In Med Surg 1, I drove to drop my 5yr old daughter off for heart surgery, raced back to crush my final, and then raced back to wait for her to wake up (her dad & my brother stayed there). I didn't allow myself to dwell on the severity of that day until I was done with that final. That's putting school first. My friend's mom passed, and she pulled it together to pass the test 2 days after finding out, drove for funeral, and got back to pass the final. My mom gave up a year of her life to come out from 5 states away and help me with the kids (3 little ones) 2nd yr bc I'm a single mom now. Everyone in my house/family KNOWS school comes first, it's either that or this dream is over. Only the people that are that serious are left in my program. 90 people have failed out for various reasons, but generally bc school was not truly first. @ my school you get 1 class fail, wait 1 yr to come back, get 1 more try and then you can't come back if you fail again. Catholic comment was unnecessary and not pc. As women/nurtures, it is really hard to make that mental switch so you can be selfish for 2 yrs. My kids celebrate my victories and say "shouldn't you be studying" (even my 3 yr old) if they see me without a book. You're teaching them that reaching for your dreams is not an easy thing, but it will be worth it in the end. As for what might help :-) Maryanne Hogan big red NCLEX book (we lovingly call it the red bible), Mike Linares on YouTube, and Davis success series are what have helped me survive (7 wks left!!!).