Whispjes55

To all, I thank you all for your responses. Gave me a lot to think about and I agree, I most likely will let it go. It does take 2 for this behavior to start and continue and I must just move forward with my life and leave this baggage in the past. Thank you all for your time and best wishes!!

Hi, as you can see from the topic heading I am trying to decide what I should do. Yes, my husband started an affair with his case manager while he was under her care this past January. This has led to our divorce. Now, just a little info so you can help me to decide if I should report her to the state. No, we did not have a good marriage (30years) but I felt we were actually doing better this past year. The affair started this past January -- phone calls on my bill after hours, late into night, and he got a parking ticket by her house. He injured himself at work and was assigned this case manager to guide him through his rehab and return to work. I did not report this immediately because I was angry and did not want to do anything out of anger. I have truly forgiven him for this and feel the divorce is best for us. I realize you cannot turn someone's head that is not already looking. The issue I have is this: as nurses we have a code of Ethics we should follow. I feel she should have waited until he was no longer her patient then whatever happens, happens. I truly do not want her to lose her job, but I am angry and feel betrayed that a fellow RN would do this. What if they break up?? If I do not report her have I given her permission to prey on the next patient....married or not? I'm leaning more towards not reporting this because I do not know the repercussions to her (termination, etc) but of course my co-workers who are so supportive all want me to report this for the breach of ethics. I am asking you all out there who do not know me for unbiased opinions. I do appreciate your time....I tried to find this topic elsewhere before posting so please forgive me if it is here somewhere!! Thank you!!