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He still lies and says it's easy.

Boy am I glad I waited a few years before we got married.... Dating someone for years, you can still be blindsided by the real them.

Never said I was abused.

I never said I was being abused, the people who commented said it sounded like abuse. Read my post I never said I was abused.

For the record we do not have money problems!!! He makes more than enough to support us.

Like someone else said before. You don't know what I've asked of him. So you can keep your "wows" and snarky comments. You have no advice, so why comment? To try and make me feel bad for having more kids with him? Things aren't black and white dear.

Who said I don't want to stay home with my children? I want to homeschool but my husband won't allow it, I want to stay at home until the baby goes to school but he wants more income so we can have my income as disposable income. I'm not popping out babies just because. I had our children because we wanted them. They are not an inconvenience. My plan is to have two incomes but he doesn't want me to do what I need to do so that it's not minimum wage. The fact that you ask can I stop having children long enough is pure ignorance.

He isn't supporting me financially through school.

Thank you

I have no intention of leaving, I said if. If I left it wouldn't be because he isn't supportive.

What makes you think he was this way when we met, dated, or got married? Not every women who has problems with their spouse picked him lightly. Don't generalize, every situation is different.

I fail to see how having 3 children in 6 years of marriage is unstable?

Thanks for your advice guys.

Well I value my marriage and my vows for one so there's that, but you don't leave somebody just because they don't support you in something. He may be having a hard time adjusting to the fact that I'm going to be independent of him or it may be something else. Whatever the case is, if I decide to leave, I won't be leaving until I can take care of my children financially without him. Which means I will be finishing nursing school, I've been in school before and without his support so I'll be fine. His support doesn't make or break me. I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced an unsupportive spouse, apparently I'm the only one.

We have sat down and talked, he was fine with me going to school, we have done counseling, like I said none of this was sprung on him. This has been in the works since 2013.

Done counseling, he's been trying to force me to work since I had our first child, I got a job selling cars and he quickly started complaining about how I wasn't home to cook or take care of the kids because I was working 10-12 hours a day. Every time I've gotten a job I've quit because of his complaining. He wants the money from me working, he just doesn't want me to work the actual hours because I won't be home to cook him dinner or watch the kids. Lol it's not because our kids are young, it's because he's selfish. He knew I wanted to go to school and we agreed I would be a stay at home mom, none of this was sprung on him.

But it could also be I'm not at his disposal to watch the kids so he can't do as he pleases or go wherever whenever anymore.

Children are 4 she starts elementary school in August, then there is 2 1/2 and 8 months. He works during the day so I'm home with them and I go to school at night. I truly think it's because he thinks when I am making my own money that I will leave him. I've been dependent on him financially for 5 years since I was a stay at home mom for most of our marriage.

Anyone starting or in Nursing School and their spouse isn't supportive? My husband is trying to ruin me going to school from ever angle. Anyone else dealt with or dealing with this? He makes it nearly impossible for me to go to class without an argument and we have 3 children so he always uses them as an excuse.