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That really was all the details. I was just put in a spot that I had to prove I did not start this whole mess. This guy was crafty and knew that if I did not succumb to his demands, he could go to the state and tell them whatever.

These are the facts. My attorney (who I believe is competent) tells me that this is not uncommon. We in the nursing field do not have a surefire way of preventing this type of behavior. Unfortunately, as I found out, the State BON is not out to support you but to make sure the "public" is being looked after. I was expected, since this was not a court of law, to PROVE that I did not do anything to cause this to happen. Even going to a court of law, judges generally side with the BON as they are looked at as the "experts". I have lost so much sleep (and money) over all of this. All I ever wanted to do was take care of the underpriveldged underserved community.

I have been a RN for 13 years. I went back to school to become a FNP. While doing my clinicals, a male patient noted my name and started calling me at my full time job. I have never been hit on by a male patient before so I was confused and quite offended that as a male, another male liked me. For 5 months or so this went on. I would tell him NO that I was not interested in him. He ended up getting my cell number and texting me dirty pictures. I did not know what to do. I could not really even admit he had been in my clinic months before as my patient. When he finally realized I was not going to have anything to do with him, he went to the AZ BON. They determined I had been involved in a dual relationship with this guy (I only ever encountered him one time and that was at the clinic). It was determined that me as the professional should have stopped the communication (yes I did text back telling him to stop it) and that I was guilty. I had a choice of them revoking my RN or voluntarily giving it up for 3 years. I opted for the 3 years NEVER understanding that it would have far reaching effects on me in EVERY STATE I applied to. Every state has a program for ETOH abuse, drug abuse, stealing drugs, etc but in my case, I never saw the man outside the clinic, I never "touched" him (other than listen to lungs, heartones, feel thyroid gland, etc) yet I am washed up in nursing. There is not even a NP school out there that will consider me! I have spent 5000 in attorney fees already. I have no RN, no job, no school. I do not remember anything like this EVER being taught in nursing school on how to handle these situations! I am a good nurse! I did not deserve this! I am totally lost as to what to do next.