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Hi everyone! I really need advice on how to go about this issue I have at work. I am a CNA at a long term facility and recently have been working with a husband and wife who share the same room. The husband is alert and oriented as the wife has Alzheimer's dementia. The woman most of the time has no idea what she is saying and she is not all there. The husband tends to get frustrated and irritated with her because she doesn't respond correctly or doesn't follow directions with him so when he gets upset he hits her. First he starts to yell at her and then he'll smack her. I have heard him yell at her and be vulgar to her but i have not witnessed him actually hit her. I know he does hit her because other staff have seen him or heard him do this to her. He has been doing this to her for a long while. They have been at this facility for about 3 months or so i would say. Of course the administrator and higher ups know about it but all they have done it talk to him about it. There has been no actual action. The only thing the administrator has done is say "well if it happens again he will have to leave" but that it the thing! She has already talked to him about it 3 times! Because he keeps doing it and gets away with it. It is so disgusting that the administrator just wants the money. I hate to say it but it is true. The husband was a lawyer for a very long time and of course pays a lot of money to be at this place so i think that is why he gets away with everything. Is that right? Is it right for him to be there abusing his wife just because he pays a lot of money? I don't know what to do about this but it makes me feel very uncomfortable to work with him and knowing that he does this to his wife. The poor lady is defenseless and of course does not deserve to be treated this way. It really bothers me and i just want know what i can do to help. Thank you all for reading this and comments on this are very welcome.

Thank you all for replying and giving advice! :) I don't feel a lot better but I do feel a little better. I keep thinking that it's just a phase and it will all blow over but with the way things have been changing at my job and all the cutbacks they are doing I just don't see it getting a lot better. I mean I am very thankful that I have a job and that I am able to work but this type of work really is heavy and stressful. I just realized that I don't handle stress and under pressure very well. Once something really bothers me I can't let it go and I just let it bug me for a long time until I just say whatever I just have to deal with it. As far as people helping me when my lights were on, pshhh forget it! Very few times will someone volunteer to help me. Yeah people should be nice and work together but that's probably only in a perfect world. I know what kind of person I am and I know that I would for sure help anyone who needs it. Especially if I can tell that they are struggling. I know that I am a hard worker and a good CNA but lately it's just been to much for me.

I have currently been working at my job for 6 months so far and for the past few days I have just been feeling terrible about going to work. I don't look forward to going to work anymore. Before I didn't mind it but now it's different. Yesterday had to be probably the worst day for me so far. I work 2nd shift which is 2:30 - 11pm. Well yesterday was just crazy! I got a new resident, which wasn't a big deal to me until they told me that this resident's niece is a surveyer person who handles elderly abuse cases. As soon as everyone found out (because the supervisor advised everyone) we all were on our tip toes about it. That really put me under pressure because that was the last thing I wanted to hear, and the fact that she is my resident just made it worse for me. Now I feel like I have more pressure because this person is important and is going to be watching everything I do making sure I'm doing my job right especially because I am taking care of her aunt. So I am not to thrilled about dealing with that whenever I go to work. Anyways so this lady didn't come until 8:30 and I still had about 4 people who were not in bed yet and I still had to ask this new lady a whole bunch of questions and do her inventory stuff and on top of that I had 3 lights on while I was dealing with my new resident. It was just to much because I didn't leave her room until 9 0'clock and my residents who were still up all wanted to get ready for bed and I just felt terrible because one lady came out of her room and was soo upset that she had her light on for so long and she had to go to the bathroom and no one helped her. I felt so horrible that I had to make everyone wait and I just really felt like crying. I was behind on my charting and where I work we use Accunurse which really is annoying because Accunurse doesn't want to work half the time! I was just so annoyed. I had one lady who always wants to go to the bathroom right before I leave because she doesn't let me change her at all during my shift until maybe 10pm. I didn't get completely done with my new resident until 10:30 and on top of that I still had to change my last lady who has a broken leg and uses the EZ stand. Okay so I thought I had enough time to take my last person to the bathroom and get ready for bed. Well I was wrong. For some reason this lady with a BROKEN LEG thought she could transfer herself from her recliner to her wheelchair by herself! I told her no she could not do that and that I had to use the EZ stand for her because that's how she is suppose to transfer. But nooooo she was being very stubborn and refused to use the stand and insisted to transfer herself. (May I add that this lady is not very nice. She is the meanest resident I or anyone else has ever had to deal with. Everyone in the facility know she is very difficult to deal with.) By this time it was already 10:45. So finally I went to get someone to help me and then that cna went to get the nurse because this woman was very defiant about not getting on the stand. The nurse came in to talk to her and convinced her that we needed to use the stand. We got her ready and we took her to the bathroom. Now it was already 10:55. She took so long in the bathroom and was very rude and mean to us the whole time making comments about how we were not good cna's and other stuff. Finally we got done with her and by the time we left it was already 11:20! I honestly just felt like s***. When I got into my boyfriend's car when he picked me up i just started crying my eyes out and told him I felt so stressed and overworked. Today was my day off but now I have to go back and work 4 days in a row because this is my weekend to work and I just don't feel good about it at all. Please help me and give me any advice. I don't want to keep feeling like this. I don't dislike my job but sometimes I feel like it's just to much. I'm only 20 and I am like the youngest CNA at my job working full time. I hate feeling overworked and stressed. Sorry this is so long but I just really needed to vent Thank you for taking the time to read this!

Sounds just like what I'm going thru too! lol

Thank you all for the advice! :) I really appreciate it. With that said let me just say that yes at the moment I was very frustrated and I did not mean to sound like I have a grudge against the other CNA because she really is a nice person and I do get along with her. I know we all have our good days and our bad. I know which groups I can handle and I know which groups I can not. Obviously I cant handle the group that has mostly big men who are EZ Lifts and EZ stands for the fact that I do not have the strength to push the lifts towards the bed or the wheelchair chair. I do not mind asking for help but whenever I do ask for help I get this "Ugh! Is he ready then?!" And I'm just like no I need your help to get him ready because some of these guys are also stiff. Even the nurse I had today and yesterday was on my side when I said that group was hard for me and she agreed. She said "I know Honey, and you need muscles to work with that group and I understand" And she was upset that the supervisor wouldn't let me and another guy switch groups. Other women who had this tough group have either hurt their back or their hands and they asked the supervisor to not put them on that group anymore. I don't think I should be put in a situation where I am more likely to hurt myself or even worse something bad happen to a resident. Is it wrong that I am looking out for myself and the residents? I know that it is to early to complain but and I am not trying to make it seem like I demand the supervisor to give me what I want or anything. I am just trying to speak up for myself and stand up for myself. If something was to happen to me or a resident It wouldn't be like I didn't talk to her and tell her. If any of this starts trouble with the supervisor or anybody then oh well I can always look for another job. I know that I am a good CNA and I do care a lot for my residents and I am ALWAYS more than willing to help anyone who needs help. I never give anyone attitude. I am very patient with people and I have had people say "you are a good worker and you have a lot of patience! That's a very good thing". I love it when residents give me hugs and say "Thank you so much! I really appreciate you helping me" It really puts a smile on my face. Nothing makes me happier than helping people and that's just the kind of person I am.

I have been at my current job for about 6 weeks now. When I first started, another older woman also started at the same time as I did. We both got trained for 2 weeks and then we were both on our own. Well ever since then this woman has gotten assigned the easiest group on the floor (we're floaters and there's 5 groups on our floor) and I have gotten the chance to do all the groups. Well just recently she got her own permanent group which is group 1 which is the easiest group! Not just that but the supervisor also has given her opportunities to work downstairs on the first floor and also in AL. Which is not fair because she didn't even ask to get her own group they just gave it to her! That's the only group she's ever done! The supervisor has never given her the chance to do any of the other groups. She has never done a heavy group! I'm over here busting my *** while this woman wants everyone to feel sorry for her because her husband is in the service and she has 3 teens at home. Um hello you're not the only who has it tough other people have it worse. She is such a brown noser which is probably why the supervisor gives her better treatment ugh! ...Not just that but one of the groups is really hard to do because they're mostly men and they're mostly all lifts and stands. I'm a small girl and I am not strong enough to do this group especially because this group is pretty much 2 people assist and most of the time no one is kind enough to help me. From what I have heard a few women who have done this girl have ended up hurting themselves whether it's their back or their hands. I am only 19 years old I'm too young to lose my back! I had this group today and I also have this group tomorrow. Today before I left work I talked to the supervisor and asked her if she could switch me groups with another guy that is working on the same floor and said "No because one of the guys on group 5 requests to have a male CNA and also everybody should be able to do group 3 (the hard group)" It is so tough when I have to ask people to help me and they REALLY don't want to help me or they don't feel like it. Oh yeah and before I forget to mention..Today while I had the hard group that same CNA came into the room of one of the guys I was putting to bed and she says "Can you help me with So and So's shower because I just don't have the strength to give her a shower..I'm sick and don't feel good" The person she had to give a shower to is not hard to do AT ALL it is soo easy! And she knew I was having a hard time with my group and she has the nerve to ask me for help when she knew I was struggling myself. I mean I honestly have NO problem helping someone but is it fair that I'm working my butt off and this woman needed help with someones shower because she just "didn't feel good" AHHH!!! I love my job because I love helping people and I love making them feel better and I love caring for them but sometimes I just want to rip my hair out because some CNA's, nurses, Supervisors, etc just suck!! I mean I don't know..but am I wrong? Or am I the only one feeling like I'm not getting getting fair treatment? ADVICE PLEASE!

I am sooo glad I can relate to these issues and know I am NOT the only one who is annoyed with other CNAs, Nurses, and etc. I have only been a CNA for a few months now and I barely got a job at a LTC facility. I've been there for about a month. I'm a floater so I'm barely getting to know the residents and their routines. So anyways, last Friday I had a group I wasn't so familiar with and of course I was all over the place trying to get everyone satisfied with their needs but of course I only have 2 hands and I can't be everywhere at once. I was feeding a resident in her room and one of my other residents put her call light on because she had to go to the bathroom after dinner (I guess that is her routine but I didnt know!) So after I was feeding the resident the nurse comes up to me and says that the other resident had her call light on for like 30 minutes and next time I need to come and let her know that I'm busy and that she needs to wait. And also that I need to turn the call light off because it's makes us "look bad". I got sooo fired up! First of all if that nurse KNEW she had her call light on for so long why didnt SHE go in there and tell her I was busy and turned the light off if it makes us look SOO bad?! I'm pretty sure other CNA's and nurses walked by her room and saw her light on. WHY couldnt anyone help her?????? Or at least ask her to wait??? OR at least tell me?!?! ALL of those residents are OUR residents no matter what. If they are assigned to us or not CALL LIGHTS ARE EVERYONES RESPONSIBILITY! I asked the nurse "Did you walk pass her room and saw that she had her light on?" and she says "No"...SERIOUSLY?! what a LIE! My goodness some of the nurses and CNAs at my job annoy me! Especially the CNAs who just put their residents to bed in like an hour without giving them their showers and then they just sit at the nurses station chit chatting away and gossiping! UGH!

Thank you all for helping me out and replying to my post! This decision was a very hard for me but I decided to go with the nicer place because at the end I need to do what is best for myself and some people are right why do I want to work at a place where the staff most of the time seem to "not care" about consequences. I gave them my 2 weeks notice and I was offered to work there as a PRN if I wanted. I felt kind of bad because I know they dont really want me to go. For me it is more of an emotional attachment that made my decision hard because I love the residents there and I really do enjoy being around them and getting to know them. But I think that's how it will be for me anywhere I work haha :) Thank you guys again for your help!

Thank you guys very much for your support! :) I wish I could work at both places for right now but I cant since they are both full time and both jobs start around the same time. I work evening shift which is 2pm-10pm and at the new job it would be 2:30pm-11pm.

Well to start off, I just joined this website and I love it! It is very helpful for me so far. Unfortunately I have something I can't decide on Recently I got my first job as a CNA a month ago. I work at a nursing home and before that I was applying at any nursing home near by because I was trying to get whatever I could at the time. Well last week I got a call from another nursing home that I had applied at and they wanted to set up an interview. I wanted to keep my options open so I decided to go for it and I did. They ended up calling me the next day and offered me the job. I said yes because this place is a lot neater, nicer, bigger and seems more organized. Not only that but they offer better benefits and pay a little more. The only downside is it's a little farther than from the one I work at right now. The nursing home I work at right now is okay but they don't offer good benefits and also is unorganized and is kind of sloppy. The other CNA's seem to be a careless at times and it's just not very stable. I'm stuck because I'm scared of having to start all over at another place when I am barely getting used to the residents and getting to know them a lot more and getting better at knowing my way around the place. I'm even getting to know the people I work with better. I just can't decide if I should stay where I'm at now or If I should just go for this other job. Please help me I would very much appreciate your comments. Thank you :)