passive sambo

Of the five nursing homes I have worked at four of them had favoritism that fall into three categories; the kiss ass, birds of a feather and based on merit. The favoritism that the greatest impact was the kiss ass I encountered when I just got my certification. The kiss ass was always at the station with the nurse. She was 20 like me did not do much of anything after getting her group up besides bonding with her nurse and usually being somewhere else when her patients needed something. I was the one that answered her call lights and did care on her patient's. At first I did not care too much because I wanted to prove myself and developed positive relationships with her residents, I even accepted that her 15 minute breaks ran closer to 1/2 an hour. After a while things got worse as she developed a habit of going in my rooms and reported me if my beds were not made by about 11 am or if one of my patients had a wet diaper. I would be walking out of one of her rooms because she was too busy looking for things to report to the nurse, and find the nurse ready to scold me. I did not know how to handle this. The first day I spoke up for myself I answered her one of her call lights and her patient needed to be changed because she had bm. I went to the station and told both this CNA and the nurse that Mrs who needed to be changed. About a half an hour later the same patient calls and asks who was gonna change her, not that long into this girls 15- 30 minute break. I could not tell the patient no, after roosting on a turd for that long. I tell her nurse and she shrugs it off. I began keeping a record of how long she took her breaks, how many times she reported me when I was busy with her patients and how many times I answered her call lights or how long she ignored them before I answered them. I turned it in before I moved to the pm shift. My last AM shift I worked, I did see her come out of the DSDs office bawling. Dont know what was said but she went home and qe had ro regroup.Yes that was that bad, and my lack of back bone did not help the cause. And the nurse? She did not do anything about it. That may seem extreme, but it was my fault too for letting it get so bad. My moral and enthusiasm for my job took a dive. I moved to another town and encountered two types of favoritism at another 1 star facility. The birds of a feather is when a supervisor and one or more CNA's of the same ethnicity, age or years of service together flock together. I am not going to identify there ethnicity or age, or else's this will become an argument about how I am over generalizing nursing home staff based race or age. After the resident's had their dinner and were lined up at the station the three of them would smoke, chain smoke. On east wing there were 70 beds,sometimea full sometimes not, but our little Vietnamese buddy, my self and my sister got to man the floor. This was back in the good days when merry walkers, lap buddies and tab alarms were widely used. We also has some wanderers and many patients that wanted to go to bed at the same time. Then there was an issue of infection control and a CNA that was alwaya MIA . I did not let it go on too long before asking to moved over to the west wing. The west wing was where they put their CNAs if they were not serious about keeping them. I had heard rumors of a nurse over there being so strict that CNA s walked off the floors because she constantly checked up on their work and hounded them. Her favorite cna was the CNA that could do it all. Vitals in within an hour, rooms tidy, waste baskets lined, residents up on time, call lights answered promptly and rounds done before she left. She always had a roll of bags in one pocket and barrier ointment in the other. Being the favorite of that Ukrainian nurse was earned by merit and did not award any privileges except that she would talk to you instead of at you, she also would use her CNA s as examples to other CNAs that did not perform so great. This nurse's favorite was not trusted by the others and could often been seen talking with that nurse by a patient's doorway. It took me almost a year of being followed around and hen pecked by that nurse before I was trained enough to earn the respect of her favorite CNA and not long after that I was a favorite, along with my sister. So I was in a click of nurse and her favorite's and became resented by my coworker's for being a pet. We brought and shared food and the other CNA s were left out. Then some things happened and I moved to another town and worked in the first nursing facility where nurses or supervisors did not play favorites with their CNAs. The place was so mismanaged that the cnas ran the building. I am not going to overgeneralize all CNAs, but a lot of them need to be supervised for good reasons. I left that place and got hired at a facility where I became the favorite of the most hated CNA I have ever encountered and got my lesson in speaking up for myself and not picking up the slack of my coworker's. This lead CNA was so picky that I felt like walking a few times. I got in her good graces and was put in charge of a team of CNA s that were unmotivated, sassy, rebellious, cut corners, did not practice infection control and were always behind. The turnover rate was high and that dump seemed to only hire new CNA s out of the training program. Out of the bunch I could identify four that I could trust to do the job well, only two that were fast and one that did it with enthusiasm and a smile on his face. Now i had a favorite. He was the only CNA that would work with me when I was on regular duty that did not have a bad attitude. But the company was on a never ending quest to increase profits and the demands i was expected to place on the staff became too unreasonable. By the time not having enough towels to do peri care on half the patients became a regular occurrence i decided that i had had enough.At that facility it was the team leader's job to supervise the CNA s. So I left and never want to be in charge of another CNA again. Unless they were just like my favorite CNA. These days if one of my coworker's is deliberately ignoring a call light I let them know rather than wait for a nurse to do it. If I feel like answering does not affect my work I will get it to interact with patients. If I notice a pattern of a light not being answered I will, regretfully admit, time how long it has been ignored and take the patient an old fashioned hand bell. I do not do another's work if I feel like they are putting it off for me, if they are busy, even with charting, I will answer lights because most of us are team oriented. The work load is so light it is embarrassing. And even one nurse's favorites on a shift I don't usually work, work with integrity, they can't help their nurse talks to everyone else under her rank in a condescending manner. Nobody takes her seriously when she opens her mouth, unless it is to give instructions, she can not seem to control or filter what and how it comes out. My experience with favoritism has come full circle. Double standards have been dished out by two nurses, I have been the favorite of one nurse and one supervisor and have shown favoritism for one of the people I have supervised. I have had my own favorite nurses and am sure I have done extra for them. I invite you to share your own experience of not being the favorite, being the favorite and having a favorite. What you may have interpreted from my post is that being favored had a negative impact on my job just like not being the favorite. If you still want to pick a beef don't read anymore of my posts in the future because I feel like ranting about how one of the profit driven nursing homes I worked for exploited its patients, tried to cover a scabies outbreak that left half its workers itching and allowed cdiff to spread to most of it's rehab patients before busting out the isolation gowns.

I feel that this thread is only atrracting nurses that are taking my story personally.. I have worked in 5 places and have encountered favoritism in 4. They relationships fall into three categories. If you are interested I will start a new thread when I have some time and describe those relationship's and how i was able to deal with them. I will use a more neutral tone so as not to confuse readers that I am angry.

Disclaimer: I invite people to share stories that are related to the topic of the thread. The situation I described above is one of many I have encountered in my past. I am not looking for advice on how to deal with nurses that play favorites and their CNAs that slack off. In the last decade I have developed some strategies. But that will be another thread, this one is just a place to for people to describe double standards they have put up with.

I am not really concerned with the bad manners some people show me, it is part of the job. Perhaps the tone of the post limited the reader's interpretation of why I am bothered to be personal. My other posts are independent of this one and describe situations I have encountered over time that I find humorous. If someone wishes to combine the posts in an attempt to uncover non existing motives that discredit arguments I never presented I will not take responsibility for time wasted. My threads do have titles based on the subjects I am interested in other's sharing and not intended to be inflammatory or shape opinions. This is about swapping stories and venting a bit in a healthy way. If it is fun for others to come on here and want to have a debate I encourage them to select a topic and start a new thread. And if you feel the need to overgeneralize and express my feelings or viewpoints for me, I will let you know that there are fun psychology web sites that are specifically for that and allows you to draw conclusions based on more than a few threads. Okay back to the post. I had legitimate concerns over a patient's well being. I witnessed more than one of my supervisors make a decision that would have prevented measures from being taken to address a condition that had gotten worse. I am not getting into all the details. I previously liked and got along with all but one of them. I am disappointed, they should have not had the discussion in front of me.

When I was standing by the bed holding the patient up with my mouth hung open, my nurses examined the patient's bottom after removing a huge sacrum dressing. and said it was a pressure ulcer. They agreed it would heal enough in one week to document it as something less serious. My wee CNA head cannot recall. I believe this was more directed at me. The whole dark skin discoloration was clearly irritated skin from the wet wipes and the open areas were skin tears, so I was to quit using anything but water and stop rubbing so hard when I wipe her. I was confused I because i was not allowed to remove the dressing and did not see the healing value of wiping the the outside of the bandage. Do that so it will hea betterl she tells me. I guess I might as well been standing there with a bag over my head. They are rude nurses to me. I wonder if they think I am not going to report them to management and file complaints with the board of registered nurses.

Are you a foster CNA of an orphaned resident?Do you enjoy caring for your residents more than you do avoiding them? It seems like far too many facilities have it's least favorite resident. They often have extra needs and require effort and maybe you get a few less breaks in the chart room. Often put off til very last the call for help from their rooms. It should have been answered in 3, we all do, but after 20 their caregiver has gone to extremes to avoid. As you go down the hall you she their caregiver toileting a patient that is not even theirs rather than help their own. You find a very stressed and shaky patient that wants to go to the bathroom. After you tell the CNA Mrs Taylor she had been calling for twenty five minutes, which is true and denied. Why did the nurses not say anything. It keeps happening and next the patient starts staring with desperate eyes at the station. Toileting has increased to twice and you are laying them down in the after noon. So talking with the patient begins and the irritation of being stuck doing starts to fade. Sometimes her cna thanks you, don't mention it, but always tell a you how hard the patient is and how many times they have put them on the toilet, right in front of the patient. Then you notice the calls are ignored in the morning after breakfast or if she is begging for help they blow right past her. I have never been able to just walk past and ignore some one begging for help. So I help.Talking turns into an everyday thing and now I am doing every thing but dressing her I'm the morning in addition to my own group. I did not understand why she got ignored or put off there was not a lack of time. And why such a hard patient? I suppose I could have reported to the nurse, but there would be no point, they know already. I adopted her about eight months ago and love taking care of her and she loves me to take care of her. I will never abandon my orphaned resident and she now has a sense of security because she knows I be there when she needs me. To this day her CNA s try to look busy when she needs help. Over time they have given me an attitude. Now taking her to the toilet when others back down is considered spoiling her. would love to hear stories about compassionate foster CNAs and how they came about a resident no one else would claim.

Any nursing home CNA should know this after year one. You cannot warm up to your charge nurse, you know the one that walks up and down the hall and yells your name? She already has a favorite often filthy or lazy, refuse to answer her call lights while she is charting or enjoying the down time after sloppily finishing her group.whenever they work your bitter ***** of a nurse can crack a smile. Not all nurses have a pet, but the ones that do let them so what ever they please. Yells at you for putting a clean glove on in the hall to pick up drop food but let's her filthy cna walk down the hall with a dirty diaper and a soiled chuck without a bag to the soils linen . he has brown stains on his gloves and touches the door handle. Or does rounds and gos from room to room with the same gloves. After his germ spreading is complete he will hide in a patients room and only creep out to answer lights. At least he does his work. Even if you feel iike a shower just watching him.the other one talks crass with the patients and is always telling them she is too busy. She joins you at the station and the room she just walked out of lights up. Time passes and she is looked at magazines from aroundnothing, cility. The nurse says nothing, you start getting nervous after 10 minutes and notice the lay one has disappeared, to get the light? Nope she would have answered it by now. The DON show up out of nowhere and the charge nurse wants you to get it. Mr smith wants to get ready for bed, sit on the toilet ( fall risk you have to watch,) brush his teeth and get in bed. You come back to the station and your lazy coworker tells you she is going on her break. That kind of stuff was normal part of my day . I wanted to hear other double standards. What did your charge nurse let her favorite CNA do or not do?