thelyonqueen

Thanks I feel like I am being used and i dont like to rely on people evven though that is what a marriage is SUPPOSED to be. I will really think about the advice. However, in order to leave my husband I need a job. In order to have a job I would have to leave nursing school. So how would that help anyhting?

Thanks I will really think about part time.

Its okay to be nervous i am too most of the time espicailly with math but I am also kinda a cmpetitive person and I refuse to let things or people get the best of me when it comes to testing my smarts. i go into psyche myself out mode where i tell myself I OWN this test...everything I see on it is NOT a surprise. If it is somehting I dont know; I talk to myself and make an educated guess. I tell myself I will study with percision; not all over the map with unnecessary information (overstudying) and to be calm; use a stress ball suck mints chew gum. spray perfume on your wrist and smell it to calm down but do what you have to do to be emotionally in control. It s only a piece of paper with words on it...it cant hurt you. Tell yourself you will accept nothing lwer than a 90. If you can get an 85 then you can get a 95. If you can get a 70 then you can focus a little harder and get an 85. Its all a mind game. The patients and the teachers will try the same thing with clinicals if you let it get the best of you. Relax. Take a day of fun for yourself once a week. Talk to a counselor if you can get a chance or find a mentor in your area if you feel that you are way out of control. All things bad, will pass. Chin up...we are all rooting for you!!

I have been an orphan since 12. I stayed child free until I got married. the first marraige ended horribly because of domestic abuse; he took my kids by making the courts think I was crazy but another story. My second husband has no ambition to do better in life. His family disowns him and has never helped with the upbringing of our kids; i am always exhausted. about two years ago, even though i am 40 and premenopausal, i went back to the miltary to get our lives back together. we were supposed to be stationed overseas for three years when six months into the tour, i got kicked out. they claim it was budget cuts but i feel it was because of my age, failing health, and race. none the less my family slept in the airport of lax overnight until we could make our way to arizona. i had accepted a job there and it took every penny we had to get the home we had with bad credit but the day i was supposed to start, it gave me the axe (budget restaints). so i have been unemployed since 2010, hate stuggling to pay for my home, hate my husbands job (he is gone all of the time yet never makes enough money to make ends meet), and i decided to go to college ft to be a nurse. it has been soooo hard; my car brroke down and i cant even get to school or take my kids to daycare or anything. i really want out of the realtionship but i have no job no savings nothing. so i wanted to try to stick it out graduate with my rn and leave with stabilty (and all of the loans I am terrified to keep taking out). however about a week ago got a call from not one but two hospitals that wanted me to work as a clerk (admin) full time and ireally want to stop school to work. i rationed in my mind that i could continue online and if my marriage completely fell apart i could somewhat take care of myself. my classmated feel that i should stick it out but it seems so hard i want to disappear. i have no help at home my husband doesnt support me all he complains about is money and the fact that i dont have a job but i could never get a job until now. what shoud i do? please help me. i am really scared and confused.