bronxRN

just wanted to let all who gave me advice and support that i was contacted by the division of child day care licensing. seems i wasn't the only one complaining about her. some of the new kids in her care were hit allegedly, and the mothers asked "K" about it. of course, she freaked out like she did with me. the lady that called to talk to me about my complaint had also personally met and interviewed "K". that's when "K" knew she was in trouble, cause all the paperwork had to get handed over so she could call all current and recent former clients of hers. as of today, i was told that her license is permanently revoked for child abuse, but she is still being investigated for more charges to be brought against her. i am so glad i trusted my instincts and got my children out of there before they really got hurt! so thanks everyone for listening and giving me great advice!

thanks everyone for your advice. believe me, i have thought of all the things mentioned in the replies. time after time, i just feel like there is more than meets the eye in regards to the provider. i don't know if i would call this incident "abuse", but i sure did make a complaint to the state (she is licensed). i also have never brought my children back there, i enrolled them in a center. which is great for my 4 year old daughter as she can't start kindergarten until next year. (she missed cutoff date by a few days to start this year). i don't like the fact that my kids have to be separated, but everyone i know has told me how much better they will do if they have time with other kids. i will just be glad when my health is in a better state, and i am done with school (again). i sure do miss being with my kids. good night everyone!

hi everyone~ i am a regular lurker and a sometimes poster here, but i choose to post this under another account. i am a single mom, and work and go to school full-time, hence i need child care for my two preschoolers. i started with a in-home daycare as my kids could be together, and at first i liked the teacher/provider. but over the course of about 8 months, more and more things started to bother me. "K" as i will call her, became more and more distant to my kids at dropoff, keeping me for half hour at a time at dropoff to discuss (what i see) trivial things, such as my daughters non interest in fruit, or her late toilet training, or my son's speech delay. when i suffered from some herniated discs and was getting epidural injections, i became so sick that it induced a lupus flare. i looked, and felt, like hell. out of friendly conversation, i mentioned that i had lupus. after that she began telling me about "someone she knows" who has lupus also, and how the doctors are all evil people who try to kill people with medicine, and don't know what they are doing, ad nauseum. i cut it off rather abruptly, and began seeking alternate care for my kids. there are many things that bothered me, but i won't bore everyone to death here. the last straw was one morning, i dropped them off, and without a word, she swung open the door to her house to let us in. my son was carrying a keychain that he adores carrying with him in the car when we drive (which she doesn't allow at her house while he's there, that's fine, i usually take it away when i go). the first thing she does is gasps, rolls her eyes at me, and proceeds to yank his little 3 year old body into a sitting position on the floor, yelling at him that he can't have it, and then scolding me for allowing him to have such an inappropriate toy. my son was in tears as she proceeded to try to yank of his jacket. i stopped her, wanting to do some awful things, but calmly told her to take her hands off my son, and then i told her to gather my things that were at her house and informed her they would not be returning. she quickly began apologizing, and tried for ten minutes to convince me to let them stay, then tried to get me to sign a form of hers that said i was happy with her care. i got my kids and my things out of there, with my son still sobbing. i have asked several colleagues and friends if they consider this abuse, and if it should be reported. what do you think? am i just over-reacting? or did "K" over-step her bounds? thanks to anyone who has read this far, and for any advice anyone can offer.

hello everyone~ i am brand new here, and am seeking advice about a situation at work. i will be probably resigning anyway, but still will be making my voice heard before i go. i am a rn originally from the philippines, was brought here under contract from my current employer, and stayed on staff there one year past my contract. i am still learning a lot of how things work here in the us, and in my own facility as well. ok, my problem is this. my unit manager recently got a nurse falsely transferred from our unit because of a "med error" that was fabricated.and now i am her target. yesterday, a resident (i work LTC) complained that she didn't get a shower. she is occasionally confused, but of course, needs her complaints investigated. i approached her about it, and she stated the aide did not wash her, just splashed water on her legs. i ended up giving the aide a re-education slip, and referred it to our inservice director (she is brand new). today, i was brought in to my unit manager's office, and basically told me (with a fellow nurse present) that she didn't believe me, and believed the aide "because the resident is confused and doesn't know anything" (not true!!!). that is my biggest problem. i no longer want to work on her unit if i have zero credibility! my second gripe is that last night, i also had a resident fall and break her humeral neck. i stayed OT to transfer her out at the end of my shift, so the noc nurse didn't have to do it. today when i came in, the whole unit was gossiping about it at the desk. not only was i angry about my staff on afternoons being accused of neglecting their residents, i'm upset that everyone knew about it. the unit secretary said to me when i walked in "you're being investigated about so and so falling and breaking her arm, and so are all your aides". isn't that technically a hippa violation? i still am fuzzy on the rules here, we have nothing like that back home. so basically, i am filing a grievance before i resign. i am wondering if anyone could give me some hints on writing a letter to the administration, asking for a transfer to another unit while i wait out my notice. sorry for the extra long post, i really needed to vent. whew! what a week it's been