ladimandy

I have tried to talk to my grandma who is the POA and she says that she wants to respect my grandfathers wishes, she believes my grandfather is in his right mind which he is not. I really am just upset that the nurse kept the ring in the first place but I feel like i can do nothing My family is looking at me to do something since i am a nurse and I have worked at this facility but honestly i don't know what i can do, since i have tried calling the facility and they are telling me they cant do anything and the nurse in question will not answer or return my phone calls.

I Agree that some families do not come see their family members in LTC facilities and i also agree that residents can come close with staff that are there day in and day out the problem I have with this is that I do visit my greatgrandfather and I in fact until just the last week worked as a charge nurse on the unit my grandfather is in so I in fact did see him every day and I visit on day's off as well, that point aside, the issue i have is with the nurse who by the way has only worked with my grandfather for a few months, Keeping the ring in the first place i feel she should have good judgement enough to know better and she does know that my grandfather has dementia and he is by no means in his complete right mind EX: he at times refers to my grandma who is his daughter as his wife.

She is an LVN, I do not know what to do since I have talked to Administration at the facility and I am not the POA and my grandma says she is fine with it if that is what my grandfather wants. I am sooo frustrated I know that i would never accept anything from my pts. so i can not understand how this nurse would accept the ring even if my greatgrandfather and my grandma say its ok.

Okay this is a little complicated but i have a question. I was very upset to find out from my grandmother that my great grandfather has given his wedding ring to a nurse who works at the long term care facility he is in( my grandfather does have a dx of dementia) My grandma is the poa and she states that if that is what he wants then she can't do anything about it because he is in his right mind ( which although he can carry on long lucid conversations he does at times forget some things which is not my point anyway) what i am really upset about is that the nurse kept the ring in the first place and when i called the facility they told me that since my grandma who is the POA and my great grandfather are notupset about it there is nothing anyone else in our family can do and the nurse can keep the ring. I am soooo mad:mad: Is it ethical for this nurse to keep the ring