First, I want to thank you for being here to help other nurses...I don't know who you are, or what your qualifications are, but it's very nice of you to take this time to help other nurses. Many nurses seem so cutthroat...an odd characteristic considering the profession. I have been on this case for 1 1/2 weeks. I only work part time. The full time nurse has informed me that she has tried to convince the mom to give the medicine to the baby, but to no avail. I must say, that I just went along with this other nurse (but not the part about leaving the MAR blank) because I was new on the case. By the way, there is an index of abbreviations (outdated, no less) and one is "F" for family. That is what I have been writing down in the box. Also, there are no times given for the meds...just once a day, twice a day...no hours. I feel that by writing that, I am saying the ball is in the familys' court. They are assuming the responsibility for the task. I am not charting that they are giving it or not. I will do a better job at writing in my flow sheets that the parents refuse to allow the nurse to adm the medication and that I didn't witness the p0arents adm it. I agree that the doctor has to be informed, so she can chart this in her records as well. I also want to know in more detail why the mom feels the way she does about the medication (the dad doesn't express an opinion.) Maybe she is just misinformed or had a bad experience with medication before...ect. At any rate, I would still like to have a set of guidelines in front of me. I have gone to a HomeCare Educator/Clinical Nurse for a local hospital who suggested I contact look into the NJ State Licensure standards, CMS guidelines, and Nurse practice Act but she thought everything was based around guidelines to general hospital care. It's just that this situation (and many others) would not surface in a hospital... Anyway, I have contacted these agencies plus CHAP, JHCO, and NJ state Nurses Association, and am waiting for responses.