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Demanding family life and strict work schedule do not work out well for me these days. I work for a large hospital chemo unit 12 hour shifts alternating days and night. Well... this change of day and night schedule has been occurring within two days making my body physically exhausted. I feel like a zombie most of the time. At work, we are always short staffed. People have been leaving my unit for many different reasons where there is not enough time to hire new rns. My relationship with husband and baby is on the rocks. My husband who gets to be in charge taking care of my baby most of the time feels alone. I do not blame him. So, soon summer time comes, I need to leave this job to focus on my family and redevelop my relationship. There are two options: 1. Find a new job 2. Full time graduate school I have already been accepted to graduate program. It is a general masters program. My goal initially was to bridge this to a phd program. Mind you, I have to pay some $$$ for this program. My husband is in favor of getting a new job where schedule is not as exhausting as my current one. I do not know what to do. I am at loss. I think I have already made my mind about leaving this job because I am planning for a long trip to see my parents in another state. But.. when I come back? graduate school vs. another job? if I want to get pregnant again, which one would be more desirable? Help me:(

I am a new nurse working on onco floor for 7 months now. I love patients, people I work 95 percent of the time great... but hey, nothing is perfect. Per hospital policies, in order to administer chemo, we are required to take chemo classes at the hospital. Three days ago, it was my third class out of four. The night before, I got a call from charge nurse saying that I am supposed to come in to work (apparently, scheduler put me on schedule even though I told her that I have a class, manager knows I have a class, I have an email proof that she is basically telling me that I do not need to come to work that day. This charge nurse pushed me into coming to work, told me that I should make up the class. So that night when I was not really supposed to go to work, I did 12 hour shifts. In the morning I explained my situation to the manager. She told me that I should not go to class after 12 hour busy shift. After her talking to professional advancement people, I cannot do make ups for these classes. Pretty much if I did not go to class that morning, I would take those 24 hour classes all over again, I said thanks but no thanks. I went to chemo class after 12 hour shift, at the end of the day, I did not sleep more than 30 hours. In the class, everybody was telling me, how bad they are feeling me. After so many people condescending, all of the sudden it hit me. I wonder how many of those nurses would have done this? maybe a few. I am working three days in a row on the weekend and considering calling of tomorrow. I emailed my scheduler and manager about maybe them giving me a day considering what they did. Of course, they did not answer. They are totally ignoring me. I guess I have to call tomorrow in person and call off. I find this whole situation not considerate and selfish.

I started this job in March of this year. I work as an oncology nurse in a very supportive unit. Our UD is amazing beyond words. However, she is very big on patient falls as she has to. She gets very upset when one of our patients fall. People who take care of such patients as a result feel very guilty and upset letting this great woman down. People gossip behind these nurses- how they were incompetent and how such fall was predictable. I never ever in million years thought my patient would fall during my care. Since I am new, I have unreasonable expectations about myself. I have this alert patient for four days now and every time he wanted to go to the bathroom, he would call me. But, this time he did not and guess what he had his scds on which he tripped over. He did not get hurt at all, he just slipped from his bed and got up and started to walk again. I was very confident in this patient that he would call me since he callled me 30 minutes prior to his fall and I helped him. Again it was surprising. and I just feel so down... When my UD gets to her office first thing on Monday will see my report. I am not going to be her lovely nurse anymore. Some of nurses will talk behind my back and by the time it is Friday, everybody will know and perhaps think it was my fault. I do not know what to do, I really would like to talk to somebody about this.

thank you for your kind words fellow nurses. I will apply to new jobs and see where life takes me. Happy holidays everyone

So true. I have been thinking about that because same question is asked by different people to the same nurse or same aide, and it is interesting how their tone and response change drastically.

20 something y/o brand new nurse here. Graduated from a good school with bsn, chose to get a job at a local nursing home. Since beginning of my job, struggled with lots of attitudes. Aides yell at me, refuse to help me. Co-workers blame me for their lives problems and s.. they don't do.. I love patients though.. that's why I am here writing to you all. Until today.. New admission, asked co-worker if she put the tf. (that's all) She started yelling again. On how it is not her responsibility and how she cleans after my "mess" all the time. After the report, I went to unit managers office. She came behind me, and continued yelling in front of my unit manager. People know me as smiling girl at this nursing home. Today, finally.. I cried. I do not know how to answer people from their level. I always try to answer rationally, but when cuss words are involved. I seriously do not know how to answer. Like do I have to go to their level? My unit manager advised me I am should more assertive and bossy. But, fellas, I am ready to leave this place. I want to smile again.