I'm experiencing most of what you're saying as just your judgements. If her job is nursing, then you have a duty to report her. If not, smoking pot is against the law, and you're an accomplice to it. If you really believe the children are being abused and neglected in a criminal nature, then you are an accomplice to that as well. That's all I think you need to weigh in on. Don't compare her to you, just decide what you want to be an accomplice to.