NavyNurseRN

I will not be debating with you, if you feel that some of my comments come across as immature for prospective military officer. You are entitled to your opinion, and I listen to all feedback, regardless of whether its positive or not. But since you feel that some of my comments come off as immature, then I'm certain that you must have understanding of maturity. At the same token, since maturity is required for all Military officers, I'm certain that your disposition when interacting with others must must be mature and not immature. That said, lets re-examine your old post: Are post like these an example of a mature military officer? I understand that you are taught leadership skills in the Military. To be a leader, one requires maturity. Unless I'm living in a different planet, mature leaders don't hold back who want to succeed, right? Mature leaders don't mock others right. If there is something wrong, they take corrective actions, but those corrective actions need not to include mocking right? I understand if you would look down on my situation. I'm not happy about it either. But to physically "mock" me? C'mon on. I asked if military officers would look down on my situation and I definitely got my answer, but "mocking" me takes it to another level - almost like act of cruelty. I sure hope that not all officers are judgmental, like you claim to be. Tunnel vision thinking is very scary. While I'm reflecting on this situation, I will definitely take the time and re-evaluate my choice of pursuing a military career. Before I sign the dotted line (if I do sign), I'll make certain that I'll know how to deal with leaders who think like yourself. Otherwise, I might just get "cursed" for signing the dotted line.

Let me clarify: I only intend to bring mom and grandpa *if* dad goes through this divorce AND throws them under the bus. For the majority of time I was going through the application process, I never thought of bringing mom and grandpa with me. But then again, I've only heard of the divorce talk recently. This divorce - if it goes through - is something I've never experienced before and bringing grandpa and mom with me is an option I need to consider if Pops decide to throw them and me under the bus. At this time, I'm not even certain if Pops has the b@## to throw them under the bus. But I need to consider ALL options. Thanks for your time.

I can see myself homesick especially over a pending divorce. But with or without divorce, military families experience homesickness anyway. Thank you for your well wishes.

I know I'm supposed to be laughing but I don't have the energy to laugh right how. I'm hurting inside. Sorry.

Thank you your your thoughts, I will try to live my life as I am getting older. Its just that when you think you lived in a perfect world and with perfect family, unique and traumatic events like this is just no fun and makes a seemingly easy decision turn into a hard one. I guess, I should find this event in my life as an opportunity to "Rise to the Challenge" and become a better person out of it.

I don't plan on making them my MIL "dependents". My grandpa used to be a MIL "dependent" and he was not allowed to work at that time so we terminated his "dependent" status (Grandpa wanted to work that time). To my future co-workers, will you (or can see other junior officers) look down on me if I do have my whole family live with me, in case my dad throws us under bus? I'm young and single with no kids! Re reasons to join the military: For the most part of my life, I've been a military brat and while it was not easy, the military has always been a "home" for me. I cannot really explain it - other than its "home". Joining the military, I feel I would coming back. Perhaps, I should talk to my dad to see if we can get rid of divorce talk nonsense. He is not realizing what he is about to lose. I hope he is just feeling very lonely, not seeing us for awhile, while he is on his unaccompanied tour.

Trauma, Any thoughts on my situation? Would you sign the dotted line if you were in my shoes?

I'm 24 years old. I'm a a new nurse - unemployed but I'm confident of my abilities to get a civilian job due to some connections. My mother works, but the problem is, we have a huge mortgage and my dad's salary is needed to maintain that. My grandfather does not work. He is not disabled but does not work. Nobody is on death's doors. Its just that- if my dad decides to throw us under the bus- my mother and grandpa will be in financial ruin. For the past 5 years, we have struggled financially (probably one of the reasons why Dad wants to divorce) but 2011 has been such a positive year for us (financially). If this divorce goes through, AND **if** father decides to throw us under the bus we WILL be in financial ruin, undoing all the gains we made in 2011. I just feel that if I stay home for a little bit and get a civilian job, it will be easier for mom and grandpa. I dont live near a naval base, by the way. Its so difficult, as I need to decide soon, if I become a final select whether to sign the dotted line.

She told me of similar thing. She told me to not worry about her and that we will survive even without dad's help.I just hope that, if my dad is having an affair with another woman during his 2 year long unaccompanied overseas, that he does not throw her under the bus too in the same way he did to my mother who was faithful to him for 25 years and who sacrificed her career due to the constant 3 year move. I just hope other military officers will not look down on me, if when I get to my first duty station, I will bring my mother and grandfather with me. I am single by the way. :crying2::crying2:

Is it best to drop this whole military thing, given my new situation? I can't believe I've come so far in the process only to have this situation fall upon me.

Hi tang 79Tango, I have been pro'red and I'm waiting for final selection which according to my recruiter should come soon. My mom can come on base as she is still military dependent to her soon to be ex-husband.

Hello Military Nurses, I'm deciding whether military nursing is still right for me or not. I hoping for your input. Right now, my family consisting of me, my mother and grandfather lives on one roof. My father is an enlisted man in Army so I the military is not something new to me. My father is presently away on an unaccompanied tour outside the country while we live here in California. Recently, my father has decided he wanted to divorce my financially poor mother, after 25 years of marriage. :crying2: While he has not gone through the formal procedures yet, I know it will come knocking down sooner or later. I need to able to support my mother and grandfather financially and to provide them with housing, in the event my father does this. My question is, if I become a brand new ensign 0-1 in the Nurse Corps, would it be okay to bring my family and have them live with me? Will it be looked down upon by my superiors? I really want to be in the military but at the same time, if it means that I cannot support my family, then it may seem like the military might not be for me. I will not throw my family under the bus to pursue my own dreams. I don't mind deploying to Afghanistan or Iraq but I need to be certain that my poor mother and grandmother have a place to stay and food on the table. Thank you for hearing me out. I will be required to make a decision soon. Please pray for me.

Thank you for your thoughts. No, I never took any HTN meds. But since according to the doctor's notes he diagnosed me with high blood pressure, I feel inclined to put in my MEPS form despite my view of what high blood means (e.g 140 mm Hg / 90 mm Hg). My blood pressure now is nowhere near what it was before. It's now usually less than 120/80 due to my regular exercise. I hope I can get my blood pressure checked at MEPS to prove my doctor wrong

I'm filling out my SF-86 and MEPS questionnaire re medical history. Several years ago, my doctor recommended that I take an SRRI (antidepressant) for my anxiety. I took the antidepressant for a short period of time -- under one month. I don't need it anymore and that was several years ago. Will that disqualify me from the military? Also, he noted that I have high blood pressure but I consider high blood to be anything over 140/90, and none of his records indicate that my blood pressure over that. Should I go by what he says and say "Yes" to High blood pressure question on the MEPS form? And since I plan to declare my taking of antidepressant in the MEPS form, I was wondering if I should do the same for the SF-86. (I promise this is not a silly question. SF-86 has the weird exception. Please read.) I was thinking of saying "NO" and supplement with explanation using SF86A. It was stress or "grief" related to work. Mental health counseling in and of itself is not a reason to revoke or deny a clearance. In the last 7 years, have you consulted with a health care professional regarding an emotional or mental health condition or were you hospitalized for such a condition? Answer "No" if the counseling was for any of the following reason and was not court-ordered: 1) strictly marital, family, grief not related to violence by you; or 2) strictly related to adjustments from service in a military combat environment.