smclean27

Sir...I think its impossible for you to see my point because you are taking what I say personally. This is not about you. Let me attempt to use another example that's not so "sexist." A fellow classmate of mine was worried that I would get a job faster than her simply because I'm West Indian (from the Caribbean). I didn't get offended because there is truth to what she was implying. She wasn't saying that someone was going to hand me a job because of my nationality, she was implying that because hospitals desire diversity on their floors, it is more likely for them to hire someone of another nationality. Its the same thing with males. How many males are on your floor? Take a walk on other hospital floors and see how many males you can count on one hand. I'm not saying that your awesomness didn't land you your job, I'm saying that hospitals want diversity. They want more men. They NEED more men. Diveristy is something that we also learned in school. It is a FACT...not an attack on your personal experience. The chances of a man getting hired faster than a woman is something that is very obvious because of the need. Now is it fair to just hire someone because they are a man or because of their nationality? No. Because not all men are fit for the job. Get it now? Because that was my final attempt to explain myself. Change your lens and relax a bit.

Thank you for recognizing the point of the post. Although I am frustrated I wasn't aware of certain things, the point was so that someone out there would read it and learn from my mistakes. That's how reality works - either someone tells you or you learn the hard way. People keep saying I didn't do research. You can research all you want on how to be a parent, but some things just come through good old fashion advice or trial and error. I love nursing. And as frustrated as I am, I know this is something that will make me stronger or more compassionate. Sometimes it gets worse before it gets better. I'm not going to give up!

Thank you..

Gotchya...thanks for the constructive criticism...however, I wasn't blaming anyone. Sometimes when you're young, silly and stepping out on faith, you make bad choices...life smacks ya in the face unexpectedly...it happens...I vented about it and now I'm moving on. Do I wish I had more guidance? Nothing is wrong with that. Where I'm from, that's what people do. They guide the young. However I didn't have that and I'm not angry no one told me, I'm simply angry for not knowing. Also seeing my male classmates get a job even before they have a license while the females who did do externships and graduated with honors struggle, do make me wonder a bit...just a wee bit. Don't take my post personally if you are a male. The truth stinks sometimes. Sorry if you are frustrated with new grads' frustration and their irresponsibility of not knowing everything when they stepped out to pursue their career. Your attitude shows that you have absolutely no clue what its like to have a hope shut down or doors shut in your face...hence the self-righteousness. You don't understand. I get it. Anyway..hopefully someone thinking about going to nursing school reads this post and make a better decision than I did.

HAHAHA got it. I'm hanging in there

All the suggestions on here are actually really good. They are things I haven't thought about and will look into:) PS...I'm not a US citizen so I can't join the military (tried that lol)...looked into Dialysis and they want experience as well. But everything you all suggested sounds good. Thanks again...and sorry for the bad attitude...really:-)

Thank you so much...more than willing to move! Yes. Def going to focus on passing the NCLEX as well as seeking out some volunteer opportunities in schools or maybe clinics. Good suggestion...I'll def try this... Maybe I should have put a disclaimer before the post. This post was just me venting my frustration. I am in no way going to go on any interview and say any of these things lol. Silly rabbits:-)

Oh trust me love...I did do the research. What I found was that there is a nursing shortage. I guess I apologize for being frustrated? I'm pretty much open to working in nursing homes as well as moving miles away from my family...how might you suggest I change my attitude? What kind of attitude should I have? All I'm saying is that I wish I had a little more guidance concerning my choices. I even came on here under an other name to seek guidance before I enrolled. I was open to any and all suggestions...Also, if you read my entire post you would see that I did apply for tech positions and I'm still doing so. I'm not giving up...but I am at a point where I do feel slightly frustrated and discouraged...or am I not allowed to feel that way?

I'm not saying that I won't want them to take care of my family members because of their gender...I'm saying due to what I know about some of them personally...character wise...I'll be uncomfortable. Males getting hired for positions such as the ER right out of nursing school isn't a coincidence. I understand the need, but it is unfair to hire someone based solely on their gender. That's all I'm saying...no prejudice here :-)

...It would be THIS difficult to find a nursing position. My story.. I decided to pursue nursing about 5 years ago when I felt a great tug on my heart that this is the field where I belong. I'm pretty sure its what I was born to do...I feel it in my bones. So I did something "courageous" or stupid rather - I quit my fairly good job with the city to attend nursing school. Ok backing up a bit. At the time I was shopping around for schools, there were great debates about ASN vs BSN and top (name brand) schools vs regular not-so-name-brand schools. So in my pride and my ignorance, I decided that I wanted to go to a reputable institution. One whose name is recognized throughout the country, thinking that this would give me some kind of advantage. WRONG. So upon acceptance, they recommended that the students should not work during the program. I worked during my first semester because I needed to eat and pay my rent...had no choice. I struggled. So during my second semester and beyond, I didn't work which mean't taking out extra loan money in order to survive. I graduated! Hallelujah! But nobody told me that: - the fact that I did not have an externship during school was going to tremendously hurt me and make me undesirable to employers - male nurses were favored over female nurses (the male students in my class had jobs BEFORE they graduated. I know some of them through school, and I must say that I will not feel comfortable letting them take care of my family members. So the fact that they get hired faster simply because they are male, something is wrong with that picture) - I would have $100k in student debt - for a Bachelor's degree that means nothing if you have NO EXPERIENCE. - I would possibly have to move to another state - leaving my life behind - in order to get experience - The name brand school means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING and does more harm $$$ than good. - There is abolutely NO nursing shortage in my city. If there is, its not that serious or detrimental since the competition for nursing positions are pretty fierce. - I would be paying $1038.00 per month for 10 years in student debt (unless I find a job that's willing to pay for a portion of it) To add insult to injury, I failed the NCLEX for the first time (after doing fairly well in school) due to the stress of being unemployed and having every other door shut in my face. I'm now preparing to take classes to take it a second time...it can't get any worse than this. I don't mean to sound whiny or bitter, but I should have taken the "cheap" route and go for my ASN then work on my BSN while working. However, they're cutting back on the ASN programs in my city (Philadelphia) for several reasons, but this is causing nursing education to be a lot more expensive (that was sort of a side note). I'm not sure what to do at this point. I'm unemployed and it is such a dark place to be in. I'm either over qualified or under qualified for jobs. I'm looking for Tech positions while studying for the NCLEX but I'm even having a hard time with that because of "no experience." Its absolutely ridiculous. Any suggestion will be greatly appreciated. Yes I've already considered moving to another state as hard as that will be for me...I'm prepared to make that sacrifice. But boy oh boy...a huge part of me regret the last 4 years of my life when it comes to my choices with my education...so whoever's out there reading this, learn from my mistakes.