Gregoryt9

As a male nurse(28y/o) in an ICU setting and a new grad (6 months young), You have to brush off any speculations/jokes that you may be gay. Just like a woman who would work to be a construction worker would get the same heat, it is true that there is a higher percentage of homosexual men in the nursing field. Shoot If I wasn't engaged to be married, the girls in my unit probably would think I was gay. I like to dress sharp, keep my hair sharp. I know how to braid a woman's hair. (we do it in the neuro icu so people don't get dreads while they are in semi-comatose states) I go to theatre, and i'm not talking movie theatre; And I have recieved heat for all of these things. If you know you're not gay then be confident in that, and make jokes with them. Sharpen your wit. i.e. the girl who made gas jokes about you when you made fart jokes- I would have said "Oh no girl, I know you've been busting ass and blaming it on the patients! What kind of funky business do you get into?" I would have said it loud too. :) But honestly, not all nursing is like that. I'm very fortunate to have a unit of VERY supportive and intelligent nurses. There's only one bad apple, and I just avoid communicating with her, and it works out. You should focus on your job, your tasks, and your patient needs. Everything else isn't important. Keep your eye on what's important to you. They way I figure it, for myself that is. If I am getting concerned about little petty things, then I don't have something bigger to be focused on and I need to find a new goal. Right now it's my Spanish speaking & CCRN license. Then my Neuro CCRN license. Then my MSN. Keep focus on what's important! Good Luck!

And they have the appropriate response too. No hospital knows you from any other Joe, and you're asking them to take a bet that you are going to pass BLS after letting it lapse? Hospitals shouldnt have to take wagers on whether you complete training.

Well from what you've posted, there seems to be a fundamental difference in personalities; and that's O.K. For some reason the preceptor doesn't feel comfortable communicating/working with you. If there is ever an issue between two people, it is best to address it through a superior who will arbitrate the situation. So you shouldn't get offended that you heard it from your professor first. People tend not to address issue directly at the person for several reasons. For example, they don't want to insult or offend the person, or create tension or hardship. You could have a quick sit-down with the person with the kind of "hey, we might not be the greatest partners, but if we communicate- we can get through this" kind of attitude. But as the previous poster said, at this point it looks best just to separate and start anew. Just view this as an opportunity to analyze yourself on how you can improve, and you'll come out of it better.