JinnyLynn

Wow... Reading back That WAS rude. What was I thinking? Geeez, I'm sorry. I honestly didn't mean for it to sound... Ummm... Like it did.

You are absolutely right!

Okay. So I initially wrote this post with my defenses up. Im bad about jumping the gun with my thoughts. However, I've always been good with other peoples advice and y'alls proved to be very valid! There are some things i never even considered, "disciplining my husband" "showing favoritism" "people thinking a professional disagreement was a marriage problem" WOW, I'm glad I asked. Okay so now that I have had time to think on it all, I have come to a conclusion. Him and I working together as staff nurses FAR outweighs having to change shifts or him looking for another Job and then (someone hit the nail on the head) blaming me later. Tomorrow I will gladly tell my boss to keep me as a staff nurse and find someone else to charge. It IS an issue having one spouse over the other even if I didn't "think" problems would Rise from us- I'm most certain now they eventually would. The last 4 years have been wonderful, NO problems what so ever. And patients love it when we tag team. I'm not willing to jeopardize the good thing we have now (work and home) , no matter how much money they offered. This little baby girl of ours deserves us home as much as possible. Thank you all SO much. (And the hubby agrees) initially he said he would do what ever I wanted.... But that's just what husbands are suppose to say. :) I'm glad I didn't make any rash decisions. Grandma always said to "sleep on every important decision".

The fact that they KNEW this though but pretended not to just so we could get through the last weeks, kind of... Urks me. I never thought one thing of it honestly... Policy is policy I understand. But, when the original charge stepped down I refused it and they begged me... So I buckled and gave in. I'm more upset that they knew it was wrong. I guess.

I understand the opinions. I can see how that would be an issue...However not in our case. I can defiantly see it happening with others. And what you do for one guy you must do for the other guy. Okay, I'll just tell my husband to transfer.

Well since you decided to throw in your own personal opinion... I guess the fact that him and I study together for certifications, keep each other up to date on the latest and greatest, and SAVE lives doesn't matter? Then we get to come home and kiss on our little girl, and spend the same days off with her as a family. Guess all that is NOT a good idea.

Okay, new to this site! Have a question! My husband and I have worked together as RNs in a local ER for the last 4 years (VERY well I might add). I recently got promoted (demoted) hehe to Charge Nurse. The one before me HATED IT AND WAS BURNED OUT. So she stepped down and DA DA DAAAA... I was deemed the one to do it. Okay, so at first I did NOT want it. It is a headache and not worth that extra dollar.... That's right, ONE dollar more an hour for charge. Well, i got over my own aversion for the position and started coming up with a plan to make it better for everyone, bring the morale back up, better our patient care. Anyhow, I find out today that, oh no.... Someone messed up and all of a sudden I can no longer charge because its a rule that one spouse can't be "over" the other spouse. Does anyone have any info on this? It's not in the BON. Apparently they have known about the situation but haven't said anything as there is no one else that wants to take on the position. I'm confused as to how I should feel and what I should do.