to her about it, advising her, and helping her do whatever she is gonna do-- you will be on her list of people who are partly responsible for her failure. You will hear back that she has heaped some blame on you.

It's nonsense, of course; of course it's completely her fault. But from this instant onward I would limit myself to saying no more than general, "There, there" noises. No solutions, no judgments, no "That sounds good," no nothing. Back slowly away from this. It is not your problem. It is not your business. Don't let her make it so.